@sharknado

O What do you guys thing of the black pill and the rise in popularity of looksmaxxing? i'm sure you have answered this before but i am curious on what you think the importance of looks in dating is. I used to use this website when i was younger for learning game, i have grown older now and just thought i'd have a look

www.youtube.com/watch?v=NtwiAkUj5Go

Black pilled guys strike me as working through the stages of grief, but stuck specifically on depression for some reason. It's similar to what I see with guys expressing red pill rage, they're hung up on the anger stage of grief for their own reasons. Finding out you've been lied to for most of your life forces you to reprocess a lot of past information and experience as you realign your thinking.

Looks-maxing is unsettling to me, because while being good looking has importance, guys who subscribe to it with such intensity tend to be narcissists. I think a lot of guys who subscribe to that thinking are otherwise stuck in the denial stage of grief. They know enough to grasp that the guy they are at the time of realization isn't one others will find attractive. So, they delude themselves into thinking that if they consume product, develop a body builder physique, or internalize the current media assigned thing that this will make them attractive. It doesn't go well for the ones who can't grasp that that alone isn't going to enable them to achieve their goals.

Reality is that productive men are in a constant state of revision and improvement. So long as a guy steers clear of drugs, sex, and violence during those time of reflection they'll come out of it for the better.

@Saltycroc

Plate ended things- where did I go wrong?

I've been seeing this girl since October, I met her at a halloween party, where she cheated on her boyfriend with me. I kept talking to her, went on a few dates and we had sex twice since the party. I woke up seeing she removed me on snapchat and a message from her saying "your ego is too big and its not funny any more so I'm going to remove you" I hadn't messaged her for about 5 days before this, so maybe that was the reason? Maybe I was too much of an "asshole" and didn't show enough beta qualities to keep her around longer?

is there any way to salvage this? I feel like if she was serious about ending things she would have blocked me instead of just removing me (I can still message her), but maybe that's just my big ego lol.

If not, would anyone have an idea as to where I went wrong?

Study the book. Nothing of value was lost on your part. Plates break. It's just what they do. If anything, you dodged a bullet with this one.

It reads like you both were having yourselves some nice sloppy fun until she decided to make the pseudo-dramatic online exit. Thing is, a plate exiting from your life is inevitable, so why care? You weren't looking to be exclusive with her, and her attempting to monkey branch to you from her boyfriend, she demonstrated a clear inability to be loyal.

Plate ended things- where did I go wrong?

I've been seeing this girl since October, I met her at a halloween party, where she cheated on her boyfriend with me. I kept talking to her, went on a few dates and we had sex twice since the party. I woke up seeing she removed me on snapchat and a message from her saying "your ego is too big and its not funny any more so I'm going to remove you" I hadn't messaged her for about 5 days before this, so maybe that was the reason? Maybe I was too much of an "asshole" and didn't show enough beta qualities to keep her around longer?

is there any way to salvage this? I feel like if she was serious about ending things she would have blocked me instead of just removing me (I can still message her), but maybe that's just my big ego lol.

If not, would anyone have an idea as to where I went wrong?

@brazilianxof

35 and thinking i can't make up for the lost time

Profile: 35 my, 1.86m. I make now and finally 10k a month steadly, after making no shit from 0 to 30 and some shit from 30 to 35.

I have my own middle class car and apartment.

For the past year i had a thing with a girl, that i thought was more than a "joke". Yet, she started coming up with rules, after telling stories that why she made those (ex: i dont do this because once i did and didnt go well - translation i did with other guy but you go wait over there).

The last drop was she going dinner with a dude who told her, me, and all the world he wants to date her. Although is a fat old (like 65) dude who is a work colleague, i had already expressed my opposition to this friendship, because of his overtly said intentions. After that and i saying i'm "done", she sent something basically as i'm just being annoyingly pushy and stupid and tried do make me feel bad for the guy. Well, i said basically the "stay well" and "be gone", with no more than 5 words or so.

Now i'm here at 35 rusty and i don't even know how to go flirt anymore. To be honest i feel old and ridiculous at doing so.

TLDR i feel old ugly and rusty. Im 35 and no hair. Yes i'm in shape but woman at 35-40 gap are married or traumatized and with the 25ish i feel weird

On average most relationships will end in break-ups. Some of it is due to what we've done, but much of it will also be due to what the other party did as well. Better to find out that you and her weren't compatible now, rather than after several bitter years of marriage with children, like so many other guys do.

