@FuzzyGorilla

How to deal with a dysfunctional family?

As the title states that's really what I've been wondering lately. I've considered talking with a therapist as well. I have goals I want to achieve in my own life and I'm sick of my dysfunctional family dragging me under. I'm sure some people have way worse s**t going on in their families than me, but hopefully this helps them as well.

Personally: My parents constantly fight. This has been going on since I was a kid. My father was always working and what most RP people might call a "nice guy". My mother would talk s**t about my dad often in front of me and my siblings. They would get into big arguments it seemed like on a regular basis. My father never really showed alot of love towards my mother either, or even seemed to try and fix things between both of them. I believe this affected my early dating life. I got very little if any guidance on how to approach relationships with women. Ironically one time my father actually asked ME for advice with my mother.

I don't know all the specifics but I would suspect their relationship is a dead bedroom. My mother told me relatively recently she caught my father watching porn and talking to other women on facebook. I'm not sure as to the details, accuracy, etc. I honestly think I just disassociated with this, and refused to let myself get involved. There was other more important and heavier things happening at that time as well, and I never confronted my dad on this.

They continue to get in arguments, seemingly more frequently since then. And my mother continuously accuses him of cheating or talking to "his girlfriends". I asked my father what was going on between them and he actually told me something along the lines of "this has been going on for awhile, and it's no more Mr Nice guy".

My mother acts more and more in a feminist/independent way as this drama continues, not in a motherly way as one might expect. Additionally, I continue to learn rumors and whispers of both their past history. This includes possible drug use from my father, and more disappointing is hearing rumors of my mother working as a stripper in her past.

This has affected my brother as well, I believe. I won't get into details about that, but I see his development and guidance in life just turned out worse than mine. He is doing way better for himself though lately and also seems to disassociate from this drama. I'm proud of the direction he's turned his life around in.

Again, I know this level of drama is nothing, but living with them and constantly feeling this tension just brings my mood down incredibly. I'm not depressed, I just feel betrayed by the instability. I recently started heavily drinking just to try and forget about most of this. I have since put the bottle down, but I am struggling to figure out how to deal with this still.

Part of me feels some level of responsibility to help resolve this drama, but I also like to remind myself, my parents are both approaching 70, which makes this feel beyond ridiculous they haven't fixed things themselves at this point, and being together for 30+ years.

Quite a few guys have posted about moving back in with their parents since the Covid-19 psy-op a few years back. Bizarrely enough, many also share how they're reminded of the discord and dysfunction in their parents homes which prompted them to leave to begin with. Trauma and co-dependency issues are no joke. You should make the time to understand and deal with yours when you can.

As for the situation with your parents, if you haven't started doing so, find a place of your own that's a reasonable distance from their home to relocate to. While there's nothing you can actively do to engage this matter, maybe an old dog can indeed learn new tricks. You can at least provide your surprisingly internet savvy father some sources of information to consider going forward with the links below. If he decides he wants to read any of the books these people have put out, be sure to introduce him to free ebook websites like libgen and ebook managers like Calibre.

• Doc Love's Dating Tips for Men
• Anonymous Conservative
• Richard Cooper's Entrepreneurs in Cars
• Married Red Pill
• Athol Kay
• Dr. Robert A. Glover
• Chateau Heartiste
• Rollo Tomassi's The Rational Male

Best of luck to you both.

@yinandyang

25 no skills criminal background currently in university what do i do?

