That is a much better way to handle forgivness.
As I right now I tolerate so much and just get mad for a bit them I'm "Forgive and forget". Back to the usual.
Meaning I forgive and then try to 'work things out' even tho me without the 'love lens' would have walked away at so many things she's done.
You're right. Right now I think I'm just looking for reasons to walk away I think.
It's been such a pile up of stupid fights, lying, snopping through my phone when I sleep. I'm honestly just exhasted and I don't know why it's so hard for me to just walk away.
This is one of those things that only you can decide.
how do you want to handle it?
Do you want to enjoy easy access to sex, but know that you can't believe anything she says?
Or do you want to next! the lying bitch?
Figure out what you want, be willing to own the consequences of whatever decision you make, and make the decision.
Is lying a deal breaker for you guys? I mean straight up falsified stories and that kind of thing.
Whether male or female, any adult that casually lies has been doing it for so long that it comes to them with an ease comparable to a fish breathing water on their part and for many are dependent upon it to survive. The problem is that lying undermines confidence and trust, without which there can be no relationship.
I can't say whether you should stick with this female or not, as you're the one dealing with them. However, you're asking us these questions because your gut's telling you something, and it's best to not second guess ones instincts. So ask yourself the following;
If you find yourself answering 'no' to any of the questions above, you may want to consider that the relationship cannot advance beyond where it is and seriously question why you got together with her in the first place.
In future, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library.
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@Fawking_Gay How would you handle if a LTR or potential LTR lied to your face until you came across proof saying otherwise.
One of my BP traits I'm still dealing with is being too easy/forgiving
Is lying a deal breaker for you guys? I mean straight up falsified stories and that kind of thing.
As I deal with the withdrawl from my previous LTR I have begun to realize why I am so messed up over this breakup.
Even though I thought I had changed, I still make women the goal or mission in my life. That is why I feel so lost when a LTR ends. I found myself switching my focus from my LTR to getting plates. Still making women the focus of my life. I want to change my focus but unsure of my first step.
In the future, try to not spend too much time fixated on the problems and disappointments in your life unless you're also going to spend time thinking up, or finding, ideas on actionable solutions those problems and disappointments.
Get yourself a sheet of paper and write out a list of the things you've wanted, or were otherwise unable, to do. Don't concern yourself with how simple, complex, expensive or cheaply they are to accomplish. Just make the list. Then when you've finished your list, do them one at a time until the list is complete.
Read More@WaveGod- I just follow the texting for logistics advise and be interesting in person.
As I deal with the withdrawl from my previous LTR I have begun to realize why I am so messed up over this breakup.
Even though I thought I had changed, I still make women the goal or mission in my life. That is why I feel so lost when a LTR ends. I found myself switching my focus from my LTR to getting plates. Still making women the focus of my life. I want to change my focus but unsure of my first step.
@redpillschool I have improved a lot already since the last message.
Im just still dealing with thoughts caused by oneitis. What if I cant get someone better in x way. Attractiveness, etc.
Now I'm also dealing with the fact that she's showing up at places that she knows I'll be at. Trying to put herself near me I guess. So I will initiate an interaction with her. I have not spoken to her since the breakup even though she's tried this a few times.
