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Bros! I’m on an island in the gulf of Thailand. If you’re a single man, fuck it, even if you’re with women, I cannot recommend it enough. Russians, Germans, Cambodians, Thais, Koreans, Chinese, English. Beautiful women on every inch of the beaches.
Yesterday I told a Thai girl to come and learn how to swim, which ended up going out with her and her Auntie (who turned out to be hilarious and a proper wing-woman).
And listen, even if you’re a bit hapless you can use the bar girls as training wheels!
One poor Russian guy literally brought his problems with him. Some 50~ish Viet roastie shouting at him at the bar, making a scene, bringing the mood down demanding he take her back. We ended up toasting after each outburst lol
This is nothing short of paradise, gentlemen.
I assume you'll win in a physical fight with her. So set up a camera, either a hidden one on your person, or set one up in the room. Then sit her down, and bluntly brake up with her. If she gets physical, you have what you need for a restraining order, which gets her out of your home. Restrain her, call the police, and show them the footage. If she threatens suicide, you can probably use that as well.
Obviously research whether you're in a two-party or one-party consent state/country. Even if it's a two-party consent state/country, check with a lawyer or the police if you can utilise a camera for self defence reasons.
The second best option is sound recording. Laws are usually a bit more lax on that. Bottom line is, it's false accusations you should worry about the most. So document everything.
Also, depending on where you live, it may be beneficial for you to call the police non-emergency line beforehand, and explain the situation, that you're about to break up with your girlfriend, that she has a habit of being violent with you, and that you may need assistance. Although it's true that the police tends to side with women, part of that is because women usually contact the police first. At least where I live, whoever calls the police first matters a great deal for how they initially deal with it. If you can initially get her out of your home, that should offer you some breathing space for what comes after.
Her safety should be way down on your priority list. It's you you need to worry about first and foremost. It's not your job to protect your abuser from herself. Let professionals, or her family deal with that sort of thing. You let them know, and that's the extent of your responsibility, if you have any responsibility at all.
Also, realize that people with personality disorders (like BPD) are fully aware of what they're doing, and 100% responsible for their own actions. They are not insane, like for instance someone with schizophrenia. So do not excuse her behaviour, or feel guilty for whatever outcome of her actions. Whatever empathy you have for her is greatly misplaced.
Good luck.
Read MoreI live!
...despite my best efforts, apparently.
Apologies for the extended absence. I'll try not to hurt myself or get injured again but, given my track record over the past couple years, I ain't makin' any promises.
Recovery went well. Shockingly well, actually; by 6 weeks post-surgery I was pretty well back to fully functional including being able to squat down on my haunches. Still not quite as flexible in the left knee as I am in the right and I'll get to deal with swelling in my left leg for the rest of my life but, given the damage done in the collision, I consider the fact I'm walking without assistance miracle enough; everything on top o' that is gravy.
Started work again this week. I meant to post something here earlier (I usually do my .red-ing during whatever down time I have at the end of my shift) but, of the four-man surplus crew we had, I got injured again, two of the others found employment elsewhere and the last guy moved to WA, all while I was out. So the entire workload now falls squarely on me, myself and the Palm sisters.
Read MoreMy first wife was BPD. Give her the ick. She'll go away on her own. Every time she gets violent, just leave. You don't have to stay there and take that shit.
As you say, there's no easy way to do this. No 100% safe way either.
You have to prepare mentally for at least a couple of years of turmoil. If she hurts herself, it's on her, and there is nothing you can do. BPDs use their mates to act out harrowing infantile fears, so it's not about you per se.
If she's of the "Discouraged BPD" subtype, you might be able to keep a minimum of a "presence" in her life, by, say, one text message per week, for a few months. This might help as a pressure valve. More malignant types might require law enforcement, see what MentORPHEUS writes.
With luck, she'll be able to keep distance a couple of years from the breakup, and might practically disappear out of your life in five or ten, may e sooner. It is what it is.
She's 21 but behaves like the Terrible Twos. Has a tantrum and ends up catching numerous charges including several for battery on a police and also a correctional officer.
Alexander Black's 1899 book "Modern Daughters: Conversations with Various American Girls and One Man." In this work, Black uses a series of dialogues to explore the changing social roles and expectations for women in late 19th-century America, including the declining strictness of the chaperone system.
www.gutenberg.org/files/71170/71170-h/71170-h.htm
For a broader picture of these social changes, you might also be interested in Black's earlier work, "Miss America; Pen and Camera Sketches of the American Girl" (1898). This book also examines the evolving identity and independence of American women at the turn of the century, discussing themes of independence and shifting gender roles. You can access it here:
