@qzone

Field Report: Blond at the Bar

I'm in a sticky situation at the moment; due to the passing of my mother more recently than not, I'm stuck in my home town with a population of a few tens of thousands to support my grandfather and stepfather in dealing with her affairs and support them. My grandfather is not in great health, and probably doesn't have a lot of years left, so I am here for the foreseeable future, though I'd rather be somewhere where abundance is possible. But we are at where we are at.

Fast forward to last Sunday: I'm at the gym and there's a cute curly haired blond doing one of those pussy maxing leg hip workout machines you will never see a straight man do. I strike up a conversation; ask her why this gym and not the other gyms in town that while slightly more expensive are certainly less shitty. We talk for five or ten minutes, I offer to buy her a drink or dinner this week... she agrees. Good job with a good income, good family it seems like. We trade numbers and I go back to lifting.

Later on in my set she is working out by me. I reopen. She says "I'm free pretty much any night of the week". We set the date for Monday, the next day, at eight. The date goes well enough. Again, she seems inexperienced. I avoided talking about dating or sexual history because, dating history is a waste of time for the first date, and I avoid sexual history because I had trouble creating sexual energy with her which I do not normally have trouble with. We have a whole lot in common, she is incredibly pretty, and we click though I struggle to make romantic or sexual energy with this girl. We make out a couple times. She is an abysmal kisser. The date lasts an hour and a half (I thought it was much longer, it felt so). As we are walking out to what I assume would be switch venues at 9:30. When I offer to switch venues she says "I have 25 minute drive and I work at eight in the morning". I don't know about you all but if I am very attracted to someone and having a good time, I will stay up past 10 PM. During the date, we had talked about both enjoying cooking. She said she loves soup, said she has never tried butternut squash soup. At the end of the date I said "let's get together this week and make that soup?" (Perhaps this was an overinvestment). She agrees, saying she is interested any day of the week that works for me.

Following the date, I wait till Wednesday at the end of the work day to text her at all since I committed heavy at the end of the date... ball in her court. I text her saying "hey, tomorrow at 5:30 work for you to make that soup? We'll have to run to the store first". She takes hours and hours to respond, and after some coordination ping pong run around, she says "I got out of a relationship a month or two and I'm not ready for anything serious yet, I'm sorry etc. etc.". I say "I understand completely, I'm cool with hanging out without a label as the goal. Let me know when you're free and we will keep it casual." A few texts since then but I've been leaving the ball in her court and keeping my texts short on the off chance she offers a time and place since this chick has probably NEXTed me and is being nice, and I don't want to waste time texting a bunch with someone just being nice. Also for context, I didn't mention anything about my mother.

We hold the L and soldier on with more day game. That one stings, I liked her quite a bit. We had a lot in common. Any critiques or thoughts?

An abundance mindset must first be planned and executed before it's ever realized. Regardless, it reads like the interest wasn't mutual. While disappointing, that's alright. Better to find out you and her weren't a good fit early on than after several years of marriage with children.

There's not enough info to say if the outcome of the date was due to you being mentally preoccupied in dealing with family matters, but not every guy can fake enthusiasm to follow through with everything. That your family situation concerns you enough to bring it up with us compels me to encourage you to take all the time you need, then take a rest after sorting your late mother's affairs. Consider using this time to study the book and look into finding a few hobbies to otherwise occupy your mind.

@MrSupreme

Do you know supplements?

Hi everyone! I've been taking my 50mg Zinc and effects have been great. No worries there.ç I'd like to know what else I should take,because I'm really into taking supplements lately, just to boost my performance and overall wellness.

I was thinking a multivitamin like Centrum, that could work. But I know there's other stuff around like:

-Ashwaghanda -Spirulina

I've researched a bit and I know there's a thin line between a great, good working supplement and a "superfood" trend like the "Spirulina" thing seems to be.

I'm looking to optimize my energy levels too, work is not stressful but I have been investing a huge amount of time on it lately.

I think the ashwaghanda might be nice, still researching.

But as this is the Red Pill (unplugging from the matrix), I want to ask:

what do you guys know about supplements,vitamins and other things that could bring wellness to my life, including my sexual performance, for my workouts (no gym yet,just strength and calisthenics), for my energy levels,sleep quality, and anything that can help me improve myself. Zing has been great, had the best flu I've had in years, lasted a few days and only a few symptoms, along with the other stuff it brings.

What do you take? What should I know?

Here's a good enough starting point to consider for yourself.

@Redpillpusher

A Reason Behind Females' Worthlessness as Friends?

