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@Chantfire my late father was a mason, as was my maternal grandfather. I have an in anytime I wish to join.
My father tried to get me interested and involve a couple of times.
It's mostly boring meetings and being obligated to do a bunch of shit I just don't want to do.
I know I didn't see everything, but what I saw looked like a big hassle with little-to-no gain.
Review: Addiction, Procrastination, and Laziness by Roman Gelperin www.goodreads.com/book/show/36263858-addiction-procrastination-and-laziness
As a career procrastinator, I found the book illuminating. It boils the whole mess down to the pleasure/pain principle, and left me with a lot of takeaways, some that I synthesized rather than were always directly stated:
- It impossible for your brain to enjoy a lower pleasure activity, than the one you're engaged in.
- This makes it impossible to move from a higher pleasure activity (aka video games, tv, social media, gooning, etc.) to a dreaded activity (homework, taxes, squats) unless you can sufficiently increase your anxiety over not doing the dreaded activity to become higher than the pleasurable activity… or if you can grab hold in your mind on the pleasurable reward of accomplishing dreaded activity.
- Engaging in high pleasure entertainments makes your brain have difficulty focusing on the dreaded activity as it wants to return to the high pleasure activity, causing you to daydream about the higher pleasure activity.
- Removing high pleasure, fruitless activities from your life, will allow your mind to better enjoy doing dreaded activities. (You can't enjoy writing that TPS report if you were just gaming, but you CAN enjoy writing that TPS report if you were just doing something enjoyable that wasn't heavily stimulating dopamine, like doing your squats)
- To be more productive at doing the things you should do, pursue entertainment that does not heavily stimulate dopamine.
- When you wake in the morning, you are pleasure neutral. Engaging in a high dopamine activity early in the day will fuck over your whole day. You wake up at 5 and can't sleep. So you decide to watch one more episode of that super interesting TV show. Now all of your required activities, if you can even make yourself do them, feel shitty and hollow. Instead of being able to take some pleasure in your TPS report, all you can think about is getting back to your show.
- The more you can visualize the reward for a dreaded activity, the more you be able to pull yourself towards the activity. Goal-oriented thinking and visualization can help you drive to the gym grind through those squats on the days your already defeated because you had to deload. Focusing on your goal to nail that 405lb squat, and what it will do for your sense of self-actualization can help when the dread of going to do squats seems unmanageable.
- When you are distracted by a physical need for hunger, sex, entertainment, etc. You can make fulfilling the need a reward condition of the dreaded activity.
- You can make unpleasant activities more rewarding by enhancing them with pleasurable components, such as chemical and social pleasure. Do squats with a friend or listen to music. Do TPS reports with a coworker during a meeting. Drink a cup of coffee or have some nicotine while writing the paper.
- Schedule dreaded activities with other people, so that you're on the hook with others. You're sore as fuck and don't want to go to BJJ, but you promised to give Jimbo a ride, so you have to go.
- At any given time you have a certain capacity for attention based on things like physical needs, mental state, attention splitting (driving, watching a kid/puppy, listening to music)
- Some tasks require full attention, make sure you have the attention capacity to do them. Eat, poop, fuck, sleep, etc. in preparation for high attention activities, otherwise you will become frustrated by the inability to focus. High attention tasks often require a large overhead for context switching (devoting your mind to the details around the task). For example, writing a novel with a complex plot requires you to keep many moving pieces active in your mind. Biointerrupts and external distractions will cause your brain to move the details out of primary storage into near ready storage, slowing you down and frustrating your productivity.
- Some tasks require low attention. Your brain will fill the void by causing you to daydream, remember other shit, sleep, etc, that can derail you from the activity. A low attention task can be done best while splitting attention. Listen to the radio while you're manufacturing ammo or knitting that Christmas sweater to keep focus.
- Large complex tasks can be organized and broken into manageable chunks. That huge 50 page research paper that’s' due in 10 weeks? Week 1 Task: read your sources and flag citations. Week 2 Task: Develop your thesis. W3 Task: Organize the outline. W4 Task, Build your works cited list. Week 5 task: Write the introduction, etc. 2.Working towards long term goals, can be done by breaking the goal up into stated mini goals. You're a 300lb blob that can't walk up stairs without running out of breath. Day 1 Goal. Walk a mile. Day 2 Goal. Alternate Jogging 30 sec and walking 3 minutes for a mile. Day 3 Goal 45 sec job + walking 2 minutes. Continue upping Daily goals until you can run a mile.