@Saltycroc

Is there any point to a talking stage?

I feel like constantly messaging a girl (who you're not even dating) over weeks/months wastes so much time and is so draining.

But how else do you go about dating/meeting women? It feels like the "talking stage" is a must but at the same time, mostly leads to nothing.

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

The problem isn't that these females are wasting your time, but that you don't seem to particularly value yours. Here's "How Girls Really Pick Guys Explained So Simply", courtesy of Richard Cooper.

@whytehorse2021

Suicides

Suicide #1. My nephew ended his life with my dad's .38 special service revolver. He was 24. Confirmed ONEITIS. Not on meds, using cannabis. He was 24. It was in the bathroom in the house I grew up in and my neice found him.

Suicide #2. My neighbor's cousin ended his life. Early 20s. Iraq veteran, special forces sniper. Wife and kids. Mormon.

Suicide # 3. A friend's cousin killed himself. Early 20s. Jehovah's witness. No other details.

Suicide # 4. A friends neighbor's kid killed himself. Former military, top shape, GI bill, everything going for him. No other details.

Big sigh... I have 2 sons age 16 and 10. Notice all these suicides are young men with their whole lives ahead of them?

Indeed. All of the dead you've mentioned are exclusively males, half with military backgrounds, and I wouldn't be surprised they all possessed military family associations. I'm aware that this delves into what are considered conspiracy theories, but this very strongly indicates targeted killing of men with specific psychologies.

@Red_dead

Whats the appropriate response to a busy text If one at all?

Went on two dates with this girl since the beginning she always responded like 3 days later to any of my texts didnt matter when I responded. Honestly it didnt even bother me because I would forget she existed until she responded again. But anyways first date drinks at a wine bar we kissed. She gave me some spheil unprovoked about how she sucks at texting whatever. planned another date, she responds day of proposing aleternative, she comes over I cook her dinner, we makeout and i take her shirt off, she gives me lmr, we continue and then more lmr and she leaves. Same shit this week she responds to me today saying she's getting dinner with a friend after I invited her over to watch a movie and she knows we made plans td(which is news to me tbh). Does this warrant a response or next?

we're both leaving the city in a month so I assumed she just wanted a hook up tbh.

@AbusiveFather1

Supplements to boost testosterone

Have you guys had any success with supplements that are supposed to boost testosterone, or do you think it’s bullshit and the only way to increase T levels beyond your current norm is through injections? I’m talking about stuff like Tongkat Ali, Zinc (beyond what we get from food), Lions mane, horny goat weed

You claimed to be a nursing student in a financially desperate situation a weeks back. If you're eating balanced meals, regularly getting around eight hours of sleep, and getting consistent daily physical exercise, your body should be more than healthy enough to ensure balanced hormone levels. If you're in a situation where you can't do any of that, no supplement would likely make any lasting impact other than diverting money from more important things while maybe slightly changing the color of your urine and feces for as long as you consumed it. Prioritize tackling those previously mentioned issues first then get back to us.

However, if you're otherwise determined to see this through at least educate yourself first. Hormone Balance for Dummies maybe a good starting point for you, as it can be found free on ebook sites like library genesis.

@HMbomt

I'm basically asexual and a girl I haven't had sex with is aggresively pushing for exclusivity

I think I've got a bit of an uncommon situation. I'm not interested in sex - though I've got a few fetishes, pussy tits ass don't do nothing for me. Even though I've been in a couple of ltrs and had a couple of ons, I'm technically still a virgin and practiced only non-penetrative sex.

About a year and a half ago I started texting and hanging out with a girl who was an acquaintance for a long time before that. Because she really is different than all the women I've ever talked with, extremely smart, educated, can talk to her for hours, we hit it off great from the start, and there was no indication of anything sexual or romantic happening between us until I made things official with another girl a couple of months later (lmao). She jumped on me one night and I cheated (I broke up with the mentioned girlfriend after that), and from then we've been hooking up regularly, with me avoiding penetrative sex by telling her that I cannot be in a relationship with her because of a reason I can't disclose (the reason being my sexuality), and that us having sex would unmistakably lead us to a point where we're practically in a ltr.