Earlier, as I was reflecting on the friendships I've had in this life, I thought about the miniscule number of female "friends" I've had. These were friends in the conventional sense, i.e., I was never friend zoned because I never tried to approach them in a non platonic way (they were either engaged or in a serious relationship when we met and always in a "don't defecate where you eat environment").

In every case, these female friends were vastly inferior to any of my male friends (in regards to selflessness, value, rapport, etc.), regardless of how casual those male friends were. This inferiority was so obvious, in fact, that when I had told one of those female friends that male friends were vastly superior to female friends, she paused and thought about it before agreeing. Also in each case, I observed that it wasn't just me that these female friends treated in a sub-par manner: they were subpar friends to their own female friends. They would show selfishness, jealousy, and/or deception to their female friends that would come and go with the seasons until many of them, ironically, only had male friends left who, like me, dealt with them at a larger distance as time went on.

Now, I've hypothesized that the beneficially based reason females make almost worthless friends is because how our society raises them. For the most part, if the average family has a daughter, it's considered a success if she makes it to her 20s without having a baby or catching an STD. As we all know, however, the bar for success for men is set much higher: financial independence and success, following a moral code, etc. Men are expected, for the most part, to abide by some set of principles. We all have seen the stereotypical father-son moment in sitcoms, dramas, etc. where the father teaches his son a valuable life lesson and a tenet of acceptable behavior. There are no female equivalents in mainstream media. Thus, because of the lack of high moral expectations, one can't be surprised that traits that make horrible friends are commonly found among females.

What I would like to know is if any of you think there's a biological basis for women being subpar friends, even to other women. I find it surprising, especially since females are typically more social than men.

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@Tempsyy

Long time lurker, first post. Need harsh truth from you guys.

Met this girl, Giulia. Older (25, I'm 20). Smart, deep connection, good sex. Started during intense pastry course. Lived close, saw her every day. Became my main emotional support. My mistake, I know.

Problem: she was textbook one-itis for her ex, Thomas. Used "buying weed" as excuse to see him. Always created drama.

The cycle was fucked:

She meets ex, fucks up (cheats emotionally, physically). Comes crying to me, full of guilt. I play the "good guy", comfort her, "forgive" her. I become her emotional tampon. This shit drained me. Anxiety, no sleep. My mission (top pastry chef) was suffering.

I tried setting boundaries. Told her to cut him off. She promised, then broke promises. Classic. I broke it off, went no contact. She showed up at my work, crying, begging, kneeling. Said she loved me. Weak moment, I let her back in on "probation".

We met again. Same shit. Good morning, but then back at her place... the vibe was poison. I felt my power drain. We had sex. It was shit. Full of anxiety. I realized I was her validation machine, not her man.

My action: Cut her off completely. Blocked everywhere. Deleted number. Total ghost. It hurts like hell, but the mental clarity is already returning. I’m on a strict self-improvement protocol now: early mornings, cold showers, gym, focusing 100% on my mission. Rasated my head to reset.

My question: I know I let my empathy fuck me over. I played the savior instead of the prize. How do I prevent this emotional drain in the future? How do I build a stronger frame so a woman's chaos doesn't become my own? Trying to get back on trp, would love to have some posts or guides linked to me.

Looking for raw feedback, not sympathy. Hit me.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=NtwiAkUj5Go

Better to find out a female you're involved with is incompatible as early as possible, than after several years of marriage with children. The problem is that you sought validation through your relationship with a female pothead. Unfortunately, nothing good ever came of men whose self-confidence was dependent on female validation, especially undisciplined females who use drugs, legal or otherwise. Self-confidence is a result of pursuing and overcoming the various challenges of life. During which time, you come to understand what interests, drives, and motivates you. To that end, I suggest that you get yourself two sheets of paper, a pen, and sit down at a table.

On the first sheet write down a list of things that you've been putting off on the back burner due to work, schooling, or just life in general. It doesn't matter how silly, or stupid the task or idea might be, just write it down. When you're done, take the second sheet of paper, and re-write the items from the first list starting with what you believe to be the simplest, easiest tasks, down to the most complicated.

When you're done with the second list, get to work. The challenge once you've got the list done won't be simply accomplishing them, but not allowing yourself to be de-spirited whenever you encounter difficulty, or failure. To not let yourself be defeated. You'll spend the time to troubleshoot and diagnose the problem, then start over. If you need help, ask. There's no shortage of #books we can recommend that may help you achieve your goal.

Best of luck to you.