@Mountainman Heh, this could have been written by the me of 30 years ago.

Approached a woman at the store; “hey which olive oil spray should I get?” Run away from me.

Ask a chick as a dispensary for her number because she seemingly likes me: “I have a bf

Women working public facing jobs get hit on ALL the damn time. One of the most jaded and least receptive cohorts that exist, toward cold approaches.

As for the store incident, just piping up out of the blue feels jarring and was probably uncalibrated. Social interactions are seldom purely spontaneous. There were probably missed lead in steps, like proximity and initial eye contact.

It's really worth studying up on, then practicing and refining your applied use of, RULES OF EYE CONTACT. It's one of the important drivers of how social openings proceed. It drives decisions to proceed warmly, coldly, or disconnect, and it happens instantly and almost completely subconsciously. If you're uncalibrated on this step, you wind up blocking most possible social connections at the gate.

I'm here to tell you firsthand: you can arrive at young adulthood without having learned social skills naturally like your neurotypically average cohorts. But with applied study and effort, gain and internalize these skills in say 1 to 2 years.

Eye contact is a subtopic of Kinesics AKA Body Language. College psychology textbooks make a good starting point on the path to catching yourself up on these skills. Once you internalize it, you'll find not just flirting but all kinds of social interactions playing out so much smoother and better than what you're experiencing now.

@NotRokkit

How do I delete my account

Before you delete your account, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@Typo-MAGAshiv I'm not on Twitter so my sample size of interactions with users stands at zero. However, I've noticed over the years that it never seems to come up in discussions among left leaning people. I only ever see it referenced by openly right leaning people, when they need an example of an"awful leftist.

Sometimes makes me imagine a Dead Internet Theory Scenario wherein no actual Leftists actually exist there, just right wing trolls.

IRL groups of actual Leftists tend to err on the side of acting TOO passive and TOO nonviolent even in the presence or aftermath of a violent attack or other crime against themselves.

Personally, my answer to the conflict between high regard for the ideal of nonviolent conflict resolution, and unwillingness to keep getting victimized by aggressive or criminal individuals, was to spend many years studying Aikido, which doesn't offer attack techniques but consists of defensive ones.

This after my experience growing up in the 80s, where a big Karate school in town (that later joined the Chuck Norris school franchise) served to crank out the most aggressive and brutal of schoolyard bullies.

@AestheticMan

How to integrate looks into red pill frame?

Hello. Based on the feedbacks, I am quite good looking, but I have found an issue stuffing this trait of mine into the TRP framework. On the other forum I read that following the classic TRP premise of "just be aggressive bro" is mainly for ugly, short guys, and doesn't work with handsome guys. I read that handsome guys need to be humble and kind for women to not be scared of them. And I instinctively found this out a lot of time ago, the best results are when I completely forget about these autistic RP stuff. And I'm just being myself.

The main question is: "Is TRP mainly for uglies / over 50 bald guys ?" ? Because if I even apply TRP, I 100% of the cases come off ass way to strong. This is mainly talking about 18-24 year old girls. The MILF's / high BC women do require some TRP behaviour, but I am not after those excessively used up sluts. Í conclude that being more peaceful is good for younger girls. But what is your inputs? Thank s in advance!

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@Red_dead

Can I recover?

I’ll went on three dates with this girl and didnt have sex due to bad logistics.

After 2nd and 3rd date she texted me asking me to go out again.

I just moved back home and have a sick family member and my siblings are home as well for the surgery. I was honestly planning to take a break from dating after fucking 7girls in 3 months but ended up actually having a lot in common with this girl. She paid for our 2nd date too.

I invited her over after second date a couple days later but she had tickets for an event and she later told me should would have came if she had known i meant earlier.

Anyways 3rd date my dad had surgery the next day but I went on the date because it ended up getting postponed and knew id be busy later. Date ended all good we kissed a little like after every date but I could tell she wanted me to escalate and tbh I had too many things on my mind and logistics were shit.

Texted her next day no response. She is away at a family thing all wknd but still its been 2 days so im figuring im cooked. Any way to recover? I think im done with dating for a bit after this to focus on other things so I dont really want to pursue another girl.

You banged your fill, awesome. Study the book. You've got your life, she's got hers, so pace out the outreach, and make time to approach other females if you feel so inclined. I hope your dad has a smooth recovery from his surgery and that your other sick relatives get well too.