@Nattynutty

Stating she won’t go back to mine before we’ve had the date.

I met this girl at a party a month ago. She took me back to hers and we fucked.

Two weeks later we went on a date to a cocktail bar were i acted as if sex was the last thing on my mind and she became super keen to go back to mine. So we did and we fucked.

I set up a date with her to go for a fancy dinner and then go to an arcade for this weekend but she called me to say she needs to know what time we’re finishing to so that she can go to her parents house right after and that she won’t be coming back to mine.

Do I: A. Cancel my reservations and tell her on the day theres a change of plans we’re going back to mine. B. Cancel the date and soft next C. Go through with it and see if she changes her mind whilst we’re there

Advice would be greatly appreciated

Option "A" removes any doubt in her mind that your goal is primarily sex, not a relationship. Option "B" allows you to maintain the mystery. Option "C" implies you're cool with not getting laid and willing to defer to her parents, which I doubt you are. Of the options you present, only two are viable.

You could go with option "D", cancel the reservation, and date so you're free to resume looking for more single girls. With the holidays being both next week and the time of year people break up, it shouldn't be too difficult replacing her or to begin stacking plates.

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@qzone

Field Report: Blond at the Bar

I'm in a sticky situation at the moment; due to the passing of my mother more recently than not, I'm stuck in my home town with a population of a few tens of thousands to support my grandfather and stepfather in dealing with her affairs and support them. My grandfather is not in great health, and probably doesn't have a lot of years left, so I am here for the foreseeable future, though I'd rather be somewhere where abundance is possible. But we are at where we are at.

Fast forward to last Sunday: I'm at the gym and there's a cute curly haired blond doing one of those pussy maxing leg hip workout machines you will never see a straight man do. I strike up a conversation; ask her why this gym and not the other gyms in town that while slightly more expensive are certainly less shitty. We talk for five or ten minutes, I offer to buy her a drink or dinner this week... she agrees. Good job with a good income, good family it seems like. We trade numbers and I go back to lifting.

Later on in my set she is working out by me. I reopen. She says "I'm free pretty much any night of the week". We set the date for Monday, the next day, at eight. The date goes well enough. Again, she seems inexperienced. I avoided talking about dating or sexual history because, dating history is a waste of time for the first date, and I avoid sexual history because I had trouble creating sexual energy with her which I do not normally have trouble with. We have a whole lot in common, she is incredibly pretty, and we click though I struggle to make romantic or sexual energy with this girl. We make out a couple times. She is an abysmal kisser. The date lasts an hour and a half (I thought it was much longer, it felt so). As we are walking out to what I assume would be switch venues at 9:30. When I offer to switch venues she says "I have 25 minute drive and I work at eight in the morning". I don't know about you all but if I am very attracted to someone and having a good time, I will stay up past 10 PM. During the date, we had talked about both enjoying cooking. She said she loves soup, said she has never tried butternut squash soup. At the end of the date I said "let's get together this week and make that soup?" (Perhaps this was an overinvestment). She agrees, saying she is interested any day of the week that works for me.

Following the date, I wait till Wednesday at the end of the work day to text her at all since I committed heavy at the end of the date... ball in her court. I text her saying "hey, tomorrow at 5:30 work for you to make that soup? We'll have to run to the store first". She takes hours and hours to respond, and after some coordination ping pong run around, she says "I got out of a relationship a month or two and I'm not ready for anything serious yet, I'm sorry etc. etc.". I say "I understand completely, I'm cool with hanging out without a label as the goal. Let me know when you're free and we will keep it casual." A few texts since then but I've been leaving the ball in her court and keeping my texts short on the off chance she offers a time and place since this chick has probably NEXTed me and is being nice, and I don't want to waste time texting a bunch with someone just being nice. Also for context, I didn't mention anything about my mother.

We hold the L and soldier on with more day game. That one stings, I liked her quite a bit. We had a lot in common. Any critiques or thoughts?

An abundance mindset must first be planned and executed before it's ever realized. Regardless, it reads like the interest wasn't mutual. While disappointing, that's alright. Better to find out you and her weren't a good fit early on than after several years of marriage with children.

There's not enough info to say if the outcome of the date was due to you being mentally preoccupied in dealing with family matters, but not every guy can fake enthusiasm to follow through with everything. That your family situation concerns you enough to bring it up with us compels me to encourage you to take all the time you need, then take a rest after sorting your late mother's affairs. Consider using this time to study the book and look into finding a few hobbies to otherwise occupy your mind.

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@MrSupreme

Do you know supplements?

Hi everyone! I've been taking my 50mg Zinc and effects have been great. No worries there.ç I'd like to know what else I should take,because I'm really into taking supplements lately, just to boost my performance and overall wellness.

I was thinking a multivitamin like Centrum, that could work. But I know there's other stuff around like:

-Ashwaghanda -Spirulina

I've researched a bit and I know there's a thin line between a great, good working supplement and a "superfood" trend like the "Spirulina" thing seems to be.

I'm looking to optimize my energy levels too, work is not stressful but I have been investing a huge amount of time on it lately.

I think the ashwaghanda might be nice, still researching.

But as this is the Red Pill (unplugging from the matrix), I want to ask:

what do you guys know about supplements,vitamins and other things that could bring wellness to my life, including my sexual performance, for my workouts (no gym yet,just strength and calisthenics), for my energy levels,sleep quality, and anything that can help me improve myself. Zing has been great, had the best flu I've had in years, lasted a few days and only a few symptoms, along with the other stuff it brings.

What do you take? What should I know?

Here's a good enough starting point to consider for yourself.