@joyboy

Cause I wanted to follow @Vermillion-rx advice on making friends first .

Not to speak for him, and Vermy is certainly free to correct meb if I'm mistaken, but he meant focus on making friends instead of obsessing over women.

he did not mean for you to ignore golden opportunities that fall in your lap, or worse, to FriendZone yourself with women who are interested.

Also I didn’t get the vibe that she was attracted (I feel like I can tell pretty well) and was just being friendly

A) again: ah, ok, this is why you get laid so much, right?

B) I made that same mistake a lot when I was young. I missed a ton of great opportunities because I talked myself out of going for it.

Fucking shoot your shot when a chick seems even remotely interested. Rejection is better than regret.

And if a woman you don't know opens a conversation with you, and it's not in the context of something like "did you find everything you were shopping for today?" or "our cocktail special today is an extra-dirty martini" or trying to sell you something, she is interested! She may be only 50% interested and trying to see what you're about, or she might be 100% interested and want to fuck in the next 5 minutes, or somewhere in-between.

But she is interested.

@Suitable-Error7286

From your OP:

Then I fall for one of my plates. Next thing I know she tells me how much she loves me

Just to be sure, she said so first, right?

From Roissy's Sixteen Commandments of Poon, we have number 1:

Never say ‘I Love You’ first

Women want to feel like they have to overcome obstacles to win a man’s heart. They crave the challenge of capturing the interest of a man who has other women competing for his attention, and eventually prevailing over his grudging reluctance to award his committed exclusivity. The man who gives his emotional world away too easily robs women of the satisfaction of earning his love. Though you may be in love with her, don’t say it before she has said it. Show compassionate restraint for her need to struggle toward yin fulfillment. Inspire her to take the leap for you, and she’ll return the favor a thousandfold.

Next thing I know she tells me how much she loves me while accepting and taking home a piece of paper with another mens number in the same day(she works at a bar).

1) frequently, women lie. They lie very convincingly, too. I can't say for certain that she was lying, but it's a distinct possibility.

2) women also rarely speak of any objective reality or fact, but rather how they feel in the moment. They are ruled by their emotions. A helpful exercise is to mentally add the phrase "right now I feel that..." to the beginning of anything a woman says. For example: "right now I feel that I love you" or "right now I feel that we'll be together forever" or "right now I feel that there is no other man for me".

Back to number 1: this is sometimes how they lie so convincingly: they truly feel they are telling the truth in that moment. Hence the common female phrase "my truth".

3) she might have no idea how to behave in a relationship. That, or you aren't actually in one. Did you two commit to exclusivity/monogamy? If so, then either she doesn't know that girlfriends don't accept numbers from new men (more likely, since she told you about it), or she's just a cheating whore. If you two didn't commit to exclusivity/monogamy, then she doesn't owe it to you. You're both free to go fuck other people.

Important: you don't bring that shit up (exclusivity/monogamy). Worrying about a relationship is a woman's job. Your job is to get sex.

She might also be telling you about that other dude as a ploy to make you jealous, both to see how you react as well as to get you to commit ("if he sees that other guys want me, maybe he'll try to lock me down!").

She may also have simply accepted it to be polite, and told you about it because she believes in that "open and transparent communication" crap.

There are many possibilities, and you'll likely never know the entire truth.

What's important is: a) what do you want? and b) what are you willing to put up with?

Her behavior and treatment of you matters far more than any reason behind any of it.

You have some decisions to make.

If this is unacceptable to you and you can't stomach even looking at her again, then end it. I don't necessarily recommend this, especially given the lack of information I have available to me.

If you want to keep fucking her, have right at it, but I strongly advise keeping in the back of your mind that she is likely not worthy of any real commitment. Whether it's due to ignorance or just the bad behavior. You can try addressing this with "do you think it's OK for someone who's committed and says she loves her man to accept a phone number from a new man?" Let her noodle it out for herself. Don't try to control her, and don't issue ultimatums. That'll just come across as weak.

You know, there's a lot of information missing. I'm not going to erase everything I've said so far. It's food for thought.

But are you two actually committed to exclusivity? If so, for how long now? How long were you two fucking before you committed? If not, are you still fucking your other plates? Etc etc etc

I mean, did you two fuck once, and she said "I love you" and then take that phone number the same day?

Had you two been fucking for a long time, and she said it after getting to know you outside of sex?

to lose my virginity

Was it to her?!

one of my plates

How many other women were you fucking concurrently?

she works at a bar

That's a job that if a woman has it, proceed with extreme caution.

Nurses, teachers, bartender chicks, chicks in normally-male lines of work (military, construction, etc) all tend to be extremely slutty.

That doesn't necessarily mean that 100% of them are sluts, but the odds of finding one worthy of any real commitment are ultra-slim.

Anyway, ultimately, your decisions and consequences are your own.