1y ago The Hub
@justaskingstuff Cocky/Funny is a proven winner according to PUA canon. Too harsh and serious is off putting to women, plus do you want to eventually become the kind of Dad who never plays with his kids but is quick to take off his belt and whip them? FWIW I'm somewhat funny/goofy/irreverent outside the work context. Several different women have volunteered that they find they like this better than serious/authoritarian/hardass type guys they've dated in the past.
"Frame" isn't a specific "serious" behavioral archetype. It means solidly maintaining your behavior according to your character even in the face of pressures, and thus influencing and setting the standard and tone for others, rather than the other way around.
Just think, both IRL and in fiction, there are plenty of examples of "funny" villains and badasses.
Read More1y ago The Hub
Are you not supposed to be goofy around women? I feel like that kind of goes against the whole stoic, frame-maintaining mindset TRP preaches about.
Have developed oneitis for a chick I dated a while back. Now she's started dating someone else. I cut off contact, she's 'unsure' what's wrong. I haven't initiated but she's asking me what's up with my behavior. Plus, small oneitis so it hurts a little.
Would I be breaking frame if I say, 'see you like another guy, I'd rather it be me than him. And if that can't happen I do not want a friendship either. I'm doing this for myself.'
I'd be glad to know if there's a better way of handling this.
2y ago The Hub
Have developed oneitis for a chick I dated a while back. Now she's started dating someone else. I cut off contact, she's 'unsure' what's wrong. I haven't initiated but she's asking me what's up with my behavior. Plus, small oneitis so it hurts a little.
Would I be breaking frame if I say, 'see you like another guy, I'd rather it be me than him. And if that can't happen I do not want a friendship either. I'm doing this for myself.'
I'd be glad to know if there's a better way of handling this.
2y ago The Hub
I did weed after a long time yesterday. Apparently, I was the only person high at the party. I did not create much of a scene but this still feels like a kick to the balls in terms of pride and frame.
How do I get back into the right frame? I feel like I've lost respect.
2y ago The Hub
Any good ways to learn kino? The touch barrier seems tough to break sometimes.
2y ago The Hub
Do you guys ever have a voice chat or something? Having and listening to like minds reinforces your own ideals and frame.
2y ago The Hub
@TiberiusBravo87 Sleep loss causes me too much discomfort. I've been taking some ZMA which is helping. This has started during covid, I struggled a few days mentally, don't know what it is exactly but I have a little too many highs and lows with my mood/personality in general. Will consult some doc.
2y ago The Hub
@TiberiusBravo87 Man, I work out and meditate everyday. Don't fap or watch porn. But lately my personality fluctuates so much inbetween highs and lows and its so hard to figure out what's triggering it. One thing I know for sure is, if I achieve something on my To-do list, I'm feeling pretty good about myself. But again, is it really something that must be done just in order to feel good.
Even when practicing Stoicism you can at most accept that this is just a wave of bad emotions/experiences and not the real you, but you still gotta wait out the storm and sometimes that takes wayyy too long.