@brownpride1488

erectile health?

as i get older i notice my erection quality has gone down. erections aren't as strong or don't last as much as they did when I was younger. during sex, I could edge for hours, or cum multiple times and be just as hard. now i can go for maybe 15-20 minutes until i start slowly losing my erection and eventually just go flaccid. i.e. the problem isn't getting hard, but rather staying hard.

i only ever do bodybuilding style weightlifting for exercise; i heard that cardio (both steady state and interval training) is where it's at for sexual health, because from what i gather erection quality depends on your cardiovascular system. also, i heard kegel exercises may help. i'm also not taking any drugs or prescription meds atm. diet seems ok too: red meat, fish, eggs, dairy, fruits, veggies, mostly legumes for carbs. sleep is ok: 7-8 hours daily. stress could use some work, i do get a lot of stress lately.

those of you that developed issues with erection quality, how did you fix it and what was the culprit?

If this is a serious concern for you, make an appointment with your doctor. If you have a personal trainer, ask for questions to run past the doctor when you see them. If you're lucky, you'll be able to get more pump in your pecker by simply better balancing your workouts with some cardio. You might also want to ask them both regarding useful health and fitness #books to check out.

Women as literal godesses.

We've been saying that Blue Pillers pedestalise women. I don't think that the notion has sunk deep enough - and that has certainly been the case for me, in the past.

Religion is a symbolic expression of the internalized image of a parent. We think of God as "our father", and, as far as internal representations are concerned, that's not even metaphorical. He loves, is always present, guides, forgives, or is even fearsome. Just like dad.

Now, the point I want to make is that a Blue Piller might be a convinced atheist, and even an accomplished world-renowned positivist scientist. However, when the notion of woman (i.e. the internal representation of his mother) enters the discussion, his rationality is cancelled and all his higher cognitive functions are subdued, to be taken over by his sense of utter dread, his infantile fear of annihilation due to his mother being unchecked by his father, and ready to consume him, her child.

I believe the source of this dread is extremely ancient, animalistic, from the age that female animals literally ate their runts.

The illustrating case, in my mind, is a scientist I greatly admire and respect, Robert Sapolsky. He's kind of the embodiment of an open-minded and dedicated scientist, complete with social consciousness. It all goes out the window when woman enters the picture.

I believe the above is the way to solve the nagging puzzle we may have when confronted with some modern, or even older, scientists. "He's so fucking brilliant, how can he not see women for what they are?" It's that his brilliance is suspended, and he's running on religious mode.

@Larrythelobster

Navigating Modern Dating

(I'm looking for general advice. Maybe there's a flaw in my mindset.)

I did research and just life experience. The average body count for a 25 year old woman is 3-5.

I'm pretty depressed hearing this tbh. Cause you know it's just gonna get higher. Not to mention most girls I see in a relationship act very sexual for attention. Bitchy behavior.

Cold approach is a lone wolf fantasy imo. Outta approaching 100 women you get maybe 1-3 lays/success's. (if you're not retarded)

That's a lot of squeezing for a cup of juice. Maybe and just maybe they turn into a plate or a LTR.

You try to use social context to your advantage dating in ecosystems like Uni. or clubs. But then I feel like "DaT GuY". Cause I don't like being around people much it's a lot of bullshit. Guess get over it.

My thought process: Ideally you cold approach outside your ecosystems. And build slow leads inside your ecosystems to find a good prospect.

Online dating is a dumpster fire. Its not real life. People act very differently IRL. Most of the woman either all have the same generic profile or goth/liberal chick who wants me to have a tramp stamp. I switched my profile to be labeled as a woman for 5 mins and had 20 likes. ITS CRAZY.

But at the end of all the work it's the women your left with.

I don't trust women with marriage. And even in LTRs when you're not there they're flirting with other guys for attention. I've had good looking girls with decent guys give me sexual attention. I know its not cheating but if I saw my gal acting like that i'd be disgusted.

The problem:

So i'm left with casual dating women the rest of my life. No marriage. maybe have a LTR here and there but... It's gonna get harder and harder the older I get.

It's weird cold approaching in your late 30s and 40s and 50s. Im 20 so i can pass off as the young stupid guy.

How da hell do I keep this up? assuming i take care of my body to be physically attractive. Do I just end up single and alone around 40? Do I just give in a find a LTR at 40?

I'm just going be a normal guys who has his own place with generic normal salary. At some point i become 40 year old guy who's still single.

I'm uncertain of the future with todays modern landscape. Because alot of women are like scorpions and i'm playing frogger.

I feel that hollywood glamorizes the eternal bachelor lifestyle. I'm not a rich guy backed by the script. I'm a normal guy who dosen't trust the institution of marriage and the women i'd be signing it with. I feel my only option is to get lucky and find a good gal someday. But i'd really just be compromising. I feel extremely vulnerable when i'm committed to a woman.

How are you guys doing?

www.youtube.com/watch?v=kVgln2NNmzc

To be honest, feeling glad I'm not you among other things, I guess. Your report is pretty much the norm though. Most of the chicks any guy will talk to will turn them down no matter how good looking the guy otherwise believes themselves to be. Frustrating as the dating market is, experienced guys begrudgingly learn to accept the situation and focus themselves where they experience more satisfying returns for their time and energy. Some pour themselves into their work, schooling, distractions, or learning a foreign language before getting themselves a passport and seeking out greener pastures elsewhere.

Regardless of what you do, study the book. Hollywood doesn't glamorize the eternal bachelor lifestyle, so much as they present a carefully curated image to undermine your desire to resist their efforts to de-spirit and defeat you courtesy prolonged, sustained, mockery. In this case, your inability to find, or keep, a mate whether you employ traditional means and methods, or modern ones.