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I’m getting tired of the sex with my girlfriend, what do I do?
Basically, I’m getting tired of the sex. She never finishes giving head, I have to beg for her to get on top. It’s just constant hitting it from the back and I’m getting fed up. She always subtly brags that she had wilder sex with her ex’s and I want some wild sex. What the hell do I do at this point?
The thing you said about the "jumbotron test", how are you meant to send such a good message every time you text her?
It doesn't have to be anything spectacular, but rather just something you wouldn't be embarrassed for the entire world to see.
Examples that pass: "sounds good", "k", "I'm free Friday", etc
Examples that fail: "I miss you so much", "I can't wait for you to peg me with that giant dildo again", "can you float me some rent money", etc
When youre texting her, at some point youre going to have to use the standard boring lines like "how are you" in order to keep the convo going.
Generally, you want to keep it to logistics. Arranging meetups. Save the conversing for face-to-face.
Or is the idea that you don't text her so much
Yes.
Don't turn yourself into an orbiter.
Read More@Typo-MAGAshiv The thing you said about the "jumbotron test", how are you meant to send such a good message every time you text her?
When youre texting her, at some point youre going to have to use the standard boring lines like "how are you" in order to keep the convo going.
Now obviously, I know lines like this don't really work but genuinely, what else are you meant to say?
Or is the idea that you don't text her so much, that you have to use lines like that?
@Saltycroc keep your messages at about a 2/3 ratio; 2 from you for every 3 from her. Don't get too hung up on it, but you want approximately that ratio.
You don't want to be double-texting or worse, and you sure as hell don't want to be messaging her more than she messages you.
Also, don't always reply immediately. You should be busy (or at least appear to be). And of course, don't ruin the effect by using a timer and always replying the exact same minutes and seconds later. They do notice shit like that.
Also, Roissy coined something called the Jumbotron Test: if you wouldn't be willing for an entire stadium of people to see the contents of your text put up on the Jumbotron, then don't send it.
I suggest going to the Red Archive and searching anything by Roissy/Heartiste about text game.
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Let's say we agree on a day to meet. Should I continue to message her on the days leading up to the date?
It feels kind of awkward to not message her at all on the days leading up to when we meet.
But at the same time it feels like a pussy thing to do, to continue to ask her how she is or how her days been, when I never cared in the first place.
Well, I mean stranger things have happened and CIA handlers are not a big secret but I think ONEITIS is a bigger killer than anything.
Your sons will likely be finding out in the next eight to fourteen years.
Consider investing into getting your sons a reliable ready reference they can pick up and study to better prepare themselves for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get them copies of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you let them review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you'd like them to aim for themselves. To save yourself a search, give them this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something they'd like to add to their library. It should also be available on libgen.
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@Saltycroc if she doesn't meet up with you within the first few messages, she's not interested. She's just enjoying the attention.
Don't waste your time.
Escalate. Get a face-to-face encounter as fast as possible, and escalate.
Any excuse (without a proposed alternative) = next
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If you're not her top option she will "talk to you" until she's ready to pull out her back up options
Her top option gets to invite her over
@carnold03 Well, I mean stranger things have happened and CIA handlers are not a big secret but I think ONEITIS is a bigger killer than anything.
Is there any point to a talking stage?
I feel like constantly messaging a girl (who you're not even dating) over weeks/months wastes so much time and is so draining.
But how else do you go about dating/meeting women? It feels like the "talking stage" is a must but at the same time, mostly leads to nothing.
Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
The problem isn't that these females are wasting your time, but that you don't seem to particularly value yours. Here's "How Girls Really Pick Guys Explained So Simply", courtesy of Richard Cooper.
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