The respectability of cheating Vs. chasing:

Men who cheat on their frigid spouses are generally looked upon less favourably than men who keep chasing their frigid spouses. Not only by women, by other men as well. And not least, by themselves.

Granted, the guy who keeps chasing will feel bad about himself from a "value" point of view. And other people will see it as kinda pathetic and sad. But it won't be an issue with morality, ethics, or respectability.

Meanwhile, the guy who solves his problem by cheating on his wife will think of himself as a piece of shit. Other people will tell him he's a piece of shit. And if he asked online: "Hey, my wife doesn't want to fuck me. Should I cheat on her?", the answer will pretty unanimously be: "No don't cheat, cheating is the worst".

But is cheating really "the worst"? Is it worse than to keep soliciting for sex - covertly and overtly - someone who's already made it abundantly clear she isn't interested in you in that way? More dishes, more date nights, more back rubs, more communication. It's like the guy at the pub who keeps coming up to this chick who keeps rejecting him, trying to talk to her, trying to order her drinks.

Now, we all know this doesn't work. And even people outside this space increasingly know it doesn't work. But that's not my point. My point is: Is it even acceptable behavior, compared to just cheating? Is it more respectable behavior?

I would argue not. I would argue that cheating is preferable to chasing - not just from point of view of " what works" - but from point of view of which type of behaviour is more respectable, and morally sound. If the guy who keeps taking his wife on date nights doesn't feel like a piece of shit - and nobody else is telling him he's a piece of shit - why should the guy who simply cheats be seen as piece of shit?

In order of more to less respectability and moral/ethical soundness, I'd rank the three typical solutions to married men's sexual frustrations like this:

1. Leave
2. Cheat
3. Chase

It's practically impossible today to find a woman worthy of becoming a wife and mother of your children.

Even a unicorn usually can't weather the 20-30 years needed to raise a family, and is eventually exposed to be a mashed up mule.

The problem is that men are deprived of the authority needed to enforce the constant readjustments that a woman requires. Women are alien to civilization, any kind of it. And not only marriage, but family itself is a product of civilization.

Dr Helen Fisher, a fientist ("feminist scientist") who is incredulously consider a "world expert" on love, in her book Anatomy of Love concludes that the solution, from her female standpoint, is "forward to the past", a past where women would fuck freely whomever they wanted in the bushes. That is the pinnacle of female existence, whatever we men might say or think.