@Machiaspinner

Is it just a matter of time untill this plate will break

Hello everyone

I've been seeing this girl for about two months. She lives in another city (1h by car) where I have some friends, so I only go there once a month. She's 21F, around a 7.5/10, and the first dates went really well , she showed interest, escalation was smooth.

On our second date we made out, but I had to go back to my city. She later came to visit me, I invited her to dinner, we hooked up and she spent the night. I saw her again when I went to her city, we slept together again.

The issue started when I told her I had a “surprise” for her. What I meant was that I was going to give her a very good time in bed , and I did , she complimented me at bed but who cares she can say this to everyone . She later mentioned she was “waiting for the surprise,” and I got the impression she was expecting something material, which I’m not doing.

Then she reached out again, saying she wanted to come to my city, but she kept pushing to know exactly what we were going to do and if it gonna be more interesting than last times , almost like if my plan didn’t impress her, she wouldn’t come. I told her to come and discover, but she kept insisting. After that she sent me some sexy picture in the lingerie she was wearing last time , and asked me if i miss the red cold , i liked the picture and told her i like red color and looking to see what she gonna wear next time in order to not seem needy .

Looking back, the problem is that I positioned myself as a provider. She’s a student, and I paid for all the dates and now she’s pushing for more. She does show some qualities for an LTR, but since it would be long-distance, I’m questioning if it’s worth it especially that she is hypersexual.

So now I’m wondering: Should I see her one last time and close it properly, or should I just walk away and consider this plate done (She is the only plate i sleep with i have now ,but i'm seeing other girls , scarcity...) ?

Some guys come through here claiming to be banging overseas, while many don't. Whether they are or not isn't the point. What you might consider long distance for yourself, another guy might at worst see as just a mildly tedious commute, as such, 'long distance' won't apply in this situation due those variables. In time, you might be able to realize more convenient fornication opportunities, but I don't imagine you achieving them with this chick without some serious headache.

For now, you should study the book and limit how much time a month you spend on her. This female being a college student usually means that she's both sexually more experienced with guys than you are with females and earns a low-income, so whenever you take her out her empty purse shouldn't be a surprise.

That you value your professional time and energy differently than your personal time and energy is the problem, which is why so many guys position themselves as a provider. Unfortunately, the situation is that your game is inferior to this females ability to manipulate men. Your willingness to spend time communicating with her remotely, expend energy traveling by car to spend time with her, and your eagerness to host her at your place not only revealed your level of interest, but also made her aware that she's got no competition for you.

That she's been willing to travel to your place suggests that so far you haven't done anything to kill her interest, which is good, but you should definitely listen to your gut and continue engaging other females so as to create abundance through stacking plates. I'd also suggest that you seriously reconsider how you value your personal the time and energy differently than how you value the time and energy you spend at work.

@Nattynutty

Stating she won’t go back to mine before we’ve had the date.

I met this girl at a party a month ago. She took me back to hers and we fucked.

Two weeks later we went on a date to a cocktail bar were i acted as if sex was the last thing on my mind and she became super keen to go back to mine. So we did and we fucked.

I set up a date with her to go for a fancy dinner and then go to an arcade for this weekend but she called me to say she needs to know what time we’re finishing to so that she can go to her parents house right after and that she won’t be coming back to mine.

Do I: A. Cancel my reservations and tell her on the day theres a change of plans we’re going back to mine. B. Cancel the date and soft next C. Go through with it and see if she changes her mind whilst we’re there

Advice would be greatly appreciated

Option "A" removes any doubt in her mind that your goal is primarily sex, not a relationship. Option "B" allows you to maintain the mystery. Option "C" implies you're cool with not getting laid and willing to defer to her parents, which I doubt you are. Of the options you present, only two are viable.

You could go with option "D", cancel the reservation, and date so you're free to resume looking for more single girls. With the holidays being both next week and the time of year people break up, it shouldn't be too difficult replacing her or to begin stacking plates.

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

Stating she won’t go back to mine before we’ve had the date.

I met this girl at a party a month ago. She took me back to hers and we fucked.

Two weeks later we went on a date to a cocktail bar were i acted as if sex was the last thing on my mind and she became super keen to go back to mine. So we did and we fucked.

I set up a date with her to go for a fancy dinner and then go to an arcade for this weekend but she called me to say she needs to know what time we’re finishing to so that she can go to her parents house right after and that she won’t be coming back to mine.

