If I'm picking up a girl for the first time do i wait for her outside my car and open the door?
Might be a autistic question but I read somewhere that to physically escalate properly you have to establish physical contact on the very first greeting otherwise it's just gonna get harder later on. I was thinking about ways I could do it while waiting inside the car but couldn't think of anything other than a handshake which seems awkward.
If i wait for her outside my car i can just hug her as a greeting. What do you guys think?
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Read MoreI haven't been in any relationships and don't have like a roster or anything off the apps so what am I supposed to do? Last time a girl asked me about past relationships i made up some vague bullshit about how my last relationship was in high school and i took a break from dating since then but I think she could tell I was lying lmao. And for the experience with the app i tried deflecting with something like "Ohh i met you so its been pretty good i would say".
What's the redpill response in this scenario? I know your supposed to show that you have options etc to appear high value but at the same time you shouldn't show off since it comes off as tryhard.
There are factors affecting how you respond to this we're not privy to and I'm not curious to ask. Your response, if any, more depends on how long you've been dating and what sort of mood you've sought to establish with this girl in your interactions.
Your profile says you're in your early twenties, so it's daft to expect you to have much in the realm of experience of any sort with females, outside of your kin and classmates. That you're asking this question online suggests to me she asked this by means of txt, email, or some instant messaging app that allows you to delay a reply. Unfortunately, this also highlights that you've got two problems you need to get a handle on. First of which, you're far too available to this female thanks to that electronic brick in your pocket. The only time you should be interacting with her remotely is when you're working to set the date, hit her with the logistics for the date, because otherwise out of sight, out of mind. Secondly, she's a retard likely taking dating advice from a modern woman's magazine and not from the successfully married women in her family such as her mother, grandmothers, and aunts.
"The redpill response", unless she's asked this question of you face-to-face, it doesn't deserve an answer, and even then not a serious one. There's no need to makeup some fictional relationship history to make yourself out to be some punani slaying Lothario. @No-Stress-Cat is offering you a solid suggestion/7846478) on how to handle this exchange worth considering. Come up with a witty way to reply to the question, without being too serious. Afterwards, when a girl you're dating messages you and she's not asking to see you or talk on the phone, instead of engaging with her, offer some variant of, "Can't msg now, I'll call you ??pm." And for heaven sake, [read the book.](www.trp.red/feed/status/204003
Read MoreDamn grinding feels good. I'm completely focused on money and not talking to any girls right now, started my new job. I'll put a portion of my paycheck towards high risk investments, while saving the rest so that I can move out as soon as possible. Money is freedom and freedom is money
Can't seem to break out of this cycle. I thought getting a job would take my mind off things but when I see a cute girl while I'm working it just completely ruins my mood for the rest of the day. Like I literally have a physical reaction, my stomach starts to hurt and I start feeling sick.
I did a group interview for a different part time position and there was a super cute girl there. I struck up a conversation with her and she was really nice, all smiling and shit making eye contact and it felt good in the moment and then after I felt like shit and resentful thinking about how some guy gets to fuck her. Things aren't looking too good
@joyboy One of the pillars of RP Praxeology is Becoming one's own mental point of origin. For whatever reason, it sounds like you're all up inside your own head about what other people have and don't have, and getting all viscerally worked up over nothing but abstractions, unfulfilled wishes, and covert contracts.
Work on the things you can control, then move outward from there. This is one of the reasons we ask, Do you even lift? Physical fitness requires focus and stick-toitiveness. The structure and discipline involved adapt into other areas of life.
@MentORPHEUS Lifts are in profile. I'm aesthetic and lift heavy so that's not the problem. It's mostly a mindset thing
@Vermillion-Rx I already have male friends. Not really sure how to make female friends other than joining some dance/yoga groups, but I think those are mostly older women who I don't think would be interested in being friends with a early 20s guy cause what would we even have in common
@Typo-MAGAshiv I mean yeah I could've tried but I was getting friendly vibes from her, she didn't seem attracted or interested in that way but yeah I should've escalated. I just didn't want it to be awkward in case she rejected me and we both got hired
@Vermillion-Rx I mean I had a few in high school but I didn't really try to make friends with them, they came to me. Also I think they were trying to get with me, since they would always be flirting with me and stuff but I wasn't attracted so i didn't do anything about it. But it's not like im totally socially inept