@carnold03 Just noticed your message. Interestingly, I unconsciously did what you were saying. My family runs a business and I just have been focusing on small aspects of that I've neglected over the years. My drive throughout my life was always to be elite. That video is spot on. I don't want to chase the mirage. Porn, substances leave me feeling empty.Chasing women is not best ROI.

Honestly, I just don't know what's worth it. I wrote in my last reply to my post what I envision for my end goal. I understand the journey is the ride. I will do a written list now. Thank you for suggesting that book i downloaded it from annas archive and read the first couple of chapters it definitely applies to me. I rely on women for validation.

Lots of work to be done, looking forward to learn more from you. I will be posting on some tribe my progress and come back here for feedback

From RP, I like Uncle Vas ( I want to get into exploring women's deepest kinks). Whisper, itiswritten and humansockpuppet are my favorites. I hope one day I become that guy to other dudes whom I can inspire. I used to read theredarchive.com and take things literally but now I understand what you mean, to judge the information and test shit out and come back here.

Thank you for taking the time for that well thought reply. Enough talk from me. Time for action

@Lebbaeus

Advice for setting my mind straight

I just graduated at 26 in Electronic Engineering. I have ignored everything in my life. relationship, friends and family.

Stats: After munching a lot in my exams, I got to 30 per cent fat. (I know it's a lof of fckin fat). In reference to this picture, learn.athleanx.com/articles/body-fat-percentage-men I look like the high 20's with a bit more muscle definition on the chest. I have a belly but when I stand up straight it becomes flat.

I watched porn for so long it fucked me up since I was 11. I'm on Day 44 and following AA recovery for porn. I find everything boring, so my mind associates only source of fun is sexual release. I have been to a hooker once because I just wanted to not be a virgin. In addition, I had a friend and i couldn't get it up with her. I feel like I'm not worthy of women on the inside like no self worth. I'm going to block browsing as it is also draining because I surf aimlessly.

I missed out on the sexual teenage years and early 20's. Socially, I don't have anything to talk about and I don't even know who i am anymore. I don't care about anything. My answers are yes no and i keep shit minimal and I feel like i don't want to share anything about my life because I am ashamed of how I lived it. My mind looks for external validation and not internal. Also no active hobbies

My question is:

• Is there anyone with similar experience who overcame that?
• How did you guys get centered and look for internal validation? I lost my confidence and everything. I would appreciate some pointers in setting up a realistic plan to so I'm on the right track. I even forgot how to flirt. I used to be good.

My focus for this year is by 31 December 2026:

• Decent Physique (15% Bodyfat with more muscle definition)
• Get more lays, I'm at 0. I just want to get more and by end of year possibly reach 60. End goal is reach 100 so i can convince myself that I can do it and then decide if getting an ltr is worth it cause I want to have kids at some point. ( I have really good face genetics so with losing weight I get a lot of looks, my friends called me dicaprio but I'm really scared of women like I look away or walk away.)
• Get a job to support myself
• I have this need that I want to be famous, I was thinking of starting a history youtube channel because I love fckin history cause 90% of it is fake. Yes do not get vaccinated. Or want to Get into comedy and sell out like everyone. I want your honest and raw opinion because I want to learn how to be an adult and stop being a snowflake. I'm currently in european country for a week, staying at a friend. Then I'm going back to my home country where I'm staying for months so I can get back to my routine. I can try some small things this week like giving women compliments in order to get over fear of approaching theredarchive.com/r/TheRedPill/snowballing.51699 (My trick is to usually look at women and guess what they study or work and joke around but I get nowhere other than just having fun) It's long because I want you to know where I'm at and what are my weaknesses. Discipline isn't my issue, I just don't know where to put my eggs in which basket as I keep switching priorities.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=NtwiAkUj5Go

It's unfortunate to read that you had to retreat from society in order to accomplish your education, as it speaks volumes of the lack of cohesion, psychological-spiritual support and encouragement you could count on from those around you. If it's an option, get familiar with the location of the free clinics in your area and the nurses office on campus. They tend to offer free condoms in bowls, so stock up. To tackle your pornography problem, consider heading over to No Fap or other groups focused on helping men tackle vices in their lives. Some profiles here tend to deride those who see their own pornography habit, or other vices, as a problem and it can be more than annoying if you're unfamiliar with account block functions, so check those out too. Regardless, it's good to read that you've begun to achieve your goals and have a small list of additional things you want to accomplish. To that end, it may help for you to get yourself two sheets of paper, a pen, and do the following.

On the first sheet write down a list of things that you've been putting off on the back burner due to work, schooling, or just life in general starting with what you've shared with us. It doesn't matter how silly, or stupid the task or idea might be, just write it down. When you're done, take the second sheet of paper, and re-write the items from the first list starting with what you believe to be the simplest, easiest task, to the most complicated.

When you're done with the second list, keep it someplace you won't forget. The challenge once you've got the list done won't be simply accomplishing them, but not allowing yourself to be de-spirited whenever you encounter difficulty, or failure. To not let yourself be defeated. You'll spend the time to troubleshoot and diagnose the problem, resume, or start over.

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if its something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

If you otherwise need help, ask. Be discerning of any advice you're offered and never forget that there's no shortage of #books that may help you achieve your goals. Best of luck to you.

@robert87

few relationship questions

Been in a relationship with HB8 for 3 months. She is the same girl I posted about last time. My first time having a girlfriend.

