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Time for you to practice your "frame control" as @Vermillion-Rx implies.
If you struggle with sticking with boundaties I suggest an autistic method to help you with that.
Draw a table with one line and 4 columns.
The line will have her name.
The columns are: 0, short-term, medium-term, long-term.
When your head cools down, sit on a desk and rationally assess the girl's potential.
Act in accordance with the category you've put her in.
This mental assessment tool will help you discipline yourself. (I.e don't give medium-term trrament to short-term girls).
Good luck.
Namely setting boundaries, frame, not continuing to hang out with her she does undesirable things and doesn't put out.
OP is acting like has no agency/can't hold frame
You can avoid that situation without being obstinate
@Vermillion-Rx I’m going to get the “we should move slow” treatment when I’m trying to get the “ONS fuck like rabbits and leave” treatment if I do anything besides ghost until she recontacts me.
I’m open to opinions but I don’t EVER want to be in that situation again.
@Vermillion-Rx I thought it through. I’m just going to ghost and move to the follow-up chick.
Wut
This is full of so many contradictory misconceptions it's a lot to break down because so much of this analysis is wrong and loaded with cognitive fallacies as well as lack of RP understanding
Went On Date, She Talked Herself Into Wanting Me, How to Proceed?
I went on a second date with this girl. I was barely responding to questions and barely holding the conversation. She basically led the entire convo and kept saying I was making moves when I wasn’t. Kept saying I was pausing while eating to wait for her to finish, kept saying I was staring into her eyes, kept saying I was so sweet offering her food.
Eventually, we finish and I say we should go for a ride in my car. She was like “Are you even going to ask me if I’m comfortable with that?”. I told her “you’re already walking to my car, you know you want to come with me”.
We go some place secluded and she starts crying. She’s like “No hookup would ever treat me like this. My ex was trash and using me. My parents are trash. My job barely pays me”. I pulled her in and started playing with her tits because I didn’t really care about the trauma dump. She asked if I was really trying to be with her or just wanted to pump and dump. I said “I only focus on the present, we’ll see when we get there”. Cue a long make out session and feeling up her tits and ass.
I’m so madly confused because she literally talked herself into wanting me. I barely said anything and when I did, I was deflecting and giving vague answers.
I’m trying to figure out how to proceed. I know with all that baggage she’s 100% going to cheat. But now I feel really bad because I know the proper thing to do now would be ghost her until she contacts me again to make more plans. I feel this is right because she’s got a ton of baggage and she’s a hoe and she should be proving that she’s worth having around. But, morally, I really want to beta out and start providing.
I’m trying so hard to break this mindset because this is EXACTLY script by script what my ex did. She cried on my shoulder and trauma dumped and I went from barely texting her and only showing up to hook up with her to providing for her and talking about the future and shit.
How do I move forward without regressing?
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