She is asking for this at 35. Not only is she in the wrong period of time to be asking for this, but she is also the wrong age to be able to expect this. What you want and what you expect are often different, and it is best to operate based on what you expect than what you want, since wants are basically just wishes, only there is no magic genie to grant them. And as for expectations, they also must be realistic for this to work.

Another thing, she better have her homemaking skills on point if she wants "someone to take care of her." Because marriage is already a distasteful prospect for many men in ideal circumstances. With a 35 year old woman, you will be lucky if you can have 1 or 2 naturally born children without IVF. So at bare minimum she better be able to offer a man the ability to make a home cooked meal and keep the place tidy. And by "home-cooked", I don't mean something you take directly from the freezer section of the grocery store and pop in the oven. I mean meals from scratch with ingredients that need some peeling, cutting, and cooking. She would not need to be a master chef, but things like soups, roasted meat with various vegetables, pasta, or any other equivalent effort meal should be done.

But based on the "take care of me" mindset, I don't think she is thinking about that side of the equation. And I doubt a lifetime of being a "boss-bitch" has properly prepared her for what she would need to do to get a man she is thinking of. And such a man who would provide that is most likely going to look elsewhere than a 35 year old. Or perhaps she better be fine with older men, who might accept a relatively younger woman.

Yes, living on your own is hard. Humans are not designed to be high-agency individuals all the time. We need a group and people to belong to. The strong, independent girlboss lifestyle will never make you happy.

So as a woman who has now seen the light, what are you going to do about it? Will you tell the youngsters to not waste time partying? To not fuck guys they barely know while also going on traditional dates with the romantics? To prioritize building a good relationship early on so they don't end up in your shoes, desperate and alone?

Of course not. Let's just keep encouraging girls to act like fucktoys until no man with an ounce of self-worth would ever want them in a serious relationship. Then when they get older, they can complain about how shallow men are, and eventually die confused and alone, never knowing where they went wrong.

To me its the patting herself on the back for making it to 35 bit that educates and entertains most.

She knows she has been a good girl and done something she found hard and against her nature. She did what her teachers and parents and Cosmo and Oprah all told her to do. She done good. She tried her best at a hard game. I think we should take her at face value here. There are so many more like her -miseducated young women trying to make careers in a world that hands them advantages and opportunities to try to push them in this direction so they can pay tax to the big state and break the family up. Women do need all those leg ups to get out in the world of men. Its not natural for them.

The problem is education. You can educate a girl till she is mid 20's and has a second or third degree in sociology but it actually gives her very little benefit past a lot of feel good experiences when she was young, energetic and the centre of attention.

The problem is with women's education. Having more money than a young man of similar age because women get hired and promoted easier then leads to expectations of having so much in life. Hypergamy won't go into reverse. She has about zero hope of getting what she wants and it working out. She is ruined by the system.

Where I am from the gypsies take their daughters out of school at 11. Cleaning caravans doesn't need much book learning. My lady looks at it and says "Good for them". My lady suffers from the problem of having had a career and then settled with a man with a low income. She does a little work and never pays a penny into the home. She tells her own daughter to work hard at school so as not to be dependent on a man like her but then she admires the gypsies who get married young to blue pill trad cons before they get huge expectations. Married to a blue pill trad con who has more money than you can want to spend is the real female dream. It has been since forever - look at all the fairy tales of hot girls marrying princes.

The problem is a huge system that indoctrinates and miseducates girls to make them useful to the state and to make the state responsible for families not men and women.