If you have a LTR, would you accpet her getting pissy over little shit constantly and ignoring you?
@MistahCam What boundary do you you have in mind. How would you word it to yourself? "You cannot be pissy at me"?
@FAWK I really have to get in that mindset of not being afraid of letting people go. My mindset is so bad that when I first thing about it, I phrase it as 'losing them' rather than letting them go.
If you have a LTR, would you accpet her getting pissy over little shit constantly
No. I start by making fun of her to try to lighten her up and see how ridiculous she's being.
If that doesn't work, I leave the room, the house, whatever. I refuse to be present if I can be elsewhere
and ignoring you?
I welcome that. Peace and quiet.
@IHateNames I love that you recognize the covert contracts. So many people come around trying to fix things without understanding anything—looks like you’ve at least started preparing yourself.
The ignoring part is what gets me if I'm being honest.
It brings back a lot of BP urges. Makes me want to chase after her and fix the situation. It's something I'm really trying to work on. I'm guessing it's some sort of co-dependancy thing. "I can only feel good if she's not mad" thing.
I'm trying to get to that "Great, peace and quiet" mindset.
@IHateNames that's your natural instinct to protect and please wahmyns. You can overcome it, now that you recognize it.
I'm trying to get to that "Great, peace and quiet" mindset.
Even lifelong plugged-in dudes get there if they're with the same woman long enough. You'll get there.
@Aging-Chad In that case what does it mean when your ltr has become easily annoyed/shitty after being obsessed with you until now? Have I lost her for good? I believe it's due to some relapse of beta behaviors. We're both early 20s if that matters.
@IHateNames I’d say those are the dire signs that it’s better to cut than to start trying to “fix” things. Girls don’t get that way towards men they respect, and once lost it takes something heroic to earn respect back.
