suspended license, try it out
2w ago The Hub
@TitusTorquatus p I don't feel like it's a requirement for me, however it does seem a bit disrespectful.
2w ago The Hub
I wouldn't make it a requirement by any means....but if she refused entirely? side eye
6d ago The Hub
Makes much much more sense now
I'm not sure what area you are in (urban, exurb, suburb) but once you conquer a social scene there will be a "lull" where you can reflect on being king of the swing dancers and seek a harder challenge, socially. My presumption is you want it to be done because the limit of marginal utility has been reached.
You're going to have a period where you're not sure what's next, but instead of getting your mood all fucked up and brooding you'll need to develop a new skill: getting comfortable without your newfound source of stimulation.
You're temporarily a junkie in withdrawal, but only because of the way you frame the situation.
I genuinely want it to be done
Why not just say "I'm done with it now"? I suspect the involuntary nature of your prior isolation has you stuck in a mindset (at times) that life is happening to you in this moment.
The control you took in choosing to go out and conquer this space is equal to the control of deciding to be done with the activity. You denigrate and talk around your actions, going so far as to depersonalize them ("you couldn't convince me").
Change your self talk on this one. You won a small contest, socially speaking. This feeling is simply your brain being deprived of a habit. Plenty of new things to do, but first get comfortable with not knowing the next thing, and please redirect the self talk.
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