My old post is here: www.forums.red/p/asktrp/324472/are_these_iois

On a new account because my old email address got hacked. Thanks mods for helping me clear it up.

What do you do if your girlfriend seems to have a swarm of beta orbiters and simps that are always trying to kiss her ass and get access to her?

What do I do about how she snoops through my things?

Is it normal that she is dominating my space, bringing a suitcase load of beauty products every time she stays over and leaving half of them behind? Five different kinds of shampoo in my shower, bottles of lotions in my car and my office and every room of my house?

Are these things normal or are there actions I should take? She is a very nice girl and I am happy. She is bright and cheerful, pleasant to spend time with, understanding, tries to make me happy and meet my needs.

Thanks lads.

Edit to answer own question:

I think red pill would say it would be to have other options and not focus on one girl but she is extremely hot while I am disfigured from an accident. Don't know how to get an abundance mentality when other women all think I'm scary. Act confident but honestly feel lucky that even one hot girl thinks well of me.

Here's a link to CS50's 2023 Introduction to Cybersecurity playlist. I've no clue how bad your tech problem was, or is, but that should be an interesting watch if ever you've the time to spare on it. Better to build the foundation of your understanding of such things with information provided in part by Harvard Professor David Malan, than anonymous internet nobodies like us.

As for the situation with the female you're dating, study the book. I get that you're apprehensive about being able to keep a hottie due to being disfigured, but you've been dating for the past three months and as far as we know she doesn't seem to mind. If she wants to snoop through your phone, calmly ask her to hand you hers, unlock them together, trade, and let the snooping begin. If you don't find anything of concern to you, kill time by looking for games on her phone, and play them until she returns yours. It'll help you maintain the 'Why would I care, I'm no liar' attitude. As for what to do if you come across something, aside for staying calm, I'll leave others to advise you there.

That she has male orbiters is kind of to be expected for a hot girl though. If she's knowingly doing things to encourage them to be in her orbit then your concern is only fair, especially if she's not introducing you to people as her boyfriend. However, with what you've shared, and my own lack of in interest in asking questions, outside of encouraging her to make the acquaintance of other females to build an entourage of young men and women, I don't see much else that you could otherwise do beyond accepting the situation and possibly making the move to date other girls.

@brazilianxof

Is it weird/cringe to target a type? And, is it stupid?

The reason i ask is becausa i want to bang some asians, as objectifying as it sounds, i just want to. And, given their usual preferences and my fenotype, i"m usually not their type.

I wonder if this a damaged way of going forward and increases the odds of pedestalizing

I also was watching "Industry" show and that Marisa Abela has a body...... So, you see, is this "simping" bad?

Being a wimp tends to be a pre-requisite to being a simp. Regardless, you're voicing concerns over a non-issue. Women are women, regardless of their ancestry, though I can't say guys often openly declare a growing interest in jewish females.

Study the book and engage with females as you see fit. You don't need our permission or approval regarding your choices. Just be prepared for any likely or potential consequences. The only difference in how you regard foreign females compared to the ones you've been involved with in the past, should be with a mindset of not repeating past mistakes and you should do fine. Outside of that, try to keep your enthusiasm for the exotic under some control.

@iautrptgl

I've recently been very locked in/monk mode and I love it, would appreciate your guys thoughts on it

I've had varying success with women, and it comes down to me having varying success with myself. Not being able to lose weight/get into shape, not being disciplined with my studies, work and diet. I've falling into the feeling of FOMO and going out with my mates/drinking "just because". Now most of my friends have gone travelling for 6 months (they finished their articles and are doing a gap year), so this year I've decided to lock in. I'm cleaning up my diet, gymming religiously, fixing all the body issues I have (ankle, shoulders etc.) and signed up for 2 board exams (each are 500 hours recommended study time).

The thing is, I fucking love it. I love waking up sober, I love grinding throughout the day at gym/studying/work/whatever task I have. It's honestly the best I have felt in years. But I strangely feel some guilt, my friends who are still in town want to see me, they want me to go out and drink with them but I keep declining because I just don't want to, I want to wake up tomorrow and fucking kill it.

Has anyone been in a similar place to this? I do worry that right now I'm going to become a bit of a loner and entire monk mode which I'm fine with, but I also recognise the importance of socialising for your mental health. Would appreciate any advice for "monk mode" and making sure I don't burn out during this

www.youtube.com/watch?v=NtwiAkUj5Go

It's good to read that spending sometime in retreat has been a net positive for your overall health, such that you're ready to engage your professional-academic, diet, and physical fitness goals. As your life gains momentum it may become difficult to maintain focus on the various goals you set out to accomplish as new challenges come into awareness. To that end, it may help for you to get yourself two sheets of paper, a pen, and do the following.

On the first sheet write down a list of things that you've been putting off on the back burner due to work, schooling, or just life in general. It doesn't matter how silly, or stupid the task or idea might be, just write it down. When you're done, take the second sheet of paper, and re-write the items from the first list starting with what you believe to be the simplest, easiest task, to the most complicated.

When you're done with the second list, keep it someplace you won't forget. The challenge once you've got the list done won't be simply accomplishing them, but not allowing yourself to be de-spirited whenever you encounter difficulty, or failure. To not let yourself be defeated. You'll spend the time to troubleshoot and diagnose the problem, resume, or start over. Study the book so you're ready to resume engaging females. If you otherwise need help, ask. There's no shortage of #books we can recommend that may help you achieve your goal.

Best of luck to you.