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Amind view is definitely the land of deleted drunken posts
Anyway, you can become closed off from fucking a lot of women and having to train yourself to have no reaction to their bullshit or them leaving or you having to leave women often
That and she lives so far away your pragmatic brain is probably turning off your emotional thinking
I don't see a problem with this reaction to her, especially with the abundance mentality
@Lone_Ranger There was a point I was trying to make that made sense at the time, but reading it back you're right it sounds ridiculous.
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I've deleted the post because it was some drunken rambling I posted last night after a few too many beers.
@Bozza pair bonding or delusion, our pair boinking is based on chemicals that supposed to exert protection and provisioning.
I feel meh
no sex on first date means next
being in the pattern of meh and fuck?
what would happen if you artificially go on a dates with a woman, invest, protect, provision [but not too much so she will not brake up], don't smash until 3rd. Just do beta invested and see will chemicals kick in.
I think I may be in a similar boat and I attribute the lack of instant infatuation with my new girl to the fact it's my first serious LTR where dope (dope: any dopamine releasing substance) isn't a pillar of our foundation.
My emotional highs in this relationship haven't been artificially inflated by narcotics. While that's kinda lame, the emotional lows have been nowhere close to the downs of my past experiences. Thus far anyways.
I don't think I destroyed my pair bonding abilities (nor you @bozza tho idk your details/past) I just think this is more the pace two healthy individuals are suppose to come together. Tho my girl did assimilate to my lifestyle fairly quickly, still spending a little too much time together for such a fresh couple but that could be logiced out.
Over all I was the healthiest I've ever been entering a committed relationship this go around which means I'm more mission focused, equating to a stronger frame.
Ontop of that I knew better than to get with my ex, ignoring the UN of Red Flags before we started dating, then tolerating inexcusable behavior because she agreed to leaving my side of the relationship open. So fuck it why not?
Being the healthiest I've ever been, focusing on my goals/missions plus "knowing better" with my ex but still doing it anyways are the perfect ingredients for me not falling head over heals over this girl. On paper and through experience, she's the highest quality woman I've committed to but I'd prefer things stay this way. It's overall healthier because I lack the obsessive, unchecked infatuation of past committed relationships.
This is how it should be. Mind you we're only in the ends of our honey moon phase (9 months in).
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