hello, im 25 male and live in houston texas. what do i do? ive had over 10 different jobs in the past 2 years and i cannot keep a job for more than 2 months max. i tattooed my face, and i have drunk driving charge and assault charge i am going to trial for on january 30th. so i keep getting denied every job i apply to because of my background check. what do i do? and also can anyone help me write a resume? i am also in university i start my classes this week. my school does not know about my criminal charges. i cannot keep any of the jobs i had, how do i keep a job for more than 2 months? i hate every job i ever had. i cannot make any money and i live with my dad at 25 which makes me feel like the biggest loser, because i would like to have my own house and move multiple girlfriends into my house to live with me and have kids with all my different girlfriends. but i cannot do that cuz im broke and dont have a job and cant get a job with my criminal charges. i also have tattoo on my face. and i am also partially deaf and i have a speech impediment. so my hearing issues and speech issues also make having a job difficult. but i dont want to be dependent on my dad. and my dad hates that i live with him he wants me to move out he yells at me a lot and gets mad at me a lot too and he doesn't like it when i have women over sometimes he yells at the women i have over. so he actively makes living with him uncomfortable. ill tell you about my work history, i started off at 18 working in the nursing home as a certified nurse's aide and did that till i was 19 and a half. i didn't really like it, it was gruel, brutal work. seeing people die all the time, old people in misery, suffering depression, injuries, illnesses, constantly in pain. that put the fear of growing old in me, id rather die before growing old. and hard on the body lifting heavy old people who can't move. so then at 20 or 21 i got a job as a home health aide and i would go to old people's homes and take care of them cook for them clean for them make sure they eat their pills. it was ok but it was crap pay 15 dollars per hour and i didn't really like the work it was either really boring or some of the old people were difficult and mean to me. so i did that for a while maybe a year or two. i have an associate of science degree i graduated with at age 20. so then since then ive just had a string of around 10 or 15 jobs. i went to electrical school for like 4 months and i got a job as an electrician and got fired after 3 days and i have been unable to get a job as an electrician since. and neither of the electrician's unions near me will take me either. so i already tried the trades. i know someone will chime in telling me to join the military, and i wanted to join the Marines at age 18 but I can't cuz im deaf. I don't know what i want to do. I've had around 5 different sales jobs over the past 2 years but i can't keep any of them more than a couple months cuz im simply bad at sales. All of them were door to door sales jobs and I'm simply not good at sales. I think probably cuz i'm partially deaf and i have a strange voice a lot of people think i must be disabled or mentally ill because of the way my voice sounds but im not disabled. there are some paths ive thought about trying but haven't committed to them yet. i tried to study for my IT cert i forget the name of it, but i didn't know how to study and found it intimidating. i have considered becoming a personal trainer because i like to go to the gym, but i don't think it's worth it to study for personal trainer certificates and only make around 12 to 15 dollars per hour. i have thought about taking a real estate class to become a real estate agent, but i don't know if have what it takes, with the face tattoo and being deaf and having a strange sounding voice, and being bad at sales in general, i don't know if ill actually be able to sell a lot of houses. i could try tho, would certainly be better than trying nothing at least. a friend told me to just study coding and i tried but i wasn't able to stay dedicated to it and fizzled out fast. i am in university right now and im majoring in Integrated Studies which is basically like a generic or interdisciplinary bachelors degree. i tried to major in business but my gpa isn't good enough for business school. so since i cannot get a job i guess i will just stay in university for now and maybe get a master's degree. does anyone know how i can get my criminal record expunged as soon as trial is over? has anyone else been here before facing the same challenges im facing? is anyone else here partially deaf? have any of you managed to overcome having serious criminal charges like drunk driving and assault and been able to make a lot of money? and i tried starting my own business i started an ebay dropshipping business and it was profitable at first i was genuinely making money, but i was paying 200 a month for the ai software to help me do it, and yes it paid for it self at first with profit on top. but over christmas i got screwed over because i had way too many orders that got delayed due to the christmas rush and i had to refund like 50 people and i lost all my money so my ebay store failed. ive tried so many different things and im still a failure at life. what should i do from here? i dont really know what i like, to be honest, to tell you the truth, the only thing i care about is sex, i am always trying to have sex with new women and hotter girls. i had sex with 15 women in 2025. thats my main hobby is going out to clubs and going out in the middle of the day to pick up girls and have sex with them. im not that good at it tho, and money is the main thing holding me back in life right now. i know for a fact if i had my own place and a small fortune i would be able to utilize the money in such a way to have my life constantly filled with women, even more than it is now. so that is why i want to make money, so that i can have several girlfriends who are living with me. i am considering taking my TABC and my food handler's certificate so that i can work in a bar or restaurant. and i have quit alcohol by the way and quit doing drugs and i dont smoke, so ive been sober for almost 8 months. will restaurants take me with my criminal back ground? how can i find a job that will accept my criminal background and let me work part time through university i have 4 university classes this semester. i want to have a beautiful life, a gorgeous life, full of gorgeous women, i want to have many children and raise them to their full potential. but right now, im objectively a loser in every sense of the word and ive actually have tried so many different things but just fail at literally everything i try. i am incapable of making money and getting my own place and incapable of having a job. for what its worth i did diagnose myself with adhd before and went and got an adderall prescription then got motivated to get my life together i performed better at work and was better about doing my homework when i was on adderall. but i hate taking drugs and i dont want to take adderall again. i think part of me just wanted to get high and i dont think i actually have adhd anymore. but i do feel like theres something else wrong with my brain. cuz i just cant make any money no matter what i try. can anyone recommend me some career paths to look into? and what kind of jobs i can work part time through university with a serious criminal background? and they are 2 misdemeanors charges and my first arrest ever but i still cannot get a job. help. if you live in houston texas and could meet up to help, give me some advice, or give me a job to do, let me know,

