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1h ago Ask TRP
@Typo-MAGAshiv true. but the first woman is the one i’ve been in an LTR with for awhile. she does not want an open relationship, and honestly, i’m not sure if i can keep up with the guilt from cheating. should i just see both and continue cheating? the second girl is aware that i have a girlfriend already.
@lalola0101 who says you have to pick just one of the two women? Is there any reason you can't see them both?
And for the one who has proven her loyalty: why are you not attracted to her? Did she get fat? If so, can she not lose the weight if you lead her in that direction?
8h ago Ask TRP
Need some help guys.
Would you guys pick:
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a girl who’s proven to love you and stuck with you through lowest points of your life, but you’re not attracted to.
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a girl who you’re attracted to (already fucked), but is still unvetted although they have shown positive qualities and potential.
- single life focused on myself
My main goal is to ensure I focus on my career and work to be the best, and I keep feeling that #1 might be optimal because the girl supports me, and I wouldn’t have to worry too much about girls/relationships etc. But i’m not attracted to her anymore, what do i do?
How to feel less guilt after cheating with an escort?
Deadbedroom situation here. More because of me. She gained weight and doesnt really see that as a problem. I love her, but i need new body to have sex wtih. attractive one. Im gonna hire an escort, but i feel that I feel terribly guilty afterwards. But i am at the same time sure that it will make me love her more and get connected to her better. How to deal with the guilt?
From the lack in the mention of children in your household, is it safe to say you're not a parent? Did she know you weren't attracted to fat chicks before you two got hitched? Do you keep your own physique lean and svelte? Do you invite your wife to come with you to the gym, or otherwise let her know about women's gyms with fitness programs? When you two go out, do other women flirt with you despite her presence?
Honestly, if you've otherwise got no kids, or expecting any, depending on how long this has been going on, it might be just as well that you consider ending the marriage altogether. Take a few weeks to have no further sexual relations with her so you don't get ambushed with pregnancy coercion, while you look for an attorney, and a new place to move into. Then when you've gotten the attorney tasked to launch the suit, you have your stuff packed, and be otherwise gone.
Aside from that, you should consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
Read Morei'll preface by saying that i'm new in the USA and i've been working dead-end minimum wage jobs since i got here. right now i work in a nursing home and i don't get health insurance through my employer: i pay 20 bucks to get the shittiest bottom-of-the-barrel insurance which at best gets me a yearly checkup and some ER coverage.
i have a spinal disc herniation and a couple of disc bulges. before i left my country, i consulted the doctors there, they saw the images of my spine and said i might need a surgery down the line, if the symptoms got worse. what do you know - they did. so now i'm thinking about ways of getting this procedure done; i'm told it'd take forever to get any treatment with my shitty insurance, nevermind something expensive like a surgery - even the nearest appointment is months away. any advice on getting proper healthcare for cheap?
So, if I've got it straight, you came to the US with an already damaged body. Some years later, those injuries have reached a point where you can no longer ignore them, without it severely impacting your health and quality of life going forward. Unfortunately, you can't engage those injuries due to the expense as the insurance you currently have is insufficient to do so and your income can't otherwise cover the bill.
Depending on what state you reside in and your age, you might be eligible for medicaid, or medicare, assistance. While I think someone mentioned marrying someone who's receiving employer provided insurance, US citizenship isn't as valuable as it used to be for foreigners, to say nothing of most western females being demonstrably un-marriageable due to being spiritually demoralized and/or spiritually lobotomized. However, with what information you've shared, I think your best option is re-training for another career field entirely. Ideally, one that has demand both in your home country, its neighbors, and other western advanced countries. Your body being in the wrecked condition it's in, and you being a resident alien, the best option I can recommend is that you consider a computer training certification program, before following up by finishing a college diploma in a related field, or one with comparable shared demand in the US and abroad.
If you need some options to start, then check out the organization "Per Scholas" as they've got locations all over the US. I suggested them last year to someone else, so there should be some people with more personal experience of them to share.
Read Morewhy is it that women I date never want to do what I would like (like they don't want to commit or make any sacrifices to hang out, they only hang out when it's absolutely convenient for them etc.)? But i see other men in relationships where the woman fawns over them and will do anything for them with unwavering loyalty, in terms of fighting for the man's commitment and making sacrifices to always want to spend time with him etc.? I figure hypergamy probably plays a role to an extent but i see regular guys (guys that are not in some amazing physical shape etc.) that have this dynamic with their woman as well. My only thought is maybe there is some angle that these other regular guys have that has them in a lucky position. Like the woman they are with now got tired of running around the streets so has settled with them? (Also, apologies if this is not the correct place for question, I'm brand new here. Thank You)
Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
Read More@cjtakk match her energy, you can tell her you miss her if she's telling you the same, but don't get in a situation where you seem needy and her reaction to your texts, instead of being positive, is "ugh, what do I have to reply here to make this go away."
If she's texting you and being needy, you might consider rewarding that in this circumstance, even though you wouldn't if she were nearby.
And, I concur with the others, with the excitement of travel and the feeling of being a new person in a new place, odds are poor in this situation regardless of who you are or what you do. Best you can do is not make it extra likely by turning her off remotely.
@Typo-MAGAshiv Sure it’s not. But someone who would have the correct mindset/abundance would not care. Although being in a relationship does make ”abundance” harder.
@woodsmoke Cuz I am going to rhodes with my buddies and she has trust issues. Thats why she was asking me if I would tell her if I did something with another gal