@First-light

This is very good. The truth put simply. Nice find.

"A half truth is the worst of all lies, because it can be defended in partiality."

― Solon

Here's the other half TRP guys prefer to tune out courtesy of No Choice from "Stonetoss". As always, my condolences to those whom this tragedy applies. Hopefully, this thread will provide insight on a topic TRP regulars avoid discussing.

As I've mentioned regarding my own experiences with, and observations of, pedophiles, I've found that many are too profoundly traumatized psychologically to exercise any discernible control of themselves. As such, I'll use this opportunity to re-introduce everyone to "Crisis Magazine" articles I first plugged in the public square some years ago originally published in 2016 by #JosephNicolosi entitled The Traumatic Foundation of Male Homosexuality and The Traumatic Foundation of Gender Dysphoria

@dizzyboi

Women Leave for Happiness — What If I’m the Unhappy One?

I’ve been married 15 years. Good career(6 figs), stay in shape, live with intention. I realized that I’ve been slowly shrinking to fit inside my wifes comfort zone. Sacrificing myself to try to make her happy by doing what i thought i was supposed to (provide/protect/etc), but....i dont get really anything in return.

My wife is a good woman in the traditional sense — cooks, cleans, caring and loyal. But emotionally, nada. She’s avoidant, defensive and resists everything outside her comfort zone. No hobbies, no curiosity, no willingness.

She says she’s “content but not happy.” I feel obligation, loyalty, and compassion… but no spark, no partnership, no real life together beyond logistics and chores.

Here’s the part I’m wrestling with:

Red Pill talks a lot about women leaving men “because they weren’t happy” — and how men get blindsided. So what happens when I’m the one who isn’t happy? Am I doing the same thing, just in reverse?

I’m not blaming her for everything. I own my mistakes, but she is "dismissive-avoidant".

I’m at the point where separation feels like the only path but part of me wonders if I’m falling into the same trap RP warns about-- chasing “happiness.”

I’m not chasing excitement. I’m chasing a partner who actually engages.

So here’s my question to this community:

How do you tell the difference between:

“I’m unhappy, so I’m leaving” (the thing men get burned by) vs “The relationship has hit a dead end because we’re fundamentally incompatible in growth, effort, and emotional connection.”

I’ve been married 15 years. Good career(6 figs), stay in shape, live with intention. I realized that I’ve been slowly shrinking to fit inside my wifes comfort zone. Sacrificing myself to try to make her happy by doing what i thought i was supposed to (provide/protect/etc), but....i dont get really anything in return.

My wife is a good woman in the traditional sense — cooks, cleans, caring and loyal. But emotionally, nada. She’s avoidant, defensive and resists everything outside her comfort zone. No hobbies, no curiosity, no willingness.

She says she’s “content but not happy.” I feel obligation, loyalty, and compassion… but no spark, no partnership, no real life together beyond logistics and chores.

Here’s the part I’m wrestling with:

Red Pill talks a lot about women leaving men “because they weren’t happy” — and how men get blindsided. So what happens when I’m the one who isn’t happy? Am I doing the same thing, just in reverse?

I’m not blaming her for everything. I own my mistakes, but she is "dismissive-avoidant" ( emotional distance, withdrawal, stonewalling, defensiveness, and difficulty with intimacy/affection)

I’m at the point where separation feels like the only path but part of me wonders if I’m falling into the same trap Red Pill warns about: chasing “happiness.”

Except… I’m not chasing excitement or novelty. I’m chasing life. Growth. A partner who actually engages.

So here’s my question to this community:

How do you tell the difference between:

“I’m unhappy, so I’m leaving” (the thing men get burned by) vs “The relationship has hit a dead end because we’re fundamentally incompatible in growth, effort, and emotional connection.”

I’m trying to avoid cope. I want clarity if this all on me, a natural mismatch, or a necessary hard decision. Friends say, leave & be happy. Maybe I need to man up?

Plan to separate around new year, if not sooner.

I don't disagree with the idea that it's not any mans responsibility to be the source or well spring of happiness in another persons life. Happiness is temporary, fleeting, that's why we value it so much. If she's otherwise content in her relationship with you, you're doing awesome as far as any guys would be concerned. I can only hope that in the litany of questions you've given your wife over the years after noticing her unhappiness, it has helped you to discern if her feelings are purely coincidental to occurring in the marriage, or explicitly due to it. Once you pull the trigger, it will be a very challenging thing for obvious reasons to undo should you change your mind. However, when everything is said and done you don't need our permission or approval with what you're about to initiate.

Whether you do or not, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@DrSuperAceStar

So I’m 25, 5 10 “, 250lb blankan, I had a girlfriend for 2 days then wimped out didn’t even reach first date before I checked out. I’m wondering on what to do I’m hitting like a plateau in lifting I bench max 150 but I’m losing motivation I haven’t done squats but the part to keep me going is not there I need help on that. Also the mental to not give up before first date. I have a court case pending but lawyer says it might be dismissed assault criminal damaging and menacing charges. I’m on disability cause of my accident where the lawnmower severed my toe. What do I do?

Follow your attorneys best advice about your legal matters, your physicians best advice regarding your post surgery, and run those fitness concerns past your gyms personal trainer about these fitness problems, if one's available to you.

Beyond that, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.