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A few thoughts:
Let this one go. Some women just grip us too hard to make it work. Just like bad boys fuck up women, these women fuck us up. She is like a "bad boy" to you. Don't fall for it. Move on.
You say "I’ve been getting a little miffed recently about the fact that I always initiate" The approach I have taken with the past few women I have dated (over the past decade) is to be selfish. I say things like "get on your knees and give me what I want". Not once, not even once did I get push back. Yes, a funny look as if to say "now?" I just stand there and unzip. I could write a fucking book about this. It shocks me still that it works so well. But the point is that I initiate, but I make them initiate. It works for me and I get my needs met 100% of the time. If you're looking for more than that, then you will find out the harsh miserable way that you need to change your mindset.
One of the biggest challenges in modern male existence is the issue of finding a woman with whom we can make babies. In fact wholesome families are the only way to raise wholesome successful children. Most women are in their ho phase when men are looking to settle down. Come to terms with this ASAP.
Male pair bonding and intimacy are no joke. Stop letting people tell you it's all about getting your dick wet. That's teenage PUA bullshit. The chemicals inside us make sex and intimacy worse than just about any drug out there. One would have to go to heroin and meth to find something more potent than love in terms of its ability to fuck up lives. Keep this in mind and be careful where you invest that shit.
- Onto the butt stuff and what next... Brush it off. When you talk, just say something to the effect of...
Hey, calm your tits. I was feeling you at the moment and my hormones got away from me. Judge me if you want, but I am not apologizing. Your ass is yummy as fuck. If you don't want me licking it, then keep it away from me! lol - I am half joking. Look, I intended no disrespect. If that's how you see my lust for you, then maybe we aren't a fit. And yes, I get frustrated sometimes. Has no one ever told you how men get when they are horny? You have NO clue why I would get all fired up and crazy. I mean look at your ass! (slap her ass if possible) - can you blame me?
Then smile, change the topic and move on.
Yes, I do shit like this all the time. And it works like a charm.Read More
I am not into the predetermination thing, spiritual or biological, but it does play a part. This is one of the aspects of what some would call the black pill. If you are short and mildly autistic, for example, your mating prospects are not going to be all that good. Height and looks matter.
That's not a black pill, that's reality. But call it what you like.
And that's where mindset steps in. We can all DO things to wrest our fate away from nature and try to transcend whatever it is biology or evolution would otherwise have mapped out for us. That is the very essence of the story of humanity. And it is impressive by any measure ever.
And all this is aside from DNA, etc. Weight lifting, social skills, earning money, establishing good character, meaningful friendships and countless other things can make a life rich and rewarding regardless of what hand one might have been dealt.
I just ran through a Netflix series "Love on the Spectrum". It is worth a watch. It elicits some of the most varied bundle of emotions I have felt at the same time in since forever. But this show touches on the theme of this thread - whatever biology has in store, there are people who will say "fuck you biology. I am doing this over here...."
And that is awesome.
Nonetheless, it would be delusional to ignore the massive impact nature holds over us. The yin/yang of it all.Read More
@greencarp976 I need to add that it’s not submissive to let you eat her ass haha. You are eating her ass, so you are the submissive one. If you fuck her, that’s different.
I had this situation before. I’m happy you saw that you fucked up because guys often behave autistic (like you did) and then think they are in the right. For you, there’s hope.
The girl obviously is extremely into you. She initiates, she wears your fav panties, she thinks of you and makes it possible when she’s horny. So don’t get butthurt, you sensitive bitch.
If you want to get a girl who’s had a bad experience to do anal, you got to ease her into it. First, talk to her and tell her what @AFTSOV said. You are different, they didn’t know what they were doing basically. Tell her you are gonna ease her into it, she should just trust you. Then I did it like this:
- Eat her pussy and do foreplay till she’s about to cum, stop. Then hold her on the edge of there and put some lube on your other hand and start simultaneously touching her ass. Then enter one finger, all while with the other hand is rubbing the clit.
- Enter 2 fingers and move them in and out slowly. Then push her over the edge and make her cum with the other hand.
- Fuck her like normally.
Start to get her into the habit of cumming while you are playing with her butt. If you then on the 3rd time get 3 fingers in, just tell her that 3 fingers is not much different from you penis. Then she’ll likely comply. You can also rub her clit and lick her ass, the first time. But she might have reservations to your tongue as some girls feel shame then. That’s why:
Most importantly, she must already be turned on for her to neglect her bad experiences. Go slow, don’t try to put it in the first time. Build a habit for her to start liking anal play. After a few times she’s ready. Also, please do positions that feel good for her otherwise she again will think anal is a thing you do for the man. Recommended positions are: 1. she’s laying on the side, legs are tucked in. 2. Missionary.
For many girls doggy anal is harder.Read More
@FAWK squatting and deadlifting heavy and for many sets too often is a perfect combination for inducing low testosterone. Nothing gets testosterone down like a central nervous system wrecking workout. Squats and DLs are great but they are are to be used wisely.