It reads like you've got a good idea where things went wrong, both in your mate selection, and how you handled the challenge of your relationship while working to earn 10k R$ a month. I'm confident that you'll take the steps to not repeat the bad things and build on the good things you learned during that relationship. If you haven't done so, consider adding her contact info to your tech/telephone block list, packing up anything that reminds you of the ex to give to charity, and take the time you need to process this change in your life.

When you've finished mulling over things, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@Machiaspinner

Situation handled well or not?

Hello guys, I need some outside perspective on a situation.

I’ve been in an FWB situation with this girl (22 yo student , low income family , 7,5/10) for about 4 months. I was vetting her for a possible LDR (even though I know LDRs rarely work). She travels to see me often (1 hour distance).

She’s feminine, in my frame , cooks, sex is good and available on demand.

I still live with my family due to their health situation. Because of that, I’ve been paying for all dates and also covering logistics, which adds extra cost.

For 4 months, the dynamic was smooth and low drama. No demands, no pressure.

Things shifted when Valentine’s Day and her birthday (same week) came up. I voluntarily suggested a plan: a nice restaurant and stay together for the week-end (because I wanted to, not because she asked) , i also had the idea to give her something cheap as a gift. During the discussion, she said: “You still have time to think about the gift.”

That line immediately hit me ( give an inch, she wants a mile) . I told her , then paying for a diner doesn’t count as a gift and it’s nothing so i need to bring a gift in addition, that’s it? She said she wanted a gift to keep and remember me. I told her it’s strange that she needs a physical object to remember me, and that if the dinner isn’t seen as a gift, I’d rather cancel it altogether. She backtracked—“No, the plan was perfect”.

I ended the conversation and shut the topic down. This situation really made me angry althought i stayed stoic on the outside.No woman has ever told me to bring a gift.

Did I handle this situatiln correctly ? Should I demote her to a plate (even though she’s currently my only one , scarcity ..)? Or is the correct move to walk away completely.

Thank you a lot folks.

She tried to manipulate you into getting gifts in addition to a costly meal out. You squashed that effort. Only time will tell whether the situation was handled well or not, but situations like that are an unavoidable part of relationships. Sadly, all females do this and you'll have to be prepared.

It reads like what you need to do is conclusively sort out what kind of relationship you've presently got with her and what sort you want to actually have. Whether it's friend with benefits, long distance relationship, plate, or something else, I leave for you both to figure out. You don't need our permission or approval whatever you decide. However, if she's not someone you've any interest in being exclusive with you shouldn't celebrate birthdays, Saint Valentine's day, or other holidays with more than a card until they're constantly introducing you to everyone they know as 'my boyfriend' on their own initiative.

Study the book. If you're planning to relocate elsewhere, it's probably for the best you cut her loose though. It frees you both to pursue the locals wherever you plan to be without concerning yourself with someone you can't physically be there for.

@FuzzyGorilla

How to deal with a dysfunctional family?

As the title states that's really what I've been wondering lately. I've considered talking with a therapist as well. I have goals I want to achieve in my own life and I'm sick of my dysfunctional family dragging me under. I'm sure some people have way worse s**t going on in their families than me, but hopefully this helps them as well.

Personally: My parents constantly fight. This has been going on since I was a kid. My father was always working and what most RP people might call a "nice guy". My mother would talk s**t about my dad often in front of me and my siblings. They would get into big arguments it seemed like on a regular basis. My father never really showed alot of love towards my mother either, or even seemed to try and fix things between both of them. I believe this affected my early dating life. I got very little if any guidance on how to approach relationships with women. Ironically one time my father actually asked ME for advice with my mother.

I don't know all the specifics but I would suspect their relationship is a dead bedroom. My mother told me relatively recently she caught my father watching porn and talking to other women on facebook. I'm not sure as to the details, accuracy, etc. I honestly think I just disassociated with this, and refused to let myself get involved. There was other more important and heavier things happening at that time as well, and I never confronted my dad on this.

They continue to get in arguments, seemingly more frequently since then. And my mother continuously accuses him of cheating or talking to "his girlfriends". I asked my father what was going on between them and he actually told me something along the lines of "this has been going on for awhile, and it's no more Mr Nice guy".

