@Guarod

How can I hire escorts safely and learn from them?

I’m 27, male AND a virgin - so I’m not getting younger. How did this happen? That’s for me to know and for everyone else not to.

For literally FOUR YEARS I’ve been trying to date the normal way. I never made it to the bedroom even once because even at 23, women bailed when they learnt I was still a virgin. My reputation spread across town and now I’m basically known as “the loser virgin guy who tries his luck with all the women.” Needless to say, I’ve been mocked every week for these four years. There’s no coming back from that here, so I’m forced to move.

I’d rather not have another four years like this in my new state. So I’m thinking of hiring escorts in some place where it is legal. How can I do it safely without worrying too much about diseases? I’m mostly worried about hepatitis and all the ones that can bypass condoms.

I’ve had some CUTE women into me until they learned I was a virgin, so I know now I have to take extreme measures. I’m not dead yet, so I still have time to start a family and all that. I’m just taking a shortcut to get up to speed. I ask again, HOW TO AVOID STD’S?

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@Manofcave

Brutal reality check, how can i man the fuck up?

Yesterday i was talking to this girl who liked me, we even talked sexual stuff, everything was going pretty well, i was interesting(cool hobbies), agreed and amplified, i sent her my body pic with 12% bodyfat(visible 6 packs) and decent muscles, she found it to be really hot, she's an unemployed skinny fat chick who's never set a foot in the gym(im sure even her dms are full with dudes). Then she asked my height and i told 5'10 (actually 5'8) and it was over, she said she wont sleep with anyone under 6' as her previous bf was 6' skinny dude, brutal slap straight in the face.

i know i wont ever reach the level of success a genetic specimen can reach without putting in any effort, but my effort I've put on for years on end to yield me failures all my life whenever I've tried puts me in depression from time to time, like id go to the gym consistently for 6 months and then it hits and i go into depression for 2 months completely starving myself and loosing all my gains .

I've tried everything guys from cold approaching (40+) to dating apps( got 2 matches in a month) to tried being friends with chicks irl (warm approach), and nothing has ever worked in my entire like till now. a KV no matter of how much i try and improve based on the field approaches i do, don't lead to any tangible results

for context I'm a bald(was Norwood 3 so i shaved it all) 20yo man who needs to man the fuck up but don't know how to do so.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=NtwiAkUj5Go

Study the book and you'll do better next time around, short stuff. Besides, nothing good ever came of men whose self-confidence was dependent on female validation. Self-confidence is a result of pursuing and overcoming the various challenges of life. During which time, you come to understand what interests, drives, and motivates you. To that end, I suggest that you get yourself two sheets of paper, a pen, and sit down at a table.

On the first sheet write down a list of things that you've been putting off on the back burner due to work, schooling, or just life in general. It doesn't matter how silly, or stupid the task or idea might be, just write it down. When you're done, take the second sheet of paper, and re-write the items from the first list starting with what you believe to be the simplest, easiest task, to the most complicated.

When you're done with the second list, get to work. The challenge once you've got the list done won't be simply accomplishing them, but not allowing yourself to be de-spirited whenever you encounter difficulty, or failure. To not let yourself be defeated. You'll spend the time to troubleshoot and diagnose the problem, then start over. If you need help, ask. There's no shortage of #books we can recommend that may help you achieve your goal.

Best of luck to you.

@sirGreen

Question about Kino escalation in bars

Hey, newbie here. I recently went on a date in a bar with a girl I met recently. Anything went pretty well for the first part.

When I started with kino, I started slowly; some taps on her shoulder to make a point, holding her hand over her phone when she was showing me some photos in her gallery, other taps on her thigh, our legs were touching all the time, etc.

To all of them, she responded neutrally, no particular reaction, just letting me do that. In my mind, when dealing with women, any obvious stop or hold back is a green light, so I escalated. I touched her thigh with my hand and rubbed my thumb on it a little. (I think doing this is pretty normal sexual escalation imo) She said "don't do that" and she instantly took my hand away from her.

This was pretty surprising to me because our legs were still touching. So I thought that this particular gesture was the problem. I didn't know how to interpret this 'rejection'. I have 2 explanations in mind:

1. She was either not DTF or looking for a boyfriend type and wanted to take things more slowly. Or she meant "not now" and wanted to spend more time with her before that. I know that in those types of situations, the strategy is to try it again later. In this case, this type of escalation could be considered basic screening and is still ok.
2. Her ASD got activated because we were in a bar (not that touch-friendly like a club), and anyone who was looking at us could have seen that my hand was resting on her thigh. In this case, then this type of escalation is just not appropriate for bars and should only be done in more private places like a car, home, etc.

Maybe some girls are ok with being touched on the thigh in public, but I would still take case two if those girls are not the norm, or even DTF girls get ASD as this happens. I would think that the problem is case two, and this type of escalation is just not appropriate for public places.

What do you guys think?

I think you should consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@SSBPikkon

Went to meet up with her, she seems dry over the text now

I met this girl through socials - I know it isn't preferable, but it works on younger girls.

I met up with 1 of her friends couple of months ago and she almost turned it into a friendzone, basically she wasn't interested in me. I stopped talking to her and time went on.

This girl I'm writing this post for - I added her through socials and her friend (which friendzoned me) basically showed my picture and all that.

That girl first said we can only be friends and this convo with me is your "sidequest", also she said her bf is super jealous - I took that like I'll fuck the shit out of her and she'll go back to her bf.

