The Red Pill: Discussion of sexual strategy in a culture increasingly lacking a positive identity for men.
49m ago TheRedPill
usually through social proof and/or pre-selection
Miss walking into events, passing security with a dap. Cordinator gives me hug. Photographer calls out Kloi, I flip em the bird, they snap my photo.
Any female that wasn't a regular would gravitate towards our groups because everyone else seemingly was.
Pussy would just fall in my lap because women thought I was something special when in truth we all just ran in the same crowd with the staff. Of course our friends gave us special treatment they shouldn't have bday.
If you can curate it, social game is unmatched from my experience. It was my crutch from freshman year to my late twenties.
Only reason I learned to open women was because I moved out to the West Coast where no one knew who the fuck I was.
Also find some girls will be 2 or 3, and then switch to 1.
I went to a little social on Friday at a local bar, no gaming just strictly social. Walked up to a girl, introduced myself. Got a limp handshake and "eh" response. So just turned to the guy stood next to her and spoke to him for a good 10 minutes. Carried on along my rounds around the bar introducing myself.
Bit later in the night that same girl is giving IoIs and hunts me down to say goodbye - despite never having a conversation. So does happen.
I only interacted with women who were stealing me. I didn't approach even one woman tonight who wasn't trying to get my attention. Worked better than usual
I never did the dance hall thing, but that was similar to how I did things once I started hitting my stride:
1) see IOIs? Approach and open, even if it's just "hi!" Anything is better than nothing.
2) no IOIs? No matter how pretty the woman is, if she's not showing interest, don't bother.
3) woman you're talking to starts putting up barriers? Resistance? Showing disinterest? Leave. Cut it off and move on.
It worked really well for me. Pick from the ones who show interest, and continually gauge their interest. Don't waste time and effort trying to win over the uninterested.
It saves a lot of time and energy, and you face less rejection so your morale/confidence stays high.
Read MoreAs you say, the less you care and the less invested you are the more success flows to you. But when you end up in a rut or on a bit of a losing streak it can sometimes be difficult not to take it to heart.
Quote-repeating again for anyone lurking or following along.
I'm adjusting to a new way of operating so it's a rough permanent adjustment compared to previous changes. Probably similar to you I take it
Pretty much. More jaded than anything else really. And then trying to rebuild but it's been a bit rocky. The storm will pass, it always does.
I only interacted with women who were stealing me. I didn't approach even one woman tonight who wasn't trying to get my attention. Worked better than usual
Sometimes that's the best play, works surprisingly well. Guess you get the whole preselection going and they start fighting over you.
I assume this is the salsa/dance club or whatever right?
For sure. In my case it isn't a basic down in the dumps. My last thing fundamentally changed me
This is a permanent transformation not a temporary ebb and flow
I'm adjusting to a new way of operating so it's a rough permanent adjustment compared to previous changes. Probably similar to you I take it
But yeah, i did definitely just avoid any semblance of pursuit tonight and of anything that sort of resembled it i immediately abandoned mission the moment i got an ounce of resistance
I only interacted with women who were stealing me. I didn't approach even one woman tonight who wasn't trying to get my attention. Worked better than usual
I haven't gotten a text like this out the gates before. And I even apologized to her a couple times in the night. Mainly because my fuccboi energy was too high so i apologize for being in demand lmao
@Vermillion-Rx Sounds like a positive night though.
That's the thing when you're a little rusty. Lots of ups and downs. I'm in the same position atm. Some days I feel like the fucking man, some days a bit down in the dumps.
As you say, the less you care and the less invested you are the more success flows to you. But when you end up in a rut or on a bit of a losing streak it can sometimes be difficult not to take it to heart.
But hey, you had a solid night. Had some fun. Had a bit of success.