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Why have so women been kissing me on the cheek randomly lately?
Serious question. The only thing i have changed is I've been lifting consistently past couple months and running C-tier asshole game. I say c tier because I'm newer at it and holding back from being more assholey than I could be in game.
I swear 5 chicks i haven't been particularly gaming even have just planted kisses on my cheek in the last couple weeks. I'm not complaining that it's just cheek or anything, i just don't understand why a bunch of chicks suddenly feel compelled to even do it.
Even when I'm WITH a chick they dgaf. Why is this happening so much?
Anyone get random hate from women/black people? Making fun of my height and trying to make fun of my dick size randomly.
This is the stupidest question I've ever asked. I don't know why it keeps happening.
Is it because i'm a handsome white dude?
I feel like low-quality women are shit testing me and self-hating black men are jealous at a white boi.
Anyone else have this?
Sluts, whores, and gamma males will definitely mock, belittle, and deride others. If you want to better understand them, by all means do so, but until you do it's best to ignore them and move on. Respond as you see fit only if they present themselves as a clear threat. As you claim that they advertise their presence unprovoked it makes your job in identifying them that much easier. Best of luck to you.Read More
Can’t cut contact cause she supports me financially. I live away from her, but in the same city. She is the most unbearable person I have to deal with. Typical AWALT example. Failed marriage with my irresponsible father(I wonder why she stayed with him for 15 years. Hmmm.) Blames my “supposed” father for everything that went wrong in her/my older sister’s life. Always compares me to him. She is getting fatter and uglier by the year. ZERO accountability. I have tried to reason and have honest conversations with her, but to ABSOLUTELY no avail. Whether about her mental health, physical health, boundaries, her fuck ups with how she brought me up (or lack there of).
My main issue here is that she wants me to be her bitch. She says shit like “It’s not manhood to say curse words, it doesn’t make you more of a men.” (Yet she respected the guy who treated her like shit and was paying the bills/everything instead of him) She blames me for getting angry at her stupidity, giving me false information, blatant lies. She’s the most undependable person when it comes to information. She’d rather make shit up than tell the truth or say she doesn’t know.
She never got “payback” or got her “justice” from my father, so she just projects everything on me. I am the only male in the family basically, with two older, as you would expect, whore sister, who got princess treatment from my mother all their lives. They created this “us vs him(me) mentality as I got tired of all their shit. Sister’s literally abused me all my life, until I cut all contact with them. So they have this pact mentality against their own brother/son.
How to deal with a narcissistic mother who tries to bitch me up by ridiculing me, disrespecting me in private and in public, tries to teach me about masculinity as a failed mother with two failed marriages and half a dozen failed relationships(that I know of), favors her two girls over me, oblivious to her shortcomings and toxic behavior?
This will teach you how to deal with narcissists. Outside of that, it's best that when you come cross other narcissists in the future, you keep your mouth shut, and get as far away from them as fast as possible. Fortunately, you're half-way there. Unfortunately, the problem now isn't that your mother's a fat narcissist, but that your continued financial dependence on your mother forces you to put up with her belittlement and ridicule of your shortcomings.
Right now, focus on becoming financially independent. Even a part-time minimum wage job will help you to slowly build the savings needed to achieve that goal. If you live in a country that offers job, vocation, or career training programs, look to enroll yourself in them as well, so you can gain the knowledge and skills to generate a better income. Best of luck to you.Read More
I'm kind of curious about people's thoughts on only fans, I was rereading the misandry bubble and it got me thinking. Porn overall isn't necessarily bad for us since most men will flock to it as easy comfort, leaving more women available. But only fans is different in that now even fairly lazy women can more than support themselves and their lavish lifestyles based on onlyfans income.
Of course, this is assuming they manage their money well. But for the ones who are making 6figs plus now they don't need as much resources from men, and expect an even higher standard, especially with increased validation. On the other hand I'm sure a lot of these women aren't thinking about the future when they get old and their subs slow and now no man will marry them.
