@MidgetSpinner

Submissive girl I'm seeing suddenly poured on massive shit tests

Been seeing a girl for over a week now. We've been frequently meeting, staying over at both my place and hers. Things have mostly been very good between us - great sex, great chemistry, great intimacy and affection, great conversation etc.

I spent all day with her today (mistake) for the first time, and things were smooth sailing as usual, but then in the evening she started to become very playful and manic almost. I don't mind the playfulness, as I can be playful back, but she was becoming a bit too much in other ways, for example:

She kept calling me gay this, gay that. I was just ignoring it mostly, or teased her back. I'm no stranger to shit tests or joking around at someone's expense, but she kept doing it and doing it to the point it was getting tedious.

Another thing was that she then started implying I was some sort of a bitch saying, "she fucks me" (she doesn't) because I like it when she gets on top and rides, and then the final straw was her getting out a vibrator and rubbing it against my nipple. I put up with this for over an hour, and then decided I had enough of this attempted emasculation bullshit and left.

Before I did, I told her straight up that she was being a bit too hype and annoying and that I was leaving. She said, "well this is part of how I am, if you don't like it then go". So I did.

This girl is 1000% into me, and I do like her too - everything was cool but it was almost as though she was a completely different person last night. She went from being this sweet, affectionate and compliant girl I'd been experiencing all week, to some bipolar/hyper aggressive girl all of a sudden. It was strange, it felt like she was actively trying to push me away.

For context: I'm 37 male, she's 28 female. She has been consistently obsessed and devoted to me the entire time we've been seeing eachother. I'm not saying she lost any interest tonight, but her weird fucking behaviour put me right off.

I'm just wondering if anyone could tell me wtf this sudden behaviour is lmao. I haven't messaged her since. I didn't get angry or defensive, I just simply said "You're being a bit too much, and I'm going" and I just left.

Of course she tried to push you away. You're thirty-seven years old with one-itis for a chick you've only known for a few weeks. That's a red flag if ever there was one now matter how unstable the female herself might otherwise be. Study the book and maintain discipline.

@retired_beta

AMOG Fail?

Went to the bar the other night to chill and as I was walking to my car after it closed I inserted myself into a set of 2 girls (roomates) and a guy outside his car parked next to mine. Started chatting with both the guy and Girl A who was pretty receptive. It became clear after a few minutes that the girls weren't that into him and were only sticking around because of the prospect of drugs at his house and also they lived in the same town so it would've made for a cheaper Uber ride from his place to theirs.

At first, I recognized this dudes game was pretty trash and he didn't know how to pass any shit tests. But I didn't really know what the plans/logistics were at this point so I decided to stay cool with him throughout the interaction. I knew I looked liked the better sexual option comparatively, so I started to chat up the more talkative Girl A and passed some of her shit tests. The dude chimmed in a few times and got a few disgusted looks which I don't think he picked up on so I tried to subtly to wing for him without seeming like I was placating. Quickly stopped after I realized that he couldn't be helped, so I decided to still stay cool with him but in a more neutral way.

After, I switched my focus to Girl B who was more chill and honestly, better looking. I semi-isolate and let her tell me about her life while I slowly escalated until they decided to get ready to leave. The girls waited in the car while me and dude talked for a minute. I asked what his game plan was and which chick he was going for (got a vague response) and he agreed to let me follow him in my car in to go back to his place for the afterparty.

This is where things get funny. He drove in a circle around the area while speeding and was obviously trying to lose me. He parked on the side of the road so I got out to see what the situation was. When I got to his car he let who I assume was his fellow beta-friend in the car. I'm sure this was already his plan from the get-go and in his head, he didn't need some AMOG stepping on his toes. At this point Girl A was verbally displeased ("I think I'm just gonna go home") but I didn't really have any cards to play here, as everyone was in the car except me and clearly the dude didn't want me involved anymore so I just decide to peace out, then they leave.

I think what I should've done is gotten Girl B's contact information when I had the chance in case they wanted to ditch the guy later. I also should've kept a closer eye on the dude's impression of me instead of assuming we were on the same team. At least this way I could've saw the obvious betrayal coming and planned accordingly. But all-in-all it was a good learning experience.

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@Lostandhound

How to make plates that have had a threesome together already, make comfortable/easy about spending some nonsexual time together?

Last time I got my plates to spend some time together after sex. They prepared breakfast right after sex and did some kitchen stuff still naked while I was elsewhere.

Then I took em for a ride/walk to a nice spot, sat them at the back so I have peace driving and preventing one trying to force getting my attention and made the other one jealous.

IDK is walking around small kitchen flashing a pussy while I'm not there a sign of being uncomfortable - I rather assume it is build up to slowly trickle play me.

One of the plates told me she is not comfortable about it later on and she doesnt want to hang out with the other one, but that might be as well her game to just eliminate a competition or not to be in direct competition. The other one is willing to do more concessions so doesn't complain about it.

If I have had another plate that is ready to do this shit then I would have an answer, but...

They both are not bad plates and I would rather give a go at gaming them the right way than cycle plates [especially I dont have any more for the same purpose].

I guess I could play the withdrawal game suggesting abundance and sure it is one option, except one of this plates is temporary by design so I would rather try a different approach as I don't have that much time to learn something new nor to play long brakes game.

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@Jackmoter

Ideas to Develop a Healthy Relationship with Dating Apps Themselves?

I’ve recently jumped back into dating apps after a relationship, but I’m finding them highly addictive and overstimulating. Having cut out all social media, I’m likely more sensitive to the dopamine trap. The urge to check likes and matches multiple times a day is intense, and after a while, it feels like the mental haze of scrolling mindless brain rot Instagram Reels for too long.

