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You're not being honest with yourself first and foremost!
If you can't have a minor disagreement without going out and getting hammered and cheating on her, you need to do a lot of self reflective work on you.
Stop promising exclusivity if you can't deliver on it. If you want to keep thingsnopen that's fine. But stop making promises. The guilt is going to chew away at you.
Don't tell her about your infidelity. Your pushing your guilt onto her and hurting her in the process. I suggest ending it with her. It will suck, but you need to work on yourself.
Here comes the uncomfortable truth. This is your medicine. You are a professional victim.
Everything your bitching about is your choice. Let's just cut the shit. You've done nothing and you aren't doing anything to improve your situation. Do you really think there's a magic answer when you're putting yourself in these stupid situations?
Get off your ass and fucking try. You're worried about coming off as a loser because you're being a loser.
You're 40 years old man. Grow some balls and lay down boundaries and consequences with your parents. It's your house invite women over. Read what you wrote and tell me if bitching has yielded you any results?
it's real sassy out here
We learned it from women like you. Sprinkle, sprinkle. We're in our cupcake era! You pay for drinks, strong and independent women!
Chances are you make more than all of us anyway.
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Cope. You wish you had kids and you didn't. You are a useless woman* No worries, there are millions of others like you. Go marry one of them and die alone. Maybe your girlfriends will care. I won't.
* I would of course make an exception for a woman who was physically unable to have children, but wanted to, and remained loyal to one husband for life, making his life easier in every respect. But we both know you aren't this kind of woman.
deserve a weekend in jail
Ok, but only if we pass/enforce fornication/adultery laws (many of which are still on the books in various states). Also, you have to act like a lady, respect all men simply for being men, and wear a head covering in public, as most of your foremothers did.
If you expect this kind of special treatment, it merely proves you are the kind of woman who doesn't deserve it.
The mid girls are what I called "coyotes". They usually have a symbiotic relationship with the 8-10s. They know they can't compete, so they hang with the 8-10s. The 8-10s get to look hot next to their coyote friend, and the coyote friend gets to hang in the back a little to devour any carcasses the 8-10s leave behind. Also, like @TJMS mentioned, they are the bitchiest of bitches. They will be quick to shout down any mid-guys trying to go after their hot friend. They want the hot scraps.
OP, haven’t you posted on here about your own cheating ruining your relationship before?
My dude, the real answer to your dilemma(s) would have been to just not cheat in the first place. If you really can’t control yourself or don’t want to be exclusive, just don’t agree to an exclusive commitment.
All these other gymnastics in your head are damage control. Figure out your own behavior first. What makes you do what you do and why.
I don't understand your logic, you post about not finding a solid woman and then get one I assume you think is solid and you bungle it
You clearly have some kind of self sabotage mechanism that you haven't been telling us in your posts over the years. You also can't simultaneously really love your girlfriend and resent women.
That's not how that that works. You're never going to have the capacity to love a woman while resenting most of them.
Don't hate the players, hate the game. Your anger is valid but misdirected. If the game is shit, players will abuse it, same as women. You have to love them for who they are, and if you're resentful at all, be it at the game which allows it
You know better than to ask a should I? So you're getting flaired for it
To answer your question:
If you end up being with her the rest of your life (hypothetically but I doubt this will last) you will have to bite your tongue the rest of your life and always act paranoid, you'll end up projecting and accusing her of cheating, and will have shame on every high note.
If you regret it but won't ever do it again then you could hide it but it bothers you so you'll never act normal and have to painstakingly skirt around it forever
Two, you can tell her, get it over with, but she might leave, cheat, or stay and it will never be the same
You guys need to think 5 seconds into the future past your ego and have some frame
You are jacked and rich, why was your frame so weak that you had to get piss drunk over a minor argument with a woman
You guys need to stop getting yourselves into preventable dilemmas
I would tell her, not for moral virtue, but because having to maintain a lie for years is fucking exhausting and gay. And if it bothers you this much, you should learn not to do it again.
Unfortunately you got yourself into a petty situation where you have no clear risk free win on the table and it's of your own making
Read MorePatrice O'Neal offered a piece of advice in regards to testing your relationship. Go out and cheat. If you feel no remorse, the relationship is dead and it's time to move on. If, however, you feel guilty, there's still life in the relationship.
I'm bastardising the conversation but I covered the gist.
I ultimately see almost zero upside to telling her other than absolving myself of the guilt
You've answered your own question right there. Rian Stone discusses this in many of his YouTube videos.
Additionally, this isn't the first time you've asked something along these lines. Yeah, there wasn't actual physical cheating last time, but still going back on your word and breaking any trust that ex had in you.
Some people just aren't cut out for monogamy. Maybe you're one of them. This isn't a moral failing or anything. It just might be high time to be honest with yourself about how you're wired and what you really want in life.
