@brazilianxof

Is it weird/cringe to target a type? And, is it stupid?

The reason i ask is becausa i want to bang some asians, as objectifying as it sounds, i just want to. And, given their usual preferences and my fenotype, i"m usually not their type.

I wonder if this a damaged way of going forward and increases the odds of pedestalizing

I also was watching "Industry" show and that Marisa Abela has a body...... So, you see, is this "simping" bad?

Being a wimp tends to be a pre-requisite to being a simp. Regardless, you're voicing concerns over a non-issue. Women are women, regardless of their ancestry, though I can't say guys often openly declare a growing interest in jewish females.

Study the book and engage with females as you see fit. You don't need our permission or approval regarding your choices. Just be prepared for any likely or potential consequences. The only difference in how you regard foreign females compared to the ones you've been involved with in the past, should be with a mindset of not repeating past mistakes and you should do fine. Outside of that, try to keep your enthusiasm for the exotic under some control.

@iautrptgl

I've recently been very locked in/monk mode and I love it, would appreciate your guys thoughts on it

I've had varying success with women, and it comes down to me having varying success with myself. Not being able to lose weight/get into shape, not being disciplined with my studies, work and diet. I've falling into the feeling of FOMO and going out with my mates/drinking "just because". Now most of my friends have gone travelling for 6 months (they finished their articles and are doing a gap year), so this year I've decided to lock in. I'm cleaning up my diet, gymming religiously, fixing all the body issues I have (ankle, shoulders etc.) and signed up for 2 board exams (each are 500 hours recommended study time).

The thing is, I fucking love it. I love waking up sober, I love grinding throughout the day at gym/studying/work/whatever task I have. It's honestly the best I have felt in years. But I strangely feel some guilt, my friends who are still in town want to see me, they want me to go out and drink with them but I keep declining because I just don't want to, I want to wake up tomorrow and fucking kill it.

Has anyone been in a similar place to this? I do worry that right now I'm going to become a bit of a loner and entire monk mode which I'm fine with, but I also recognise the importance of socialising for your mental health. Would appreciate any advice for "monk mode" and making sure I don't burn out during this

www.youtube.com/watch?v=NtwiAkUj5Go

It's good to read that spending sometime in retreat has been a net positive for your overall health, such that you're ready to engage your professional-academic, diet, and physical fitness goals. As your life gains momentum it may become difficult to maintain focus on the various goals you set out to accomplish as new challenges come into awareness. To that end, it may help for you to get yourself two sheets of paper, a pen, and do the following.

On the first sheet write down a list of things that you've been putting off on the back burner due to work, schooling, or just life in general. It doesn't matter how silly, or stupid the task or idea might be, just write it down. When you're done, take the second sheet of paper, and re-write the items from the first list starting with what you believe to be the simplest, easiest task, to the most complicated.

When you're done with the second list, keep it someplace you won't forget. The challenge once you've got the list done won't be simply accomplishing them, but not allowing yourself to be de-spirited whenever you encounter difficulty, or failure. To not let yourself be defeated. You'll spend the time to troubleshoot and diagnose the problem, resume, or start over. Study the book so you're ready to resume engaging females. If you otherwise need help, ask. There's no shortage of #books we can recommend that may help you achieve your goal.

Best of luck to you.

@Machiaspinner

Am i paranoid or i need to trust my. gut feelings

Hello everyone , hope you are doing very well .

I am really in a fucked up mental paranoia right now , your advice would help that will really sooth me .

I am with a LDR for 5 months now , she pushed for exclusivity many times (Not by the talk) but by removing all her dating apps , saying her Pussy is mine , i own her and tries to please me sexually and non sexually (Cooking etc ) etc... I gave it a try , not saying we are exclusive but i acted like we are , i dropped my 2 plates too without saying anything (I outrank her massively on SMV level ) , in addition i pay for all dates because she is a student .

All was good , because at the beginning i wasn't paying attention to what she does or she says , a plate is a plate .

