@redpillschool @redpillschool I agree. Its a different view that is worth examining. I think we can benefit from looking a little more at things from both sides when we consider courtship and life with women.

Red pill and the manosphere began like a life raft from the shipwreck of western culture on the rocks of gynocentrism. Men had been lied to for about a century and gradually deprived of their rights and agency in the world. It was totally natural and logical that the first efforts of red pill men should focus on regaining male agency. Men had been trained that they should exist to give women agency and never look to their own needs. The first red pill advice was naturally focused on men and what you as a man can do to improve your outcomes in life when the odds are loaded against you.

As Red pill thought matures, its focus can widen a little to look at a slightly bigger picture. We are after all supposed to be the leaders of society as well as sovereigns of our households and personal lives. The role of women benefits slightly more study.

It would make little sense if all the agency and all the choosing were on the same side in the world. It would not benefit evolution. Humans are complex creatures and women want mates who add the value they personally need -the right mix of genes to make socially adept children as well as physically adept ones and ideally a man they can work with in rearing their family. Men have agency to make moves and get things done, women have choice over men. Women choose who they invite to make a move.

If you have ever owned a cockerel, you end up feeling sorry for the hens. The article writer has evidently not seen a cockerel mercilessly chase a hen across the yard, peck her into submission, stamping his feet on her tearing a gash in her skin that may never heal and then having his way. Women are not hens, men are not cockerels. In all normal circumstances there is choosing on the female side. Its not just a case of doing the dance right or being big enough or high enough status.

I’ve been on over a hundred dates the past year and a half. 50 percent don’t make it past first date whether it be me ending it or them.

Of the other 50% I’d say probably more than half end it with me or ghost me

I figure nothing to lose so I texted 4 girls that ghosted me in past few months and asked for feedback..

the exact answer was related to “I didn’t think you were really interested in me”

Keep in mind I pay for the dates, let them stay over, etc

How can I even overcome this? How do you seem non chalant/not needy while also displaying interest?

I had a girl end it today because she felt more “like friends”. I picture a fat ugly dude when I hear that - I don’t try to sleep with these women or do anything physical until like date 3/4 and only if it feels right. I’m basically not affectionate at all..