Calm your balls. ^That wall of text is of little aid for anyone to dig through who might sincerely want to help you, but thankfully the resources needed to help you engage your problems are all readily available to you without us.

Consider running your questions one at a time through an AI assisted search engine like brave or google and follow-up on the most useful results provided to you. I got promising results with the search phrase "tattoo removal former felons houston texas" alone you could probably work with. Beyond that, follow your attorney's counsel, keep yourself out of trouble, and best of luck to you going forward. Come back when you've calmed down some and made positive progress regarding your situation.

@Coffee_Daygame

What makes women sacrifice everything for resources and status?

This is a genuine question. I am on Red Pill, mainly from Rollo, for the last 10 years. I am a Daygamer, and a lot of Red Pill teachings have now been ingrained into my behaviour and dating on an unconscious basis.

However, since I found the subreddit itself, I have been reading many of the OG texts like Sexual Utopia in Power and The Misandry Bubble.

I am surprised by the amount of tech we already had since before 2010. However, one question keeps popping on my head. We know this stuff is true, both socially (15 years of observing society since the writings) and biologically (via Game). But what is the root cause that makes women throw kids and social stability under the bus, just for the sake of hypergamy optimization?

Sure, we observe this, but is it just feminist fanaticism leading the herd, and normal women follow? Where are their instincts? Do women switch to a "fast life" mode of living by getting enough cocks, and that explains the thing? Do they just live in the now, and they genuinely cannot see a few years down the line?

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Disclaimer: Not meant to be read as a rant. I am bringing a question that is usually assumed as a given in most of the early (and current*) writing.

*Prove me wrong, but I stand by this: we don't have many great writers anymore. Compared to the peak of the Manosphere 15 years ago.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=yErKTVdETpw

There's no point in wasting our finite time on Earth in an online debate about the presumed greatness or mediocrity of mostly anonymous writers and bloggers. They're anonymous for more reasons you might not expect. Unfortunate, we've all got problems to deal with. Hopefully, we're not hobbled by mental health issues that are otherwise preventing us from working to understand the root causes and identify actionable solutions to resolve them.

Instead, focus on scrutinizing the writers ideas to help you understand if what they write about is applicable to the situations that are frustrating you. Put your time to better use the next time you visit an online pi rat book download site and consider reading the following.

• The Evolutionary Psychology Behind Politics: How Conservatism and Liberalism Evolved Within Humans
• Smart and SeXy: The Evolutionary Origins and Biological Underpinnings of Cognitive Differences between the Sexes
• The Manipulated Man by Esther Vilar
• American Stasi

If you find these #books useful, tell the friends you've got that are also struggling and get print copies for your own personal library. Best of luck to ya.

@Red_dead

How do I become more challenging while finding a place for women in my life?

