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he’s just a friend
For anyone who hasn't heard this song:
Agreed.
Unfortunately for me, she didn’t show this until about 3 months into the relationship. Then it was more, and more, and red flag 5, 6, 7, out all night with her friends, “he’s just a friend”, etc.
She’s 40 years old. FFS.
I had to end it for this and many other reasons. I may write the red flags one day. They are not unque, but they reinforce RP ideas big time.
If I never found reddit or places like this, I’d probably be feeling weird right now, wondering why i feel so ugly inside just because she hung out with her ‘friends’ last night. After all, she has the right to have friends.
Ugh. The blue pill mindset is buried deep in my past, but reminding myself about it is literally painful. Whoever raises their sons to think this way should be fucking shot with non-lethal rounds every day for a month until they apologize and suffer a little.
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No. Fuck her and fuck that.
First of all, I DO know how to dance. That is a young man’s game. I dance at weddings and parties once every few years. At my age, if I am out Salsa dancing on the regular, it would be a HUGE red flag.
And..
Flip this script…
Imagine I like going to strip clubs. Would you say to her “Hey, just go to the strip club with him. Learn how to strip and get a job there. That will make him feel like you want him”
No. You would not say that. The first thing most women would say is
“HEY! THAT'S NOT THE SAME THING!”
Yes. Yes it is exactly the same FUCKING THING!
@Hamzter there are additional tools you can use, like amused mastery, pressure flip, fogging, etc
But A&A is best and easiest
@deeplydisturbed dude what if your girl would like to dance with you, or visit a Salsa class with you, but you can't.
I don't like dancing. I don't know how to dance and IMO it's gay.
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Addendum: look over the conversations on this website. There are several threads that serve as examples of friendly ball-busting.
www.trp.red/feed/status/211177
www.trp.red/feed/status/126113
www.trp.red/feed/status/224371
There are also threads that serve as examples of how not to respond to this:
www.trp.red/feed/status/213702
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@Hamzter that reads more like friendly ball-busting than outright disrespect.
Have you read up on dealing with shit tests? A lot of those methods for dealing with women's shit tests also work within friendly ball-busting among guys.
My favorite go-to is Agree & Amplify.
Buddy: you look like Mr. Bean.
You: good! I hope to have his amount of money soon, too.
Not a great response, but better than silently seething. You get the idea.
Buddy: Stop eating so much you ain't gaining
You: damn, guess I'd better eat even more! Hey, are you going to finish your potatoes?
The key is to be playful. Show that you take neither yourself nor their bullshit seriously.
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