Do I: A. Cancel my reservations and tell her on the day theres a change of plans we’re going back to mine. B. Cancel the date and soft next C. Go through with it and see if she changes her mind whilst we’re there

Advice would be greatly appreciated

@qzone

Field Report: Blond at the Bar

I'm in a sticky situation at the moment; due to the passing of my mother more recently than not, I'm stuck in my home town with a population of a few tens of thousands to support my grandfather and stepfather in dealing with her affairs and support them. My grandfather is not in great health, and probably doesn't have a lot of years left, so I am here for the foreseeable future, though I'd rather be somewhere where abundance is possible. But we are at where we are at.

Fast forward to last Sunday: I'm at the gym and there's a cute curly haired blond doing one of those pussy maxing leg hip workout machines you will never see a straight man do. I strike up a conversation; ask her why this gym and not the other gyms in town that while slightly more expensive are certainly less shitty. We talk for five or ten minutes, I offer to buy her a drink or dinner this week... she agrees. Good job with a good income, good family it seems like. We trade numbers and I go back to lifting.

Later on in my set she is working out by me. I reopen. She says "I'm free pretty much any night of the week". We set the date for Monday, the next day, at eight. The date goes well enough. Again, she seems inexperienced. I avoided talking about dating or sexual history because, dating history is a waste of time for the first date, and I avoid sexual history because I had trouble creating sexual energy with her which I do not normally have trouble with. We have a whole lot in common, she is incredibly pretty, and we click though I struggle to make romantic or sexual energy with this girl. We make out a couple times. She is an abysmal kisser. The date lasts an hour and a half (I thought it was much longer, it felt so). As we are walking out to what I assume would be switch venues at 9:30. When I offer to switch venues she says "I have 25 minute drive and I work at eight in the morning". I don't know about you all but if I am very attracted to someone and having a good time, I will stay up past 10 PM. During the date, we had talked about both enjoying cooking. She said she loves soup, said she has never tried butternut squash soup. At the end of the date I said "let's get together this week and make that soup?" (Perhaps this was an overinvestment). She agrees, saying she is interested any day of the week that works for me.

Following the date, I wait till Wednesday at the end of the work day to text her at all since I committed heavy at the end of the date... ball in her court. I text her saying "hey, tomorrow at 5:30 work for you to make that soup? We'll have to run to the store first". She takes hours and hours to respond, and after some coordination ping pong run around, she says "I got out of a relationship a month or two and I'm not ready for anything serious yet, I'm sorry etc. etc.". I say "I understand completely, I'm cool with hanging out without a label as the goal. Let me know when you're free and we will keep it casual." A few texts since then but I've been leaving the ball in her court and keeping my texts short on the off chance she offers a time and place since this chick has probably NEXTed me and is being nice, and I don't want to waste time texting a bunch with someone just being nice. Also for context, I didn't mention anything about my mother.

We hold the L and soldier on with more day game. That one stings, I liked her quite a bit. We had a lot in common. Any critiques or thoughts?

An abundance mindset must first be planned and executed before it's ever realized. Regardless, it reads like the interest wasn't mutual. While disappointing, that's alright. Better to find out you and her weren't a good fit early on than after several years of marriage with children.

There's not enough info to say if the outcome of the date was due to you being mentally preoccupied in dealing with family matters, but not every guy can fake enthusiasm to follow through with everything. That your family situation concerns you enough to bring it up with us compels me to encourage you to take all the time you need, then take a rest after sorting your late mother's affairs. Consider using this time to study the book and look into finding a few hobbies to otherwise occupy your mind.

@MrSupreme

Do you know supplements?

Hi everyone! I've been taking my 50mg Zinc and effects have been great. No worries there.ç I'd like to know what else I should take,because I'm really into taking supplements lately, just to boost my performance and overall wellness.

I was thinking a multivitamin like Centrum, that could work. But I know there's other stuff around like:

-Ashwaghanda -Spirulina

I've researched a bit and I know there's a thin line between a great, good working supplement and a "superfood" trend like the "Spirulina" thing seems to be.

I'm looking to optimize my energy levels too, work is not stressful but I have been investing a huge amount of time on it lately.

I think the ashwaghanda might be nice, still researching.

But as this is the Red Pill (unplugging from the matrix), I want to ask:

what do you guys know about supplements,vitamins and other things that could bring wellness to my life, including my sexual performance, for my workouts (no gym yet,just strength and calisthenics), for my energy levels,sleep quality, and anything that can help me improve myself. Zing has been great, had the best flu I've had in years, lasted a few days and only a few symptoms, along with the other stuff it brings.

What do you take? What should I know?

Here's a good enough starting point to consider for yourself.