As time went on she's been falling more and more for me, and it's reaching levels which are threatening to ruin relationship - she called me last night and aggressively pushed for answers, asking if I'm seeing anyone else beside her, to which I answered no (probably fucked up, managed to dance around that question when it was being asked in the months prior) and she told me that the moment I touch another girl is the moment we go our separate ways. A month ago she told me she "doesn't want to know any details about what I do" and when I mentioned that, she told me things have now changed and how "we haven't agreed upon seeing other people". She had this bitchy attitude different to the usual "pleaseee don't ever leave me" persona she carries, probably influenced by her girl friends or those female version red-pill type validation clips I've seen her watch. I told her I'll be honest and inform her when it happens and hung up.

Now, I'd like to get us back to the point where me being with other girls does not imply us never talking again, either by establishing the frame present before that call, or even by us going back to being just friends, if either of those are possible. The initial instinct when considering the latter is probably revulsion to that idea, but keep in mind that I'm mostly asexual and mostly aromantic. I'd be satisfied never touching her again, especially if it means she can remain in my life, as she really has grown to be something like my best friend.

Keeping it on the safe side, I think what I can do is continue texting regularly until she comes back home from college, and when we meet up in person explaining how it's essential for saving our relationship that we stop hooking up, sprinkling in some comfort like how much I like and care for her but that we simply cannot be together. On the other hand, I'm not sure she will really have the guts to leave even if she finds out I do things with other girls but I don't know how or whether to test it. I know this situation is completely retarded and it's my fault I've ended up here in the first place but I'd really like any help. We're both 21

Stop being a retard and consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@Adventurequest

Opening mixed groups males and females

I went to a music festival this weekend and had a few situations where I could tell girls were interested one even told me to “come here” while watching me dance. But she and a few others were in mixed groups with guys, and that’s where I freeze up.

Even if I feel the signal is clear, I start overthinking like, “What if one of the guys is her boyfriend?” or “Am I about to cause drama?” I don’t think it’s a looks or confidence issue in general. I’ve had girls approach me, dance with me, and compliment me. But the moment there’s a guy or two in their group, I get stuck and usually end up walking away.

How can I overcome this? What are some ways to approach confidently in these situations without overstepping or making it awkward?

My thoughts to answer my own question is - ask who you’re there with? Outcome independence or becoming friends with the guys in the group too.

Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@bluepilldoctor

How to give advice as a man and help my best friend who binge drinks all the time?

Giving advice is an important skill as a man and I feel I am not good at it. My best friend for 30 years needs some advice but he isn't listening to me, I feel a bit lost/ helpless as a man/ friend and would love some advice on how to give advice.

I think it all started 2 years ago when his group of friends started getting married and at the same time he broke up with his ex-girlfriend and got rejected by a mutual friend.

Since then, whenever we go out for a social event he gets absolutely smashed/drug fucked and makes an idiot of himself to the point I have to take him home early. Any event he gets paralytic - weddings, birthdays, festivals, a casual catch up for drinks.

For example, today I get a random call from a mutual friend asking me to come pick him up just after midday from a cheese and wine festival because he was paralytic at 3pm.

No matter what he doesn't listen to anyone. He apologizes, says it won't happen again, then does it again. Everyone has tried talking to him telling him they are concerned, his parents, his siblings, other friends but he just doesn't care.

He is 36 and is too old to be acting like this - I'm a little bit concerned there is something deeper going on. I try having a chat asking why he act like this all the time, if he is depressed, happy with life and he just brushes me off tells me he is fine he is just trying to have some fun.

No-one can argue with him either because he doesn't touch alcohol during the week, sometimes for weeks at a time. In-between his binging he is an amazing friend, doesn't touch alcohol/drugs, he is extremely healthy with his foods, gym twice per day, has an extremely good job and is a high performer.

I'm getting concerned seeing him act like this and no taking any-ones advice. I feel like I am letting him down as a friend/ as a man and don't know what to do.

Any advice would be helpful.

Just as being able to provide good advice can be a valuable skill, so too is recognizing when it's not wanted.

If you suspect the problems are related to his love life, consider suggesting your friend invest into a reliable ready reference they can pick up and study to better prepare themself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you make them aware of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. Encourage your friend to review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what they aspire for themself. To save them a search, give them this scribed link to find out if the book is something they'd like to add to their library. It should also be available on libgen.

If shuttling this guy home when he's passed out drunk is a problem for you, and he's not taking any corrective action on his own initiative, difficult as it maybe, you should just let him drink, while working out some alternative to you bringing him home. If he lives near your home, you could coordinate with your mutual friends to have a taxi bring him home, and you take him the rest of the way to mark the transition.