Will it be a net negative or positive to Men, and when I say Men I mean Red Pilled ones? I've already seen the negative effects on the majority.
My only thought is that Onlyfans, and similar websites, exist simply as money laundering fronts for intelligence agencies and international organized crime while masquerading as a crowdfunded amateur porn site. The majority of people trying to make money through it are morons too stupid to understand that they'll never get rich that way let alone make enough for more than bus fare. The people who're receiving big time cash are actors working for intelligence agencies and organized crime groups using the site as a means through which they can discretely launder and transmit money around the world. At this point, anyone who believes otherwise shouldn't be mocked and derided, but pitied.Read More
So me and this girl started dating like 6 months ago and its been going really well. Shes smart, body count of 3, zero social media (she has like a fake insta account for memes), she earns triple what I make (she went to business school and works as an IB now) so I know she aint in it for the money. The only problem I have, and tbf idk if this is exclusive to her but rather most girls nowadays, she has a shit ton of dude coworkers… and dudes she met in business school. I get that she needs to keep up her network for career purposes but every couple of months when one of these dudes is in her city, they go for like coffee at most (never dinner, I made that clear).
Now im not one to mateguard because if she does want to cheat, she’ll do it and I wont be able to do anything about it and I have a big fucking ego (working on lowering it down) so I couldnt give two shits about the dudes she hangs out with, threat wise. As I said, if she wants to branch swing, she gonna do that.
I come from a conservative culture where a non-single woman can not hang out with another dude (Info: dudes she hangs out with arent single, theyre all married or have girlfriends) and it is deemed disrespectful… Am I being a dumbass here? Or Am I right in feeling annoyed about this? How do I mentally come to terms with it?
It reads like you've got one-itis, especially if you believe she's only been with three men. If she's in truth your wife, then you might want to consider hiring a private investigator to shadow her before you make any decisions on this matter. If she's just some chick you're dating, you're otherwise not exclusive with each other, and her going out for coffee with colleagues makes you uncomfortable, then you're going to need to take some time to consider how to handle your feelings of one-itis going forward.
To that end, I suggest that you consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library.Read More
Kind of fukked up.
Have had a very mid life.
3 options (none great)
1) Get my CFA and learn to code and live at home for a year while I study and save an extra 50k - then move back into the city (at 29)
2) Get my CFA and learn to code and live in NYC and survive but at the margin not saving much and study most of the week
3) Just learn to code and live at home/NYC. And then basically be free in 6 months instead of 12. The 6 months is also a lot lighter than the hellaciousness of the first two options studying for two things for a year
Turning 28 in 4 months, and need to start feel like I'm grinding. I want hella money saved up, I want to date and have fun times in the city, and I don't know if sacrificing a whole year is worth it. I lived there for 3 years and just moved home - working remote
Stats: 100k total saved rn. Body Count ~15.
That you've got options is better than having none at all. The problem as far as I can tell is that you don't know which to pick first. While I could join everyone else and offer an answer, I'm not the one living your life, and won't be on hand to offer you counsel should your circumstances suddenly change. If you want to rebuild a social life, try eventbrite dot com or meetup dot com and see what activities people are hosting in your area that may interest you. They don't need you to register to find out about events and that should keep you busy as far as free time goes.
While you're mulling over what series of professional choices to make, consider getting your hands on Aaron Clarey's "Worthless: The Indispensable Guide to Choosing the Right Major". and Aaron Clarey's other book The Black Man's Guide Out of Poverty: For Black Men Who Demand Better. The books are dirt cheap compared to any textbook you'll be getting and will provide you with more value in return. I would suggest you review his blog to get a feel for his views on money, dating, relationships, education, and work to see if they're aligned with what you aspire for yourself. However, this comes with a few warnings in advance. The books are both around a decade old, so while they're likely available on libgen and other ebook sites for free download, portions of the information will be outdated. In particular, the suggestion of the military as a career.
And as for women, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library.
