Hello everyone, I hope you’re all doing great. I have a question: did I mess things up with this plate, or should I just consider it broken?

I’ve been seeing this girl, 23 years old, for about five months. She’s a real virgin, shy, feminine, and assertive. For those five months, I basically put her on a pedestal. My morality kept telling me not to escalate, thinking that since she’s a virgin, it wouldn’t lead anywhere and would be a waste of time, even though I know that AWALT.

Despite the clear high interest she was showing me, I kept it cool and made no move. Recently, I finally decided to escalate with kino and kisses, and she was receptive. But after the second time, she said she wanted to talk.

She told me she wasn’t expecting things to go that far, especially since we had known each other for five months and I hadn’t made a move until now. She also mentioned that I come off as a bit arrogant and hard to deal with, probably because I’ve been maintaining my frame and giving her only occasional validation. She added that she just wants to enjoy her time, because i mentionned in the past that I wasn’t looking for anything serious at the moment, which in hindsight I probably shouldn’t have said.

Honestly, she’s right. Waiting that long to escalate was a weak move on my part. I tried to cover it by saying “good things take time,” and she just laughed and accepted it . But deep down, I feel like I triggered her anti-slut defense, and now I’m wondering if it’s best to walk away from this and accept that the plate is broken.