Now as things became more serious , i pay more attention to texts timelapse and i feel like my oneitis is creeping in.

I tracked her ovulation phase , it's those 3 days , and by coincidence she vanishes for 9 hours (Not working , not studying this week ) , and respond when she is at home (because her parents rarely let her sleep outside) , says she was with her sister shopping , a female friend visited her and they went out and tries to keep the conversation with affection , emojis etc , good night .... I dind't buy this shit and the paranoia began AWALT.

Adding to that , she said she will send me nudes to recharge me for the next time we will meet , and she didn't (I didn't ask for them or said anything) .

To be honest i didn't sleep well 3 days in a row , i keep my sanity by running every night . I am really sure in my deepest guts this bitch is cheating (There can be no coincidence of vanishing and her ovulatory phase without cheating , the problem is i don't have a proof .... LDR ) . My dread is on point , minimal affection , coldness after thoses vanishes , she tries to keep conversations , double texts etc ....

I took a decision that i will end this mess , keep lifting and work on my career . Honestly i can't plate her , oneitis is creeping in , to restore my plates i need time , and if i open the relationship , i will be more hurt (Seems like she has many backups she is actually cheating with) .

Now , we arranged to see each other the next week (she will come to my city) to stay together for valentines and her birthday .

So i prepared a revenge plan (Beta trait but that will appease me at least ) , i will fuck her one last time , have good time , lovebomb her , do all naughty things i think of , then when i drop her at the train station i will send this message to: Hey babe , i think this long distance thing won't work , it's better to stop it now . Wish you all the best / Then go ghost without closure .

What do you think guys of my paranoia and if it's justified and my revenge plan .

You guidance and advices are very well appreciated .

"As a rule, what is out of sight disturbs men's minds more seriously than what they see."

― Gaius Julius Caesar, Commentaries on the Gallic War

I don't understand what benefit you gain in spending time and energy planning this Birthday slash St. Valentine's date with your LTR-LD-GF to just blow it up afterwards, because you're paranoid she might be seeing someone else. If you two haven't agreed to being exclusive, then focus on enjoying the time she spends with you during this date, wrap your junk, bang her brains out, then send her home with a skip in her step and a smile on her face.

Consider taking the time to actually read The Socio-Sexual Hierarchy and stop concerning yourself with doing what you believe an alpha would do. Make the time to accept that you're not an alpha, and that it's perfectly find that you never were. Don't concern yourself with if she's exclusive with you, until such a time as you're able to be around her regularly to observe her behavior firsthand.

Contrary to your current thinking, seeking revenge on others for perceived slights is gamma behavior, not Bravo/beta, and this isn't the first time you've hinted at that side of yourself.

While not at the top of the hierarchy, bravo/beta's and delta's are invaluable as they provide the knowledge and skills essential to making sure society functions as smoothly as it does. Focus on being the most capable competent man you imagine you could reasonably be. Simply because you don't see yourself at the top of yet another hierarchy, doesn't mean that there's something wrong with you.

@sharknado

O What do you guys thing of the black pill and the rise in popularity of looksmaxxing? i'm sure you have answered this before but i am curious on what you think the importance of looks in dating is. I used to use this website when i was younger for learning game, i have grown older now and just thought i'd have a look

www.youtube.com/watch?v=NtwiAkUj5Go

Black pilled guys strike me as working through the stages of grief, but stuck specifically on depression for some reason. It's similar to what I see with guys expressing red pill rage, they're hung up on the anger stage of grief for their own reasons. Finding out you've been lied to for most of your life forces you to reprocess a lot of past information and experience as you realign your thinking.

Looks-maxing is unsettling to me, because while being good looking has importance, guys who subscribe to it with such intensity tend to be narcissists. I think a lot of guys who subscribe to that thinking are otherwise stuck in the denial stage of grief. They know enough to grasp that the guy they are at the time of realization isn't one others will find attractive. So, they delude themselves into thinking that if they consume product, develop a body builder physique, or internalize the current media assigned thing that this will make them attractive. It doesn't go well for the ones who can't grasp that that alone isn't going to enable them to achieve their goals.