My mother acts more and more in a feminist/independent way as this drama continues, not in a motherly way as one might expect. Additionally, I continue to learn rumors and whispers of both their past history. This includes possible drug use from my father, and more disappointing is hearing rumors of my mother working as a stripper in her past.

This has affected my brother as well, I believe. I won't get into details about that, but I see his development and guidance in life just turned out worse than mine. He is doing way better for himself though lately and also seems to disassociate from this drama. I'm proud of the direction he's turned his life around in.

Again, I know this level of drama is nothing, but living with them and constantly feeling this tension just brings my mood down incredibly. I'm not depressed, I just feel betrayed by the instability. I recently started heavily drinking just to try and forget about most of this. I have since put the bottle down, but I am struggling to figure out how to deal with this still.

Part of me feels some level of responsibility to help resolve this drama, but I also like to remind myself, my parents are both approaching 70, which makes this feel beyond ridiculous they haven't fixed things themselves at this point, and being together for 30+ years.

Quite a few guys have posted about moving back in with their parents since the Covid-19 psy-op a few years back. Bizarrely enough, many also share how they're reminded of the discord and dysfunction in their parents homes which prompted them to leave to begin with. Trauma and co-dependency issues are no joke. You should make the time to understand and deal with yours when you can.

As for the situation with your parents, if you haven't started doing so, find a place of your own that's a reasonable distance from their home to relocate to. While there's nothing you can actively do to engage this matter, maybe an old dog can indeed learn new tricks. You can at least provide your surprisingly internet savvy father some sources of information to consider going forward with the links below. If he decides he wants to read any of the books these people have put out, be sure to introduce him to free ebook websites like libgen and ebook managers like Calibre.

• Doc Love's Dating Tips for Men
• Anonymous Conservative
• Richard Cooper's Entrepreneurs in Cars
• Married Red Pill
• Athol Kay
• Dr. Robert A. Glover
• Chateau Heartiste
• Rollo Tomassi's The Rational Male

Best of luck to you both.

@yinandyang

25 no skills criminal background currently in university what do i do?

