@Noonenoname

Girl disappeared now shes back

Below is my conversation with a girl I met at an event:-

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[02/05, 17:15] ME - Hi how are you? SC was a blast I met some really cool people

[02/05, 17:19] : Hi there … it was super fun

[02/05, 17:29] .:Me- Yeah it was let's find a time to meet again

[02/05, 17:55] : Cool

[02/05, 17:55] : Are you based in ?

[02/05, 17:56] .: Me- I live in but I come to quite regularly. How about you?

[02/05, 17:58] :

[02/05, 18:22] .:Me - Cool whens good for us to meet? I'm available next weekend if that works?

[02/05, 18:23] : I can do at some point between 12-3on Saturday

[02/05, 18:31] ME- Sounds good so is Saturday 10th May ok?

[03/05, 08:28] : Should be good

[03/05, 08:28] : I just need to sort my daughter on the train at some point

[03/05, 13:52] Me - Ok where shall we meet?

(11 Days later:-)

[14/05, 18:50] : I’m so so sorry [14/05, 18:50] : Had a terrible bout of hay fever / cold… whatever it was - was not good. Hope you’re alright.

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Should I answer "Hi I'm good no worries hope you're feeling better now. Let's meet Saturday 24th?"

Reads like her near two week long instant messaging disappearance was a god send. Now you have an idea as to how little interest she has in you. So, do yourself a favor and just let that momentum carry you off without any further replies. She's got a kid you didn't sire that she's already given you heads up she will use as a shield against you getting close to her. Good news is, you've got even more time to study the book, because this is where you should move on and...

@Noonenoname

Is this girl just after free attention?

Here is a chat I had with a girl. Is she just after free attention and if so should I just ignore her? (it's quite long so feel free to just skim through it quickly it or ignore it completely if you so desire).

tl:dr When I suggested to meet she said she was busy but didn't come up with an alternative date she has now started messaging me so maybe she just wants free attention?

[02/05, 16:59] .: ME - Hi how are you?

[02/05, 17:01] Her - : Hi

[02/05, 17:01] Her - : I'm good thanks xx

[02/05, 17:09] Me - Cool what you up to?

[02/05, 17:16] Her - : Dinner time here at the moment What about you

[02/05, 17:19] .: ME - Doing a bit of work and waiting for an ice cream to reach the perfect amount of Melted

[02/05, 17:20] Her - : Sounds productive lol

[02/05, 17:20] Her - : Did you enjoy yourself at the party on Wednesday? There was a lot of people that turned up!

[02/05, 17:20] ME - Who says men can't multi talk I got this like a boss

[02/05, 17:20] HER - Super skills

[02/05, 17:21] ME - Yeah it was a blast I met some really cool people and I learned about a profession I didn't know existed

[02/05, 17:31] HER - Yes it was very interesting

[02/05, 17:31] HER - : Do you think you would be keen to book with someone to experience

[02/05, 17:32] ME - You mean book with someone for a message?

[02/05, 17:32] Her-: Yea

[02/05, 17:32] HER - Especially a more sensual one

[02/05, 17:33] ME - Yeah I'm open to that

[02/05, 17:34] HER - It's amazing how many are out there offering similar services Still seems like a bit of a secret society lol

[02/05, 17:38] ME - Yeah I suppose it is. Next time swap your heart shaped glasses for dark shades to keep things secret

[02/05, 17:39] ME - You are now a secret agent

[02/05, 17:45] HER - Just call me croft haha

[02/05, 17:45] HER - : Have you got any weekend plans

[02/05, 17:45] HER - : What do you normally do in your spare time

[02/05, 17:48] ME - You're showing your age there Mrs Croft. Possibly working this weekend how about you? I guess you don't get much free time either?

I've been spending a lot of my spare time working need to make more time for fun events.

[02/05, 17:52] HER - Ah ok. Lots of work on your plate by the sounds of it

[02/05, 17:53] HER - Spare time I read a bit, sometimes writing, adult colouring, yoga most Mondays, walking, choir and massage with naughty friends

[02/05, 17:59] ME - Nice are you free next weekend?

[02/05, 18:18] HER - Weekend is usually family time I'm quite busy

[02/05, 18:39] ME - what day works best for you?

[03/05, 20:47] HER - Will figure out something x

[03/05, 20:47] HER - How was your day hopefully you got a little break from work

[03/05, 22:09] ME - It was good had a bit of a break how about you?

[03/05, 22:13] HER - Aww glad to hear it

[03/05, 22:13] HER - : Well I was busy went to a kids bday party for the afternoon

[03/05, 22:15] ME - Wow you know how to live life on the wild side.

[03/05, 22:31]HER - : Something like that haha

[03/05, 23:21] ME - My mum always warned me about wild party girls like you

[04/05, 07:21] HER - Did she?! Mum may be right there Continue at your own risk

[08/05, 10:45] HER - How are you?

Up to much today? Xx

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Attempt to answer - I think she may be after free attention based on her interest to chat but not a strong interest to arrange to meet.

The problem isn't that she's following her instincts by seeking out male attention, but that a year later you're still using text's to communicate with females and don't as of yet appear to particularly value your time. Study the book and consider exploring hobbies to find something engaging to occupy yourself when not dealing with work, chores, or school.