Did I screw up by waiting a week to contact this girl?
Met a girl in a supermarket. Wasn't super confident but got her number.
I didn't message her for a week because I was busy and I didn't want to message too soon.
I messaged this:
Hi
It's we met in last week how are you? She replied Took you a week to type this text? I then called her shortly after and she didn't answer. I then sent this:- Yeah, sorry, I've been researching the internet to find the perfect words that would totally sweep you off your feet. I made several versions, polled my peers, contacted a few professionals, and when I sent it I fucked up and sent it to the wrong person. Good news is, I found the right person and decided to just reach out normally. The bad news is, I have a date with Steve, my mechanic, on Tuesday. He's not my type, but I guess he does have a nice tooth. All joking aside I've been very busy and didn't want to reach out to until I actually had time to really connect.
Give me a call when you're free and we'll discuss our upcoming date.
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Was this whole thing a screw up on my part or is she simply not interested and there is no fault with my approach? People on reddit said I must always message the same day or next day otherwise the spark is gone and they aren't interested.
Thanks
It reads like you're dealing with an Anglo-bitch. The only mistake you made was treating the txt like you were engaging in some sort of formal business communication.
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@carnold03 So you're saying that waiting a week wasn't the mistake but my responce to her message was a mistake? Yes I did feel I bit weird sending it I guess I took some bad advise.
Yes you guessed right she lives in England. Dating is 1000x easier in Asia. Maybe Asian women aren't so entitled and spoilt for choice or something?
I wish I had come here for advise right off the bat then I could have resolved things.
@AndrewTatesPancreas I'm English was living in Asia for 2 years.
@AndrewTatesPancreas I had no choice lol I know Asia gives us a huge advantage due to supply and demand / status I guess. That's why my friend gives bad advise he is in asia so he can do dumb shit and get away with it like for example saying to a girl "what would you do if I kissed you" and "can I kiss you"
@AndrewTatesPancreas I'm still furious at myself for screwing up so badly I think it was partly self sabotage my life is so busy I didn't deal with it correctly.
@AndrewTatesPancreas Yes it is. I know it's not a big deal but because of my anxiety / depression certain things really piss me off and get me down and this is one of them. I keep thinking over and over again what I could have done differently and wonder why I was so stupid. You're right 90% of guys would never even approach so I need to give myself credit for that and even if I had done things better there is no guarantee I would have got a good outcome but this will be stuck in my mind for a while nothing I can do about that.
@Goingthedistance I'm trying not to but my brain has other ideas.
So you're saying that waiting a week wasn't the mistake but my responce to her message was a mistake? Yes I did feel I bit weird sending it I guess I took some bad advise.
Yes you guessed right she lives in England. Dating is 1000x easier in Asia. Maybe Asian women aren't so entitled and spoilt for choice or something?
I wish I had come here for advise right off the bat then I could have resolved things.
It reads like you've got good instincts, but you overthink things to the point that you doubt yourself. Read and memorize the book. It'll be the best foundation you'll get in regards to dealing with women.
Hi all
So as previously discussed I screwed up by waiting a long time to message a girl this is how the conversation went
Hi
It's <name> we met in last week how are you? She replied Took you a week to type this text? I then called her shortly after and she didn't answer.
I then sent this:- Yeah, sorry, I've been researching the internet to find the perfect words that would totally sweep you off your feet. I made several versions, polled my peers, contacted a few professionals, and when I sent it I fucked up and sent it to the wrong person. Good news is, I found the right person and decided to just reach out normally. The bad news is, I have a date with Steve, my mechanic, on Tuesday. He's not my type, but I guess he does have a nice tooth. All joking aside I've been very busy and didn't want to reach out to until I actually had time to really connect.
Give me a call when you're free and we'll discuss our upcoming date.
2 days later I sent:-
Now who's being a slow poke? :P How was your weekend?
She replied Me? A slow poke?
I then had a call from her which I missed.
So the questions are:-
1) Do I reply by message or call her?
2) Do I invite her to my place for drinks or do we meet somewhere public? If it ok to wait until next weekend to meet or is that too long should I make it sooner?
3) I once told a girl I had a surprise planned and took her to a museum (great logistics as it's close to my house) she loved it. Should I use this approach.
I could simply reply are you free this Saturday 19th? And see what she says
I decided to ask you guys this time rather than just jump in as you're all so good at game.
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