I'm struggling to put all the pieces together. I'm such a kinesthetic learner that all this stuff overwhelms me. I try not to mentally masturbate and go out and practice, but it seems hard to be consistent. I feel like I'm suffering from decision paralysis and information overload, to where I'm thinking about every step and getting anxiety about the decision, or what if she leaves and I have to make a move, and I hesistate. I still have a ton of fun when I'm out, but can't help but think about how I can improve. Some form of outcome dependence.

I'm naturally attractive, but my closing rate is so low, and it's always been my problem. Either I care too fucking much, and the girl gets turned off, or not enough, and I miss an easy lay-up.

Last month I went on a trip and saw some of the most beautiful girls I've ever seen in a party setting, so no clothes basically maxxed out looks, and I've come back completely disheveled. I had so much fun overall but I didnt get laid, I approached but nothing came of it. I don't know if its the setting or the time but all these women now seem to think that theyre gods and im not necessarily complaing about it. It is what it is but I dont know what to do. On one hand it seems this way on the other I still see regular guys with these chicks and it sometimes makes me think is it social situation these guys are in like social groups are the only way to really connect with these high smv women. The crazy part is a lot of my friends pull, but they never approach. It's actually so weird they don't get approached or anything really but I guess either social game, or they maximize their opportunities when they go out. I approached for all of us the whole trip and it felt like a losing game, most approaches were actually good, but I feel I need to take the next step, maybe improve my physical and verbal escalation.

It feels like you're constantly being assessed, like looks, status, frame, even social media, but I want these hot girls, I need to turn conversations more exciting I have no idea how to be challenging and I think thats where im going wrong. Heavily relying on my looks and I dont get nearly as much iois as I used to.

It feels like a clock is always ticking, not that im scared of getting old, but that I'll have less time as it gets eaten up by bigger priorities(many of these things are good). This all doesn't help that as I enter my 30s Im struggling to find a place for women in my life, the time the energy to get them. The activation energy, if you will seems so high that I'm losing my peace. I barely have time for any leisure any more with work which is fine but im becoming increasingly neurotic toward women, my libido is high and it almost feels like I have a sex addiction without the sex, a bottomless pit, a never ending sense of gluttony like itll never be enough no matter how may women, maybe it's the fierce competitiveness in me to always want to do better. That being said I actually like my life more now and seem to have found some meaning but the feeling still exists.

How can I finally be a challenge and conquer this hold I've had over my life?

I'm sorry if this post is incoherent and jumpy, but I couldn't even figure out exactly what I'm trying to articulate. I took some time to think it through and read a lot of the recent asktrp, and now I'm even more confused.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=NtwiAkUj5Go

Study the book and you'll do better next time around. That you're placing so much concern on females suggests your life priorities are totally inverted. Besides, nothing good ever came of men whose self-confidence was dependent on female validation. You're not a child anymore. A mans self-confidence is a result of pursuing and overcoming the various challenges of life. During which time, you come to understand what interests, drives, and motivates you. To that end, I suggest that you get yourself two sheets of paper, a pen, and sit down at a table.

On the first sheet write down a list of things that you've been putting off on the back burner due to work, schooling, or just life in general. It doesn't matter how silly, or stupid the task or idea might be, just write it down. When you're done, take the second sheet of paper, and re-write the items from the first list starting with what you believe to be the simplest, easiest task, to the most complicated.

When you're done with the second list, get to work. The challenge once you've got the list done won't be simply accomplishing them, but not allowing yourself to be de-spirited whenever you encounter difficulty, or failure. To not let yourself be defeated. You'll spend the time to troubleshoot and diagnose the problem, then start over. If you need help, ask. There's no shortage of #books we can recommend that may help you achieve your goal.

Best of luck to you.

@EldenRing

Should I block chicks who friendzoned me?

I've been blocking chicks who friendzoned me since I've been learning game but I'm not sure if this is the right thing to do or not because some of them weren't bad. For example, 2 of them used to buy me dinner or gifts all the time. Just, no intimacy.

