@theultmatecad

Unless you were married or engaged (at 16!), you were not “cheated on.” Unofficial high school situationships don’t rise to the level of commitment where the word “cheating” has any meaning. If you pledged exclusively to each other (which you shouldn’t be doing at your age), then it was dishonest, but even then it’s hardly the end of the world.

You were dating her, and she dated someone else. You’re free to do the same. I’m not alone here in that I dated more than one woman at the same time, and I wasn’t “cheating” on those women. I find it’s best to let them know about each other (simpler, more honest, and each girl tends to be on her best behavior because she knows you can just go the other one). Other guys tend to keep their relationships separate, but as long as nobody is lying, what either of you does with other people is nobody else’s business.

I married one of the women I started dating while I was dating a different woman. If you think this girl is worth seeing (with the understanding that there is no expectation of exclusivity), then go ahead. You should date other girls, obviously. On the other hand, if she’s “done with you,” or if you don’t want to continue, just accept that she is just one of the FOUR BILLION women you’re not going to end up with.

You shouldn’t chase women, anyway. Chase greatness and women will chase you.