@DaxerZone

Beginner here needs help on what to start/materials etc

Hey bros, so very recently I have started to get fed up with my lack of success on the dating market and I came across the RedPill subreddit and then this forum.

I have heard of RP before, but didn't explore it. Now, to provide some context on me + current situation and then finally the questions I wanna ask.

So, I'm a freshly 22year old 1st year master student in AI at a technical university. One of my main issues is the need/craving for connections, desirability. I have an idea as to why this is, and I will try not to phrase it as an excuse: middle school I was bullied to hell by a bunch of my colleagues and I was never able to integrate in the class. I did have friends outside of it, some also in school but never in the class which has damaged my whole perception of validation - I so desperately wanted to be accepted in that class that I tried everything and I was chasing that respect that ofc never came, I craved the spotlight and still do. These years of middle school made me shy to an unnatural degree in school environments, and especially with girls. Then high school came, and some of those assholes from middle school ended up in the same high school where they also managed to fuck up my experience a bit (not as bad as middle school, I wasn't popular but I wasn't a reject anymore) till I got into a fight with one of them and funnily enough that seemed to solve it. The shyness with girls continued, but I started to read some RP stuff and getting some dates and some short lived relationships.

All culminated at the end of it, almost 19 when there was this girl I was seeing and I was about to lose my V-card. Only that I got hit with performance anxiety, and not only I had to deal with the fucking disappoinment I had to also console her/stop her from crying and that has also fucked with my brain. After that I had a few attempts to try again to lose my V-card, not many but same outcome - couldn't fucking get hard for the life of me. And no, I don't watch porn so at least I'm not that low. Problem is these incidents are constantly on the back of my mind, and it makes me more desperate for sex than I should be which is very fucking bad

One advantage I have is my height, I'm 6"5 so I should be having much more success at least based on that fucking thing, but I fail again and again. I do some cold approaches from time to time but they don't feel comfortable to me yet, had a whole bunch of like numbers/insta's but yea as we all know an insta/number doesn't always mean smth. I always have this stupid little voice in my brain saying "oh she's busy, oh she didn't make eye contact bla bla bla". Another issue I have is that I have relatively high standards which combined with the lack of field experience is a shit combination

Other than that, I'm doing fine in life. Hobbies wise I joined a beach voleyball team so I can train for the summer/learn a sport and meet people + a surfing association bcs its a cool thing to do and gives you a more chill vibe (or at least I hope)

One thing I am lacking right now is in the gym department, I am starting on it slowly as I am firmly in the skinny-fat category.

Now, my question to you guys is: what should I do first? Seeing there are so many topics/videos/books what should I start with? What problems could be that I overlooked to mention/ I am completely fucking blind to?

Any help is appreciated

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@JohnDoeEX

Is she friendly or just friendly , should i try hooking up with her ?

I met this girl at work , she is new ( 2 months max ) she is engaged i think they are suposed to get married next year but she is the flirty type , she pressed her chest to my arm , she likes to come close sometimes like shoulders touching when talking in a group , she let me rest my forearm on her upper leg for a couple of seconds , she let me grab her ankle in a playful way

I bumped into her by accident and she told me "are you trying to dominate me ?" , i tried keeping my distance because she was a fiance but if i do that she comes and asks me if something si wrong if im upset

Is she friendly or actually wants to cheat ? i dont want a relationship with her , maybe a hookup , she is driving me insane because she is very hot

Forgot to mention that she doesnt do these kind of things only with me , other guys grab her from behind her neck , she was walking in front of some guy and stop so he would bump into her , she did it a couple of times to annoy the guy and they started playfighting

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@skylerclooney

Need perspective on my situation

Hey everyone, I’m new here and wanted to put my story out because I’ve been carrying this around and could use some outside perspective. I met a girl about a year ago, and from the start we clicked in a way that felt different. We spent a lot of time together, shared plans, and she really made me feel like I’d found something serious. But lately things have shifted. She’s become distant, cancels plans often, and when we’re together it feels like her attention is somewhere else. I’ve tried to bring it up without sounding needy, but she brushes it off with "I’m just busy." I can’t figure out if I should keep putting effort in, give her more space, or take the distance as a sign that it’s time to move on. I know emotions can cloud judgment, so I’d like to hear from people who’ve been in similar situations. How do you decide when it’s worth fighting for and when it’s smarter to walk away?

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.