hello, im 25 male and live in houston texas. what do i do? ive had over 10 different jobs in the past 2 years and i cannot keep a job for more than 2 months max. i tattooed my face, and i have drunk driving charge and assault charge i am going to trial for on january 30th. so i keep getting denied every job i apply to because of my background check. what do i do? and also can anyone help me write a resume? i am also in university i start my classes this week. my school does not know about my criminal charges. i cannot keep any of the jobs i had, how do i keep a job for more than 2 months? i hate every job i ever had. i cannot make any money and i live with my dad at 25 which makes me feel like the biggest loser, because i would like to have my own house and move multiple girlfriends into my house to live with me and have kids with all my different girlfriends. but i cannot do that cuz im broke and dont have a job and cant get a job with my criminal charges. i also have tattoo on my face. and i am also partially deaf and i have a speech impediment. so my hearing issues and speech issues also make having a job difficult. but i dont want to be dependent on my dad. and my dad hates that i live with him he wants me to move out he yells at me a lot and gets mad at me a lot too and he doesn't like it when i have women over sometimes he yells at the women i have over. so he actively makes living with him uncomfortable. ill tell you about my work history, i started off at 18 working in the nursing home as a certified nurse's aide and did that till i was 19 and a half. i didn't really like it, it was gruel, brutal work. seeing people die all the time, old people in misery, suffering depression, injuries, illnesses, constantly in pain. that put the fear of growing old in me, id rather die before growing old. and hard on the body lifting heavy old people who can't move. so then at 20 or 21 i got a job as a home health aide and i would go to old people's homes and take care of them cook for them clean for them make sure they eat their pills. it was ok but it was crap pay 15 dollars per hour and i didn't really like the work it was either really boring or some of the old people were difficult and mean to me. so i did that for a while maybe a year or two. i have an associate of science degree i graduated with at age 20. so then since then ive just had a string of around 10 or 15 jobs. i went to electrical school for like 4 months and i got a job as an electrician and got fired after 3 days and i have been unable to get a job as an electrician since. and neither of the electrician's unions near me will take me either. so i already tried the trades. i know someone will chime in telling me to join the military, and i wanted to join the Marines at age 18 but I can't cuz im deaf. I don't know what i want to do. I've had around 5 different sales jobs over the past 2 years but i can't keep any of them more than a couple months cuz im simply bad at sales. All of them were door to door sales jobs and I'm simply not good at sales. I think probably cuz i'm partially deaf and i have a strange voice a lot of people think i must be disabled or mentally ill because of the way my voice sounds but im not disabled. there are some paths ive thought about trying but haven't committed to them yet. i tried to study for my IT cert i forget the name of it, but i didn't know how to study and found it intimidating. i have considered becoming a personal trainer because i like to go to the gym, but i don't think it's worth it to study for personal trainer certificates and only make around 12 to 15 dollars per hour. i have thought about taking a real estate class to become a real estate agent, but i don't know if have what it takes, with the face tattoo and being deaf and having a strange sounding voice, and being bad at sales in general, i don't know if ill actually be able to sell a lot of houses. i could try tho, would certainly be better than trying nothing at least. a friend told me to just study coding and i tried but i wasn't able to stay dedicated to it and fizzled out fast. i am in university right now and im majoring in Integrated Studies which is basically like a generic or interdisciplinary bachelors degree. i tried to major in business but my gpa isn't good enough for business school. so since i cannot get a job i guess i will just stay in university for now and maybe get a master's degree. does anyone know how i can get my criminal record expunged as soon as trial is over? has anyone else been here before facing the same challenges im facing? is anyone else here partially deaf? have any of you managed to overcome having serious criminal charges like drunk driving and assault and been able to make a lot of money? and i tried starting my own business i started an ebay dropshipping business and it was profitable at first i was genuinely making money, but i was paying 200 a month for the ai software to help me do it, and yes it paid for it self at first with profit on top. but over christmas i got screwed over because i had way too many orders that got delayed due to the christmas rush and i had to refund like 50 people and i lost all my money so my ebay store failed. ive tried so many different things and im still a failure at life. what should i do from here? i dont really know what i like, to be honest, to tell you the truth, the only thing i care about is sex, i am always trying to have sex with new women and hotter girls. i had sex with 15 women in 2025. thats my main hobby is going out to clubs and going out in the middle of the day to pick up girls and have sex with them. im not that good at it tho, and money is the main thing holding me back in life right now. i know for a fact if i had my own place and a small fortune i would be able to utilize the money in such a way to have my life constantly filled with women, even more than it is now. so that is why i want to make money, so that i can have several girlfriends who are living with me. i am considering taking my TABC and my food handler's certificate so that i can work in a bar or restaurant. and i have quit alcohol by the way and quit doing drugs and i dont smoke, so ive been sober for almost 8 months. will restaurants take me with my criminal back ground? how can i find a job that will accept my criminal background and let me work part time through university i have 4 university classes this semester. i want to have a beautiful life, a gorgeous life, full of gorgeous women, i want to have many children and raise them to their full potential. but right now, im objectively a loser in every sense of the word and ive actually have tried so many different things but just fail at literally everything i try. i am incapable of making money and getting my own place and incapable of having a job. for what its worth i did diagnose myself with adhd before and went and got an adderall prescription then got motivated to get my life together i performed better at work and was better about doing my homework when i was on adderall. but i hate taking drugs and i dont want to take adderall again. i think part of me just wanted to get high and i dont think i actually have adhd anymore. but i do feel like theres something else wrong with my brain. cuz i just cant make any money no matter what i try. can anyone recommend me some career paths to look into? and what kind of jobs i can work part time through university with a serious criminal background? and they are 2 misdemeanors charges and my first arrest ever but i still cannot get a job. help. if you live in houston texas and could meet up to help, give me some advice, or give me a job to do, let me know,

Calm your balls. ^That wall of text is of little aid for anyone to dig through who might sincerely want to help you, but thankfully the resources needed to help you engage your problems are all readily available to you without us.

Consider running your questions one at a time through an AI assisted search engine like brave or google and follow-up on the most useful results provided to you. I got promising results with the search phrase "tattoo removal former felons houston texas" alone you could probably work with. Beyond that, follow your attorney's counsel, keep yourself out of trouble, and best of luck to you going forward. Come back when you've calmed down some and made positive progress regarding your situation.