If you want to check out any other books that could be helpful to you, then consider the books tribe here. I can't speak for others, but pretty much everything I share is available for free in digital format.Read More
Came across this guy that was getting hammered by a girl very near to my home. Her tone was really aggressive. She's telling him stuff like "it's none of your business" and giving him a talking to, while he is completely in her frame, listening, looking bleak. She is making fun of him and doing that passive aggressive laugh/smile. Then she tells him to bounce. Bro started following her, walking behind her as she was going into her apartment building. She told him to leave again. He just stood there for a while, in front of her apartment building, looking at his phone (probably trying to text her or whatever)
I think he should have left her and walked away AS SOON as she caught an attitude. I believe that there was definitely plenty of disrespect prior to this situation. It starts small, then gets bigger and bigger.
How would you react in a similar situation?
You can't get aggressive, she'll just shout and claim abuse. And if you take the disrespect once, you'll get it plenty more. It's a lose-lose situation.
Just walk away and ghost?
What are your thoughts?
Only one...Read More
All events happened within the last 3 weeks.
I see this girl at gym near daily and I'm attracted to her, I wanna sm*sh. I noticed that she was hovering in my vicinity so I tried to start a conversation so I could eventually ask her out. This happened on two separate occasions. Both times, she answered my first question quickly and got out of the conversation asap. [headphones back on & walked away] This suggested that she's actually not interested. I stopped trying after the second time because I don't want to bother/creep anyone at the gym. The following day, she "accidentally" bumped into me and smiled at me. The day after, she ignored me completely.
I went away on vacation for a week. Now I am back & I see her near daily again. I think she knows I like her even though I haven't explicitly expressed it/put her on the spot. I've been trying to take my mind off it and I realized there's really no shortage of beautiful women out here. Trying to focus on my purpose so i can have my pick of them.
I stopped trying to talk to her because it would come off like I'm chasing her after the way the first 2 times went. Now, every time she comes in, it seems like she makes sure I know she's there by walking directly in front of where I'm working out when she arrives. She doesn't really hover in my vicinity anymore. She looks at me when I'm not looking but when I look at her she doesn't look at me.
What should i do going forward? Thank you
You've been thinking about this girl for nearly a month and you've taken no action beyond greetings. Part of me is wondering if there have there been any other women in that same time span you've otherwise could've noticed if this one wasn't on your mind. As for this chick at the gym, either make your move to ask for her contact information and let your interest be known or focus your attention elsewhere.
To that end, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library.Read More
Hey boys. I met with a nice woman the other day. 5'3, fairly well put together, owns her house, decent feminine job. We definitely had some chemistry, but between eating in a fairly fancy dinner spot and my failure to really make her do any work I feel like the whole dynamic ended up pretty shitty.
She ended up saying that she didn't really feel a connection after ending the night with a kiss. It was a nice kiss, she came back for more after I pulled away so there must have been some connection?
I felt like maybe I didn't escalate enough so tried pressing it on text (big fail) only to probably come off as weird or creepy. Over the date I didn't really ask her anything to make sure she would be right for me and instead we just talked about stupid shit like jobs and tv shows. After I sent that cringe message, she sent me something back saying she still might want to meet in the future (maybe the message wasn't that cringe?)
So... I deleted the dating app after getting that message from her. About a week ago. I felt like I blew it from pushing harder after she said she didn't feel it. We never exchanged numbers but I did find her facebook because she gave me her last name.
Would it even be worth my time to try messaging her? I feel like I did like her but I don't want to be playing these games from the start. I've thought that if she reaches out I'll message her but just want to hear other advice. She's a baker though and I want her to bake a cake for my birthday, but I don't want to come off too strong anymore I guess. ALSO, after she told me that she didn't feel the 'sparks' she told me it was because she just got out of a relationship she didn't know if she should be in, and she wasn't sure if she wanted a relationship or something casual. Can anybody translate what that means.
To ask us if she's worth your time when she's already told you that she felt no sparks is daft. Her interest in you just isn't where you need it to be to make anything happen beyond a courteous hello or goodbye. Move on and steer clear of her bakery so as to not be seen as creepy later.
While you're looking elsewhere, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library.Read More