I'll give her props is she's genuinely looking only for serious relationships at 21. But she's doing it on dating apps. Assuming she's still in college there are tons of guys IRL literally walking past her dorm room every day that she could meet. Heck, hang out in the engineering building in a cute outfit and walk out with a handful of potential guys who would be thanking their lucky stars to get a girlfriend, and who, in a couple of years, will probably be making six figures and would be happy to start a life with you.

But... Those dudes are short. And don't have six packs... So she's forced -- forced, I tell you! -- to go on dating apps instead and swipe on hawt dudes who have 5 other girls lined up that week. Why oh why is this plan of hers not working???

One note: she says with all the guys they agreed they wanted a serious relationship. I doubt it. That's what she convinced herself they meant, because she wanted to continue dating them. Women decide who tingles their vagina, then create whatever story in their mind that they need to reconcile this man with the image of who she thinks she ought to be dating. The easiest person for a woman to delude is herself. I've seen it. Years ago my housemate at the time was a player. And to a woman there were all convinced he wanted a "serious relationship". Even the ones that literally knew he was seeing other women at that very same time. And the truth is he never told them a lie. It was all omitting just enough to create enough ambiguity that the woman would trick herself into believing what she wanted, and then never ask the question again (at least for a few months / years, by which time he was happy to let them go anyway).

And finally, I have to chuckle at the dude who explained he had to cut it off for his mental health. That's the most original "it's not you, it's me" variation I've heard in years. Not only does it validate her (she's worthy of commitment), it validates him (he's getting attached) while weaponizing therapy-speak to ensure that the knifing he delivers can't be used to call him an asshole. Protecting your mental health? Why, this guy should be commended for being so into wellbeing and mindfulness! He couldn't have landed that exit better if he told her his emotional support gerbil was going off too many times and that was a sign that he needed to heal his traumas more before getting into a relationship this beautiful.

Ive been reading redpill theories on r/Theredpill.

Ive seen posts saying deep conversations are good to have with women because it adds mystery and during the conversation it makes her feel like she is on an adventure/adds depth to your character. It makes her want to find out more about you and want to “peel back the layers” of who you are.

On the other hand, ive seen posts saying that no woman wants to have an actual conversation with you. They just want to see a hot guy, exchange social graces, get a good feel for yours, and if you demonstrate social aptitude, fuck you. Only betas think talking about “real” “deep” stuff is interesting to girls. If you have an actual conversation with her, thats when shit starts to get real and that makes her uncomfortable and feel awkward. Instead, you should just “chat shit” and have a stupid, light hearted “fun” convo.

You know, if we were to try to explain it to a woman that doesn't understand why this woman's strategy doesn't work, I will try to explain it here.

Most modern women realise without even having it explained to them that they can punch above their weight in the market place of sexual exchange. Men 'downdate' for sex, so women can 'update' in the hook up market. the can get railed by men far above their station in the value chain.

In the LTR market, the 'equilibrium price' is much worse for women. They are more likely going to have to 'settle' for a guy that is pretty much their equal. A lot of women can get railed by Tryrone McMBA in the bathroom stall of a night club, but Tyrone ain't putting a ring on some skanky mid butter face.

So the modern strategy for modern women is to delay LTR's until about 30 something age, once they have been railed by men far above their worth. That is when they start 'dating with a purpose'. But the men that are so desperate that they will settle for a used up mid are not alpha. They are beta. And the panties are not damp for beta dudes.

With me so far? I think most women would agree with me so far.

The issue arises in the next phase. Women think that the beta guy should just put up with her, a woman that doesn't want to have duty sex with a man that she doesn't find attractive

And to honest, more and more men are realising that this is not what they want. They don't want a woman that has wasted her most fertile years on casual sex with chad, and then panic buys a beta husband for a life of shitty duty sex.

dudes have figured it out by the time they hit their 30s.

Only betas think talking about “real” “deep” stuff is interesting to girls.

You are throwing around “beta” to just mean something that isn’t attractive to women, or someone who doesn’t have perfect game. Let’s not get autistic about alpha and beta here.

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IME, mostly they don’t want deep convos (even if they say they do). But don’t take that without nuance like all they want to talk about is crime shows and gossip. In my opinion, most of this comes down to differences in what men and women value in conversation.

Men are more likely to want to talk about ideas and concepts that apply to more than just their immediate self and surroundings, like philosophy, science, and social dynamics. But many of them don’t, because they are stupid themselves.

OTOH, I find women talk about a mix of… 1: things that immediately affect them or that are directly around them 2: banal shit like gossip about people you don’t know or care about, Insta posts, shows they watched, etc. But don’t take this too literally to mean that you need to follow the top 100 Insta accounts or whatever so you can talk to them. You can frame some deep topics into a “women-compatible” theme, like talking about spirituality rather than God.

In reality, if you want to have deep convos, you are usually better off with select male friends.

And another note: you can’t just jump into deep convos with randos you just met, men or women. Doing so will make you seem autistic and obsessive about whatever your topic is.

OP, do you have male friends? Do you have any social skills? Is the very first thing you want to talk about with women Quantum Mechanics or Kantian philosophy? That might be your real problem, not what you read online.