Reality is that productive men are in a constant state of revision and improvement. So long as a guy steers clear of drugs, sex, and violence during those time of reflection they'll come out of it for the better.

@Saltycroc

Plate ended things- where did I go wrong?

I've been seeing this girl since October, I met her at a halloween party, where she cheated on her boyfriend with me. I kept talking to her, went on a few dates and we had sex twice since the party. I woke up seeing she removed me on snapchat and a message from her saying "your ego is too big and its not funny any more so I'm going to remove you" I hadn't messaged her for about 5 days before this, so maybe that was the reason? Maybe I was too much of an "asshole" and didn't show enough beta qualities to keep her around longer?

is there any way to salvage this? I feel like if she was serious about ending things she would have blocked me instead of just removing me (I can still message her), but maybe that's just my big ego lol.

If not, would anyone have an idea as to where I went wrong?

Study the book. Nothing of value was lost on your part. Plates break. It's just what they do. If anything, you dodged a bullet with this one.

It reads like you both were having yourselves some nice sloppy fun until she decided to make the pseudo-dramatic online exit. Thing is, a plate exiting from your life is inevitable, so why care? You weren't looking to be exclusive with her, and her attempting to monkey branch to you from her boyfriend, she demonstrated a clear inability to be loyal.

Plate ended things- where did I go wrong?

I've been seeing this girl since October, I met her at a halloween party, where she cheated on her boyfriend with me. I kept talking to her, went on a few dates and we had sex twice since the party. I woke up seeing she removed me on snapchat and a message from her saying "your ego is too big and its not funny any more so I'm going to remove you" I hadn't messaged her for about 5 days before this, so maybe that was the reason? Maybe I was too much of an "asshole" and didn't show enough beta qualities to keep her around longer?

is there any way to salvage this? I feel like if she was serious about ending things she would have blocked me instead of just removing me (I can still message her), but maybe that's just my big ego lol.

If not, would anyone have an idea as to where I went wrong?

@brazilianxof

35 and thinking i can't make up for the lost time

Profile: 35 my, 1.86m. I make now and finally 10k a month steadly, after making no shit from 0 to 30 and some shit from 30 to 35.

I have my own middle class car and apartment.

For the past year i had a thing with a girl, that i thought was more than a "joke". Yet, she started coming up with rules, after telling stories that why she made those (ex: i dont do this because once i did and didnt go well - translation i did with other guy but you go wait over there).

The last drop was she going dinner with a dude who told her, me, and all the world he wants to date her. Although is a fat old (like 65) dude who is a work colleague, i had already expressed my opposition to this friendship, because of his overtly said intentions. After that and i saying i'm "done", she sent something basically as i'm just being annoyingly pushy and stupid and tried do make me feel bad for the guy. Well, i said basically the "stay well" and "be gone", with no more than 5 words or so.

Now i'm here at 35 rusty and i don't even know how to go flirt anymore. To be honest i feel old and ridiculous at doing so.

TLDR i feel old ugly and rusty. Im 35 and no hair. Yes i'm in shape but woman at 35-40 gap are married or traumatized and with the 25ish i feel weird

On average most relationships will end in break-ups. Some of it is due to what we've done, but much of it will also be due to what the other party did as well. Better to find out that you and her weren't compatible now, rather than after several bitter years of marriage with children, like so many other guys do.

It reads like you've got a good idea where things went wrong, both in your mate selection, and how you handled the challenge of your relationship while working to earn 10k R$ a month. I'm confident that you'll take the steps to not repeat the bad things and build on the good things you learned during that relationship. If you haven't done so, consider adding her contact info to your tech/telephone block list, packing up anything that reminds you of the ex to give to charity, and take the time you need to process this change in your life.

When you've finished mulling over things, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.