I’ve tried app blockers to limit myself to 10-30 minutes a day, but it's not exactly a fool-proof solution.

I assume I am not the only one who finds an app which spits beautiful women at you addicting - what solutions have people come up with? And to those who are wise but have no need for the apps, what solutions can you theoretically propose?

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

AMOG Fail?

Went to the bar the other night to chill and as I was walking to my car after it closed I inserted myself into a set of 2 girls (roomates) and a guy outside his car parked next to mine. Started chatting with both the guy and Girl A who was pretty receptive. It became clear after a few minutes that the girls weren't that into him and were only sticking around because of the prospect of drugs at his house and also they lived in the same town so it would've made for a cheaper Uber ride from his place to theirs.

At first, I recognized this dudes game was pretty trash and he didn't know how to pass any shit tests. But I didn't really know what the plans/logistics were at this point so I decided to stay cool with him throughout the interaction. I knew I looked liked the better sexual option comparatively, so I started to chat up the more talkative Girl A and passed some of her shit tests. The dude chimmed in a few times and got a few disgusted looks which I don't think he picked up on so I tried to subtly to wing for him without seeming like I was placating. Quickly stopped after I realized that he couldn't be helped, so I decided to still stay cool with him but in a more neutral way.

After, I switched my focus to Girl B who was more chill and honestly, better looking. I semi-isolate and let her tell me about her life while I slowly escalated until they decided to get ready to leave. The girls waited in the car while me and dude talked for a minute. I asked what his game plan was and which chick he was going for (got a vague response) and he agreed to let me follow him in my car in to go back to his place for the afterparty.

This is where things get funny. He drove in a circle around the area while speeding and was obviously trying to lose me. He parked on the side of the road so I got out to see what the situation was. When I got to his car he let who I assume was his fellow beta-friend in the car. I'm sure this was already his plan from the get-go and in his head, he didn't need some AMOG stepping on his toes. At this point Girl A was verbally displeased ("I think I'm just gonna go home") but I didn't really have any cards to play here, as everyone was in the car except me and clearly the dude didn't want me involved anymore so I just decide to peace out, then they leave.

I think what I should've done is gotten Girl B's contact information when I had the chance in case they wanted to ditch the guy later. I also should've kept a closer eye on the dude's impression of me instead of assuming we were on the same team. At least this way I could've saw the obvious betrayal coming and planned accordingly. But all-in-all it was a good learning experience.

@Prestigious-Exam-599

Got back with the love of my life, want to keep my frame, need AskTRP perspective

I’ll try to make this long story short.

I met my girlfriend about 3 years ago. We lived together for about a year and a half. She was a great girlfriend, loyal, never cheated, never broke my trust. But I broke things off because I felt she was lazy and thought I could find a better option. I admit I spoiled her a lot because I loved her.

3 months after the breakup, I missed her and reached back out. She was honest and told me she had met someone new at her job and wanted to explore that. I respected it and stepped back.

She dated that guy for a year. During that whole time, I was still helping support her mom and brother (something I had always done, since I cared about them deeply). At one point she and that guy broke up for 2 weeks, during which she reconnected with me. We hooked up, talked every day, and I thought we were on track to get back together, but she went back to him.

Fast forward to the start of this year: I was arrested, my assets seized, and I went from living with big houses and cars to starting over. Even then, I still supported her family (and now). A little while later she finally broke up with that guy, and after a month or so she reached out to me again. By then, I didn’t have my lifestyle anymore, so I know she didn’t come back just for money.

We started taking things slow. Recently while laying in bed she told me: “After that 2-week split with my ex, I knew we’d eventually get back together. I just needed to make a clean exit with him and make sure I was making the right decision.” Later, she told me things like: “I love you so much,” “You make me feel like the happiest woman alive,” “You’re mine forever.”

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My interpretation: • On one hand, I believe she’s the love of my life. She came back to me after I lost everything, which makes me think her love is genuine. • On the other hand, I know I’ve been guilty of pedestalizing her and her family. I also realize I haven’t always held frame — I’ve been more focused on keeping her happy than on setting boundaries. • I want this LTR to work, but I want to do it without slipping back into old patterns.

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My questions to AskTRP:

1. How should I navigate this LTR going forward?
2. How do I keep my frame and avoid falling into the “provider” role again while giving this LTR a chance?
3. What boundaries would you set in my situation (especially regarding her family)?
4. What red flags should I watch out for moving forward?

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@BrainDamagedIncel

Question on Ways to Approach 'Petulance Teasing'

Ya obviously it's some type of shit test. Context is we've been together for a while like at least a year ('LTR')

By petulance teasing I mean she goes 'hmf!! u like spending friendw tih ur friends more than me! (eg cycling bros, programmer bros)'. It's a very obvious played-for-tease thing but I have no idea what way(s) to deal with it are.

So far I've been doing some combination of the 2:

• ignoring her and continuing with what I want to talk about
• acknowledging with slight confusion and mirth but not directly dealing with the bullshit

These 2 I usually do by

• continuing to talk over her about the original subject (disregarding the tease)
• memeing about some random occurrence from my original subject (or the tease) eg. about needing to train my gleuts so I can be thicc like my cycling bros

I realize I'm at risk of actually entering her bullshit frame in this shit test (still). So I was wondering:

What other ways are there? I think it's not a very live-or-die shit test even though it comes off aggro/passive aggro a lot of the time before she switches back bc I accidentally made her laugh or highlighted a subject that made her interested

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.