Can someone help me understand what happened in this situation?
One night at a nightclub, I was sitting at a table celebrating someone’s birthday. There was also this promoter nearby who’s known for being really controlling. His table wasn’t doing great that night — only a few semi-attractive girls there — and he seemed irritated, maybe because I wasn’t hanging around his group.
Out of nowhere, he started giving one guy from my table this intense stare. That guy immediately looked uncomfortable, like nervous-body-language type stuff, head down, tense posture. Then suddenly, the women at our table started screaming and yelling. The promoter kept staring at all of us, and I suddenly felt super anxious — my thoughts were racing, my vision went weird (colors looked off), and my body just kind of acted on its own.
I rushed between one guy at my table and the promoter, made a triangle/pyramid shape with my hands, looked left and right, and the promoter kind of flinched like I scared him. After that, I moved to the dance floor, started spinning around with my hands out inside a crowd, and then walked back like nothing happened.
It was a really wild moment, and I still don’t understand what caused the screaming or why I acted that way. Has anyone experienced something like this or can explain what might’ve gone on?
Read More@SamuelAnders It’s painfully obvious whenever someone is trying too hard like this in a social setting. It comes off as desperate. Sometimes you can take the high road and remain aloof and watch them implode, and other times you can casually point out the behavior to diffuse it. “I hadn’t really planned on comparing resumes over coffee today, I was more interested in talking about…” or “you seem like you’re a very competitive person.”
Either way, there’s no need to doubt yourself or compare to other people just because some other guy is insecure or posturing to look good.
@deeplydisturbed Interesting. Tell me more. What're your thoughts?
Hi! Recently, I visited a coffee shop in my hometown/city and met a group of people my age, late 20s, all sitting at a table, the "cool table," and I noticed that they were there basically every single day during the week. At some point, I started flirting with the most attractive woman and noticed one guy seemed quite upset, but I ignored him. Eventually, he introduced himself, and I told him I'm a CTO of a tech company and had previously worked at Amazon/Microsoft/etc. and attended an Ivy League university. He started looking at my LinkedIn, and I noticed he had a slightly angry expression, seemingly wanting to "compete with me" and behave as if he were my equal. Then, all of a sudden, he began trying to lead me, suggesting I should start my own company and control my own destiny instead of being a CTO. He made excuses for why he didn't get into a good university, saying he only had one extracurricular and that he's not good at BS'ing on essays. It's as if he tried to force me to respect him. I noticed on his LinkedIn that he was laid off from the past four tech jobs he's had since graduating college and is currently on the job market, interviewing at companies but unable to land anything. What are your thoughts on this guy? I felt like he was somehow undermining my confidence/making me feel doubtful. I started programming when I was 8 years old.
That's nice, I guess, but I think we're all more curious to know if you got the phone numbers of the 'cool' girls that interested you at the table.
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Hi! Recently, I visited a coffee shop in my hometown/city and met a group of people my age, late 20s, all sitting at a table, the "cool table," and I noticed that they were there basically every single day during the week. At some point, I started flirting with the most attractive woman and noticed one guy seemed quite upset, but I ignored him. Eventually, he introduced himself, and I told him I'm a CTO of a tech company and had previously worked at Amazon/Microsoft/etc. and attended an Ivy League university. He started looking at my LinkedIn, and I noticed he had a slightly angry expression, seemingly wanting to "compete with me" and behave as if he were my equal. Then, all of a sudden, he began trying to lead me, suggesting I should start my own company and control my own destiny instead of being a CTO. He made excuses for why he didn't get into a good university, saying he only had one extracurricular and that he's not good at BS'ing on essays. It's as if he tried to force me to respect him. I noticed on his LinkedIn that he was laid off from the past four tech jobs he's had since graduating college and is currently on the job market, interviewing at companies but unable to land anything. What are your thoughts on this guy? I felt like he was somehow undermining my confidence/making me feel doubtful. I started programming when I was 8 years old.
Read MoreI asked her several times "Why are you even here?!"
+ She'd respond saying "Why can't I be here?" or "I'm only here for 3 months!" or "I'm trying to have fun!" -- she seemed incredibly emotional and flustered when I asked the question.
Reads like you provoked a mild amygdala hijack, which suggests she's either delusional or outright psychotic, which means this chick is profoundly stupid.
@SamuelAnders "and they're all boring, lack personality, and are losers"...... translation: "unattractive" or "didn't hit on me"
@Lone_Ranger, I vividly recall her saying to me, 'I have a lot of male friends who make 6 or 7 figures, and they're all boring, lack personality, and are losers,' and she expressed it with a LOT of energy, almost as if she was determined to make a point.
In response, I mentioned to her that billionaires operate in a different league because to amass that level of wealth, one needs passion, drive, and so much more to endure the challenges of the game. However, she didn't want to budge or accept my viewpoint.
@Lone_Ranger Great insight! She's the one that brought up money in the first place and steered the conversation toward it as if it's Money vs. Morals...
@carnold03 She'd respond saying "Why can't I be here?" or "I'm only here for 3 months!" or "I'm trying to have fun!" -- she seemed incredibly emotional and flustered when I asked the question.
