I have been working on my MAP steadily; reading, lifting, trying to be as social as humanly possible, grad school, working, hobbies, practicing and getting reps in with daygame. About three weeks ago I met this girl through the scope of my work (I don't work with her, no risk of shit where you eat). I've chatted with this girl occasionally for half a year now, but she's been with some dude.

A month or two ago, I asked her how things were going with her man. She says "not great". Give it another month, she says her and her man split so I ask her to dinner, she initially puts me off and declines (normally I wouldn't do dinner but she doesn't drink and shit logistics + small town). She offers to go to dinner as 'friends'. I've heard that one before. If I had anything else going on that night, fuck that, but I wasn't due for a lift, it was cold as balls, a weeknight, and I was going to get off late anyways, so why not. Again, part of my goal is to constantly be doing something social, that thing involving a woman is even better. Good reps. That and she probably has hot friends (she does).

Immediately the vibe is immaculate. She spends every moment either excited to say something or laughing. We hang for hours. Toward the end, intense makeout, but shit logistics. She sends me nudes when she gets home. Main red flag is that her ex man she broke up with a few weeks ago is facetiming her again and again, she mentions "if he knew I was here, he would definitely show up".... I guess they share bills still (relationship of 2.5 years) and she feels bad that he won't be around her dog anymore so she lets him see the dog (though he lives states away and probably won't actually come down to see them).

By the end of date two, we smash. Before we did, she had this talk, making sure I "don't have any expectations", I think maybe she's afraid of me getting quickly attached and wanting to jump into an LTR. She mentioned her and her last man were living together after two weeks of knowing each other, so maybe she's recoiling from that experience, maybe she knows she gets attached very quickly and is trying to temper herself.

Have been hanging for two or three weeks a few nights a week. Incredible sex. Perfect body. The other night she was pleading and begging me not to go to the gym, saying "you can do whatever you want to me". Went to the gym anyway, smashed after. She would hang out every night if I wanted to, but I have other priorities to balance.

I've found myself totally slacking on pickup, though not anything else. Have held good frame in that every other way. It's hard to have the motivation to run pickup when you have a cool fun chick you click with that is a great lay and wants to constantly when it's cold freezing shithole 3 degrees outside and I have to drive quite a ways out of my way to have a decent session. It feels like turning down time with a chick that wants me for waves of chicks that don't give a fuck. I still LOVE daygame though and miss it. I also, even though looking at HumanSockPuppet's Guide to Managing your Bitches she would be level 2, feel bad to some extend talking to other chicks when she is so invested. Some part of me also feels icky about smashing multiple girls throughout the week though I have before.

With how invested she acts, I'm surprised she hasn't brought up the "what are we" talk yet. She has had me around a couple of her friends, her mom sort of, and her sister. We have even joked about the "what are we" talk but both averted from it. Not sure if she's playing it cool and waiting for me to, if she is still involved with her last dude. Early on she drew a boundary with the last dude that communication is to be exclusively for bills they share and the dogs. Though she mentioned at some point "I don't need a man to put a ring on it for him to show me I'm his", so maybe she is one of the few chicks that don't have a raging commitment hard on. I'm just used to girls throwing out "what are we" very soon after smashing.

I am totally cool with her commitment phobia, though. Great times, great sex, no expectations? That is a red pilled man's wet dream. Also, I wonder out of curiosity about the nature of her avoidance of the "what are we" talk. My only worry is the ex man coming into the picture and that being annoying. Don't want to be around him, don't want to ever meet him, no thank you. Seems like an obsessive beta. The type that slacked on his alpha AND beta comfort behaviors (drunk captain) when LTR'd, then wants it all back. He even asked her if she stayed in my town today when she was over at mine bc of her Instagram story. Poor guy, so sad. Very possible she still has feelings/romantic involvement with the ex. That's fine if so, I'll happily be the rebound eggplant emoji for a few weeks.

This girl is really really cool. It's a shame she has this weird involvement with the ex still. Maybe I'm overreacting to it being sticky though, maybe it is just about bills/she has a special heart for dogs like some people do and that's all it is to her. and if she's a plate, who cares? I told her the dog thing is bullshit and just an excuse to get to see her. I guess the thing is I'd probably in time rather LTR her than plate her till the plate drops off? only sticking point is the ex.

My goal is to clear time for day game and continue to work volume. Intuition is exclusivity feels like a bad idea as things are now.

I've had varying success with women, and it comes down to me having varying success with myself. Not being able to lose weight/get into shape, not being disciplined with my studies, work and diet. I've falling into the feeling of FOMO and going out with my mates/drinking "just because". Now most of my friends have gone travelling for 6 months (they finished their articles and are doing a gap year), so this year I've decided to lock in. I'm cleaning up my diet, gymming religiously, fixing all the body issues I have (ankle, shoulders etc.) and signed up for 2 board exams (each are 500 hours recommended study time).

The thing is, I fucking love it. I love waking up sober, I love grinding throughout the day at gym/studying/work/whatever task I have. It's honestly the best I have felt in years. But I strangely feel some guilt, my friends who are still in town want to see me, they want me to go out and drink with them but I keep declining because I just don't want to, I want to wake up tomorrow and fucking kill it.

Has anyone been in a similar place to this? I do worry that right now I'm going to become a bit of a loner and entire monk mode which I'm fine with, but I also recognise the importance of socialising for your mental health. Would appreciate any advice for "monk mode" and making sure I don't burn out during this