@Larrythelobster

Navigating Modern Dating

(I'm looking for general advice. Maybe there's a flaw in my mindset.)

I did research and just life experience. The average body count for a 25 year old woman is 3-5.

I'm pretty depressed hearing this tbh. Cause you know it's just gonna get higher. Not to mention most girls I see in a relationship act very sexual for attention. Bitchy behavior.

Cold approach is a lone wolf fantasy imo. Outta approaching 100 women you get maybe 1-3 lays/success's. (if you're not retarded)

That's a lot of squeezing for a cup of juice. Maybe and just maybe they turn into a plate or a LTR.

You try to use social context to your advantage dating in ecosystems like Uni. or clubs. But then I feel like "DaT GuY". Cause I don't like being around people much it's a lot of bullshit. Guess get over it.

My thought process: Ideally you cold approach outside your ecosystems. And build slow leads inside your ecosystems to find a good prospect.

Online dating is a dumpster fire. Its not real life. People act very differently IRL. Most of the woman either all have the same generic profile or goth/liberal chick who wants me to have a tramp stamp. I switched my profile to be labeled as a woman for 5 mins and had 20 likes. ITS CRAZY.

But at the end of all the work it's the women your left with.

I don't trust women with marriage. And even in LTRs when you're not there they're flirting with other guys for attention. I've had good looking girls with decent guys give me sexual attention. I know its not cheating but if I saw my gal acting like that i'd be disgusted.

The problem:

So i'm left with casual dating women the rest of my life. No marriage. maybe have a LTR here and there but... It's gonna get harder and harder the older I get.

It's weird cold approaching in your late 30s and 40s and 50s. Im 20 so i can pass off as the young stupid guy.

How da hell do I keep this up? assuming i take care of my body to be physically attractive. Do I just end up single and alone around 40? Do I just give in a find a LTR at 40?

I'm just going be a normal guys who has his own place with generic normal salary. At some point i become 40 year old guy who's still single.

I'm uncertain of the future with todays modern landscape. Because alot of women are like scorpions and i'm playing frogger.

I feel that hollywood glamorizes the eternal bachelor lifestyle. I'm not a rich guy backed by the script. I'm a normal guy who dosen't trust the institution of marriage and the women i'd be signing it with. I feel my only option is to get lucky and find a good gal someday. But i'd really just be compromising. I feel extremely vulnerable when i'm committed to a woman.

How are you guys doing?

www.youtube.com/watch?v=kVgln2NNmzc

To be honest, feeling glad I'm not you among other things, I guess. Your report is pretty much the norm though. Most of the chicks any guy will talk to will turn them down no matter how good looking the guy otherwise believes themselves to be. Frustrating as the dating market is, experienced guys begrudgingly learn to accept the situation and focus themselves where they experience more satisfying returns for their time and energy. Some pour themselves into their work, schooling, distractions, or learning a foreign language before getting themselves a passport and seeking out greener pastures elsewhere.

Regardless of what you do, study the book. Hollywood doesn't glamorize the eternal bachelor lifestyle, so much as they present a carefully curated image to undermine your desire to resist their efforts to de-spirit and defeat you courtesy prolonged, sustained, mockery. In this case, your inability to find, or keep, a mate whether you employ traditional means and methods, or modern ones.

@deeplydisturbed

Red pill content may be the most profound shift in consciousness than almost any other ideology, or religion that has ever existed.

This may sound far fetched, but it is nevertheless true. It's what I've been saying too since the Trump craze started: Trumpism will pass, the Red Pill will stay.

There were "red pills" about female nature encoded in old religions, some very profound too (the myths about the vagina having teeth come to mind), but the difference with the Red Pill is that gender dynamics are, for the first time, examined consciously, by masses of men.

I still think that the Red Pill is a bit too entwined with the Right ideology, and that's a problem. Case in point is the widespread perception of Alpha as a "type of man", while it is a state of being which every man, except for the lunatics, enters and exits. But we're clearing this out, gradually (and I highly recommend @Woujo 's writings on this).

@Chantfire

Switching between “alpha” and “beta” behaviours creates inconsistency because it reveals emotional reactivity. When things feel good, a man is calm and decisive. When uncertainty hits, he starts over-explaining, over-giving, or seeking reassurance. That’s not strategy; that’s fear leaking through behaviour.

Women don’t analyse this logically; they feel the instability. They don’t know which version of you they’ll get, and that kills polarity over time.

As we already know alpha isn’t being cold or dominant 24/7. It’s emotional self-control. Warm when you choose, silent when you choose, decisive regardless of outcome. No mood swings based on her responses.

If your behaviour changes based on validation or fear of loss, it’s not character, it’s performance. Masculinity is consistency under pressure, not switching masks.

Could you provide examples of the difference you've observed in alpha and beta behavior, and how you believe childhood trauma would influence their decision making?

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