At first she didn't want to add me back, so I forgot about her and went back to my life. She again found me through her friend and added me - this is basically cheating tbh.

We talked and she invited me to come to a bar where she works and I agreed.

I also knew her from a party we went to, but she was very drunk and was with my acquaintance at the time.

Mind you - I did go out with her other friend a long time ago, I also wrote a post about her. I asked what her friend thought about all that - since she blocked me right after our date and she said she was bored, and I knew that, I was bored also with her and I had more anxiety and wasn't as comfortable as I am now.

But that didn't stop her from meeting me today, she can even ask some of her friends about me which have different opinions about me - I know less about her than she knows about me.

As soon as I came to a bar, she went all friendly-mode and started talking about her bf for a little bit.

I tried to maneuver convo into my favor, and we kinda did light flirting. She did kiss my acquaintance at the party where I was and ofc he's a womanizer and she hates all men apart from her boyfriend - you didn't hear this anywhere am I right lol.

The funny thing is I'm a "womanizer" just like that guy she was with and she put me in the same category as him basically - which is a good thing for me in this situation.

As time went on on our "date" she needed to get back to work and she didn't even come to my table - her stepfather came and her colleague she works with and they all sat and talked.

As she didn't come again to me I left, we said bye to each other and now she's dry over text.

I have more options now, but I still can't get past the 1st date - even if they're single or if they're "cheating".

I think girls like me because of my looks and that attracts them since they be looking at me at the clubs and my male friends said I'm the best looking one, but they don't get hooked right after - but that's just my opinion.

It's crazy that I went on the first date with 2 of her friends - 1 blocked me, 1 just left me on socials and now her it seems.

Where did I fumble?

www.youtube.com/watch?v=NpNNPW8Orag

It didn't read like you were expecting anything to accomplish anything, so I don't understand the concern about fumbling. If anything, it read like you were more interested with finding out if they were sincerely disinterested in you, despite your looks.

You got solid confirmation that good looking as you maybe, you're of little interest to that group. Now, you can study the book, continue to work on your face-to-face in-person social skills, and move on to other females.

@B0ssBabe

How to unplate her and make her refer her friends?

I have an old plate. I was banging her for years, to this day she remembers my birthday, Christmas, gifts etc. But she simply has aged out of the market.

What plausible deniability, story, to use on her so she is not offended, ego defensive when I would initiate a talk to tell her to set me up with one of her friends (no one specific in mind)?

I'm going to do it anyway so I will use the input.

I didnt bang her for months.

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@GetMoreBooks

Approach Feedback

Approached twice today, both times in the same bookstore about 10 min apart(not in sight of either of them).

Learning Game: Daybang(Not done yet)

First approach, girl was reading some book behind me, and I grabbed a book from the shelf and accidentally knocked some over. I jokingly said you didn't see anything, and she agreed and I said thanks and said we were partners in crime. I then said I like her shirt(it had a possum on it) and she said her friend gave it to her, and that she outgrew it. I said nice and asked what she was reading, and it was some book about physiology and said she was really liking it. I then asked if she wanted to grab a coffee upstairs, and I'm not sure where I went wrong here. She said she already had one and looked uncomfortable, and then I wasn't sure what to say so I just said thanks, have a nice day( a little awkwardly), and walked away. My question is why would she be uncomfortable and how can I avoid that? I don't care that I got shot down. The conversation was going great until then, like good vibes, but I'm not sure what I did to make her feel that way.

Self-Answer: Maybe it was an unconscious facial expression on my part, since I felt disappointment. Or it could of just been an issue on her part on being asked out? I think I could have done better controlling my disappointment so that's what I plan to work on.

Second approach, I was waiting in line at checkout to get a book and there were these two cuties in front of me. I asked one that was closest to me if they found anything good(girl 1), and she said yeah that she found an artbook for her friend(girl 2). I then asked girl 2 if she was an artist and she said she was in art class. I then asked about what kind of art she does, and we chatted for a second. She asked if I was an artist and I talked about a beginner sketching book I got, and how it was daunting. I then asked if I could get her number and maybe get some sketch tips from her sometime, and she said yes! I got her number, and then we traded names. I fumbled a bit after that. We still had 5 more minutes in line, and it was hard to keep the conversation going, but I managed to talk about travel a bit. I think I may of messed up by engaging so early with the long line, but it felt natural. One thing I messed up is I had to ask her name again, since I was so focused on the conversation. Now in hindsight, I think she might be a little young for me since she's in college(like 8-10 year gap, not sure what year she is). I have the following questions. Should I ask her out for coffee even though I will probably bomb with my low SMV(no job and living with parents, but I'm still working on both)? Is there an easy way to confirm she's old enough for me(like 21-22?) I don't want to date younger than that. How do you even tell a girls age when approaching, because I've seen 25 year olds that look 20 and 20 year olds that look 30? I ideally want to date 23-30 age range. How long between number and asking out do you wait?

Self-Answer: I should ask her out to coffee and bomb just for the experience. I could straight up ask her if she's graduating soon. Not sure how to tell age, maybe look for signs of age in face(light facial lines and such? I think I should text her tonight and just ask her out to coffee tomorrow while I'm still on her mind, cause she'll probably forget about me in a day or 2.

Final Question: This is the second weekend I approached at the same store, how often do you change places to deliberately day approach? Should I go to a different store?

Self Answer: I should probably try a new place every week so I don't restrict myself to one place, the reason I decided to try this place is because it's a cute bookstore that women love. Thanks.

Have you considered keeping a journal to record these efforts so you can keep tabs on your development?