@Kloi No there not even my main complaint. It’s just one part of the things making me insecure but the main thing is my upbringing which made me socially stunted

@Vermillion-Rx Not being facially attractive, short, not charismatic/outgoing, etc.

@Vermillion-Rx

Most people shoot their shot until something sticks.

Well i've been doing that to but nothing has stuck so it makes me feel like somethings wrong with me.

Do you do anything remotely cool like sports or guitar or some skill that anyone would respect? Or do you just coast by on the internet, anime and video games

I mean like i stated in a previous comment i have a few hobbies im passionate about, like motorbiking, boxing, calisthenics etc.

@s111s And I do like a few things about myself but it's not enough to overpower the negatives

@s111s Yes exactly, what do I need to do IRL to fix my self esteem. That was my original question. I asked for was the steps i need to take in order to do that and people started asking me questions.

I know your going to say it's all in my head or that nobody really cares that much about anyone or something like that but idk it just sucks. It doesn't feel that way especially when i see the effort other people put in to their relationships/friendships

@Kloi I feel like 95% of people my age already have experience and i feel left out/behind. It's not like everyone is some slayer but i mean most people have been in relationships and at least done some stuff with a girl by the time they graduate university.

And i feel unattractive because I guess I'm not interesting enough or charismatic enough to have people want to be around me and engage with me. Like i could get some half assed invitations to going out but then people never follow up or if I do end up going it feels like i'm not really there and just observing from the outside. It feels like people are either inviting me out of pity or im basically inviting myself. Its hard to explain but i never felt like i belong or actually wanted by anyone.

@Kloi But even by redpill theories it says women are only attracted to the top men. So how am i supposed to not compare myself to that

@Kloi I would say no. I know that’s the worst inner game state to have and I’m trying to fix it. The reason is because I feel inferior and not on the same playing field as everyone else. Not good enough because I’m unattractive (not just the physical sense).

@Kloi just saying what I observed lol. Most people I know are actively trying to better themselves. That’s literally all that’s on social media, people are compare themselves to the standards online and rush to improve to fit the standards