From this business trip.

I was working with a group of 3 women. All around 25-30 years old, I am 30. One was this annoying but good looking Indian girl who was frame testing from the beginning. I was super witty, so that clicked quickly. When we were in a larger group the Indian girl really outdid herself and called me a weirdo twice during a convo. It was somewhat in good fun but weirdo is never good. I did just continue the conversation without acknowledging her or trying to deny. Held frame, kept it moving. The new people in the group all appreciated me and we were on good terms the whole trip.

Now comes the fun part. A second girl, Irish, very funny, was also in my group from the beginning and each time I slapped down a comment from the Indian chick or her where indian went “oh we got a sassy one here!” or similar, Irish girl started giggling. At the end of the trip we had a final dinner. Indian chick didn’t come, felt under the weather. Irish girl texted me if we could go together. We also walked back to the hotel together. She insisted we don’t go to bed but stay awake and talk. I said where. She suggested the stairs (the stairs!). We sat on the stairs that are separated from the rest of the hotel by doors. I leaned over all the time, put her head on my shoulder, wouldn’t let me go. Teased me, tried to seduce me. I told her eventually that nothing good happens after midnight and I’ll go to sleep. She texted me that she wishes me the best for the future. That was that.

She was a really funny person. Wish she could have just been friendly instead of seductive. But it’s fine, same outcome.

@TwoInchesOfShaft You can't have your cake and eat it. And the alternative would be much worse.

If you weren't attractive to other women, didn't get approached by them, and didn't somewhat entertain it, you also wouldn't have a happy marriage. You wouldn't subconsciously think, feel, and behave in ways that align with maintaining attraction.

Women want to fuck guys that other women want to fuck as well. Also, women only treat well men they actually want to fuck. The amount of nagging, demands, and general disrespect is inversely proportional to how much she wants your dick.

Hence, you're married to someone who wants to fuck you, and who treats you well. The alternative would be no temptation away, and a crap life at home. You're actually doing your wife a favour by putting yourself out there, so that she too can feel good about what she's got.

Even if you'd fall for the temptation from time to time, that's still preferable to being a guy with no other options, and to be stuck with a guy who has no other options.