Chivalry is dead because femininity is dead.

"A lady is a woman who makes it easy for a man to be a gentleman."

A polite deference to women was once easy for men, because a real lady quietly defers to and respects men because they are men.

One of my best friends, a totally based Brazilian guy, has an American/White wife who is this kind of lady. One time we were at a homeschool co-op and there was the normal gathering of teachers/mothers for coffee. I didn't know this, but this wife had brought something to teach the women, some kind of "devotional" or whatever. I was just hanging out because I taught a class at this point.

I kid you not: She comes up to me and hands me her notes. She asked me if I wanted to teach what she had prepared. Honestly blindsided me, I didn't understand what was going on. Why me? Because I was a man in the room, and she knew that a woman teaching men is not appropriate or respectful, especially in a "church" type setting as this co-op is. She couldn't teach the women while I was in the room. I refused because I had no idea what the subject was, and she gracefully asked me to leave so she could teach. I was extremely happy to oblige.

I have never been so respected by a woman who is not my wife. I have never been asked to leave a room with more grace, politeness, respect, and dignity. I will always remember it.

If you can't be a lady, don't expect men to want to be gentlemen around you. If you give off slut vibes and act like a defective man, expect to be treated like those things.

Destroying chivalry always struck me as one of the ways feminism and the sexual revolution tried selling themself to men.

Men and women are now the same. There is no reason to patronize girls by treating them as children with no life skills. Have faith that they can handle themselves.

There is no need to hide your intentions behind complex displays of courtship. We are finally free to fuck whomever we like as long as they consent. Women want sex just as much as men do, and now they are finally free to act on their desires. So just ask her straight up! And if she likes you she will reciprocate. No mind games, no meaningless shows of status. Just two people who are finally free to love each other as nature intended.

Even to this day, it still hurts to be scolded for believing the lies I was told growing up.