I've been blocking them because I fear that I might get jealous and simp at some point, and ridicule myself but idk if this is an ego thing because those chicks could still be useful as wingmen. Or they might not because they might gossip about how they friendzoned me to other chicks.

And I'm also not telling them anything when I block, so it might seem weird. I could be overthinking things as well. Any insights?

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@thoughttaken

Giving up long time LTR

Context: 22M, moved several hundred miles away for college and got a good job after graduating recently. Have been with current LTR for 4 years and have a decent relationship. Very low n-count, submissive, cooks, cleans, treats me well. I maintain good frame and am several SMV points above her.

I have recently been considering moving back to my home state later this year to spend more time with family and friends. I enjoy living there much more in comparison, this past year I've been working 60+ hour weeks and hitting the gym hard as there's not much else I enjoy doing here. I feel like I would be giving up a lot of time and experiences staying here the next few years solely because of my LTR. I wouldn't be losing much career-wise. Going forward with the move would mean cutting my current relationship off.

I'm weighing my options and it seems like I'm giving up a great option for LTR and kids/family. That is my ultimate goal, I know this is a long ways off but I don't see myself spinning plates at age 35 and above. No oneitis, I've been with a handful of other girls. It is rare to have a girl with a known history, comes from a good family, and isn't completely brainwashed by the current society.

I'm against marriage for the most part and would only do so if I could protect my assets 100%, i.e. completely separate from the state in a state without common-law. I understand prenups do not work and all the issues surrounding marriage as well. I could certainly find another LTR like this later on and vet her properly, there would be more unknowns though. Looking for some honest input from older members that have seen similar situations play out.

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen. Best of luck to ya.

@universitythrowaway

Anyone else feel like they're not made for the 9-5 life?

I'm in my mid 20s in north america now working corporate in the tech field for a few years making between 100 - 200k. The 9 - 5 life bores me. I've been diagnosed with ADHD around a year ago and have been taking meds when I want to focus. It helps. But it still doesn't motivate me to care about the company goals, performance, vision etc. I see my coworkers talking about the company performance every few months and it bores me. I just go to work and do the bare minimum.

Sometimes I find myself catching up on missed work because during work hours I'm thinking about other things. I like creating apps, websites, and other things that I see a direct impact on the community from. I like side hustles. I like socializing and doing my hobbies. I can focus on things I like when I want to solve a problem. I want to build something of my own and not work for someone else.

Anyone else had a similar experience? What did you do?

www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZrjylHI-zwU

This is a tiresome non-issue guys constantly feel some need to whine about as if anyone cares.

Shut up, work your job, repay your debts, build up your savings, and maintain a list of the things you actually want to do with your life where you will regularly see it. When you're ready, resign from your job and move on to something else from the position of F.U.

@waybackmachine

My friend simped FOR me, save my plate

For context I've been recently reintroduced to the single life (saving that for another post). And I've been relearning all of this as I've gotten a bit rusty during a very long relationship.

I invited some guys to a party, aswell as a girl I've been seeing (non-excusive). With one guy I shared some details about my dating stuff to give him some examples as he's been single for a long time. I guess that was my biggest mistake.

So first thing we get to the party this guy says "I've heard so much about you" to the girl... I brushed it off and we went on to party. Then he loudly tells me she's so pretty.

At some point I go to the bathroom and I hear him say I'm such a good guy, I care for him and everyone. The girl should get with me and so on....

I take her back home and of notice the whole dynamic changed, she dried up, no more sex. She tells me the guy told me I really really liked her and I think she's extremely pretty. (He was projecting here, I never even said those things. She's cute sure but not the goddess he made her out to be at all) Aswell as details of us meeting...

Later I called my friend and he confirmed all she and he was only trying to help me, wtf. I didn't expect him to be this deep in nice guy land at all.

Guys is this salvageable? She now thinks I'm even worse of a nice guy then he is... I didn't expect a simp titanic event that would ruin my plate. And we're all 30+ ffs.

Obviously I'll keep my mouth shut to everyone and won't bring this dude anymore. I probably made more mistakes here too haha

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.