@Soupy595

Advice Needed: Is there any legit way out for someone like me?

I’m an18 yo 5'6" Indian guy, and I’d say my looks are pretty average or even below average overall. I came across blackpill stuff when I was around 16, and ever since, it’s kind of messed with my head. It’s been almost two years now, and in that time, I’ve felt pretty miserable. At first, I just rotted. Spent most of my time alone in my room, watching YouTube videos and reading posts on those kinds of forums. It became this toxic cycle I couldn’t pull myself out of. And to be clear. I don’t blame women or anyone else for how attraction works I get it. If I were in their position, I might feel the same. But understanding that didn’t make it any easier to deal with how I felt about myself. For a while, I thought the only way forward was to focus on career and stability , basically becoming the kind of person who’s useful, even if not particularly desirable. I figured maybe that’s how I’d eventually find someone who’s okay with and genuinely likes me. Lately, I’ve been trying to take better care of myself so I can actually feel decent in my own skin. I’m primarily aiming to to improve a little where I can and hopefully build some genuine connection i guess? I don’t know if any of this will work. I just feel like I’m lying to myself sometimes. could anyone offer any some advice from their pov? any sort of advice will be greatly appreciated.

It reads like this is fundamentally a self-confidence issue. The black pill doesn't tend to affect people when they've some degree of confidence in themselves. Unfortunately, there's no easy way to overcome the disappointment you're feeling, or building your self-confidence, outside of pursuing and overcoming the various challenges of life to build it back up. During that time, you come to understand what interests, drives, and motivates you. To that end, I suggest that you do the following ridiculously simple thing. Get yourself two sheets of paper and a pen.

On the first sheet write down a list of things that you've been putting off on the back burner due to work, schooling, or just life in general. It doesn't matter how silly, or stupid the task or idea might be, as long as it's not a criminal act just write it down. When you're done, take the second sheet of paper, and re-write the items from the first list starting with what you believe to be the simplest, easiest task, to the most complicated.

As for females, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@MrSupreme

Expert Advice neded - Broke/Unemployed game

Hello everyone,I'll be quick here. For shithole country reasons, my financial situation has been difficult for a few years, i've struggled with unemployment for a while now, but I'm coming out of it this year with a focus on career and not just jobs. Unemployment and low money is not the issue right now, it is only a factor to take into account when gaming and approaching women here, and I am DONE being off the market.

Setting: Most girls here are broke too, unemployed and always looking for a provider guy, particulary on dating apps, There is polarization where guys are either low income or high income, almost no middle class which is where I'm at.

I go out, see guys aged 20-40 and they're all getting laid, they all have a normal love life, not a lot of marriage going around. I am half-broke,I have money to date and get laid, my basic needs are covered, and I am starting my job search as an english teacher in about a week after I get my certificate, so i'm optimistic about finally getting a stable income and a job. I won't reveal how long I've been without pussy, but Vermillion and his story comes to mind, i know it can be done.

I know many of you experienced guys have been through rough economic situations and have still managed to have plates and get laid, so here's the main question: How do i integrate conversation about my situation into gaming without scaring them off?

It has happened countless times where I'm having a fun chat,interest is growing, and the question comes along: "What do you do? What's your job?" And i'm guessing this is where I am failing, cause I have been saying stuff like "I'm finishing some studies to start this new job" "I'm coming out of unemployment in a few weeks" and stuff like that. No matter how I put it, that is the killswitch. They can be 21 year old girls looking for fun or 45 year old good looking women looking for a partner, but once they ask that and I reply I get ghosted. (most of these women are broke ass hotties or proud hard working kinda feminists,many girls asking for some kind of direct money transfer has been very common, even before a first date or even giving their number...)

So how did you guys talk about this stuff when getting your plates? Where am I failing? It has happened so much I just can't put my finger on it. Bitch if you just wanna fuck why are you vetting me like you're looking for the father of your children?

TO ANSWER MY OWN QUESTION: I had success when living abroad, i know I live in a very dysfunctional place, I am open to the idea that I'm not the problem here. So my answer would be to get the money first and then find the girl, simple,basic and where I'm going anyways. I'm very horny, my libido is very healthy and I know It can be done, I wouldn't be even trying if i thought otherwise.

Just reposting to the proper tribe.

If you experienced any degree of success with girls local to the places you were overseas, try your luck going after foreigners in the tourist spots. They'd likely be the most receptive to bang casually with little to no concern for how broke you are than the girls in your country.

Outside of that, the best move for you would be to study the book, engage your income situation, pay your debts, rebuild your savings, and find a stable business you can get into. If anything, aim to diversify your income sources, so that if you lose any single one, you've still got the others to fall back on with breathing room to explore alternates.

@Incognito

I'm cought in a catch 22. Can you please help me out? It goes like this: If I dont care about a women, I just keep her as just a plate. All good.

But If I develop feelings for a woman, because she is very good to me, I enter a serious relationship with her.

But as soon as she sees that I cought feelings, she gets colder and the relationship goes to shit.

So how am I even supposed to be in a serious relationship with someone I have feelings for? Or am I just doomed to spin plates forever?

If it's a problem for you to not have feelings for a girl, then go ahead and have feelings for them. You don't need our permission and we're in no position to stop you. The challenge is in learning to moderate how often you express those feelings as emotional men are seen as mentally weak, and weak men kill female desire for them.

Study the book. Fear of failure is the only thing holding you back, but don't forget that failure is as much apart of the learning process as success. You can do it.

@SSBPikkon

Banged a chick I mentioned on here

We met 2 dates or 1 after, I noticed she was still reserved, but she let me do all kinds of things.

I went all in thinking I'll be a step away from sex. It turns out she wanted to sleep with me so we did. She isn't all that experienced but it's better that way honestly.

We're still in contact. She didn't ask for a relationship nor does she show any signs of some real bonding. She still openly talks to other dudes, she "doesn't flirt with them, only talk" - that's what every girl uses as a shield to defend themselves to not be viewed as sluts.

Ofc I'm not going to ask for any type of deeper connection and she doesn't show any signs of improvement in that direction.

We can be fuck buddies at best I think. I'll game others while maybe sleep with her sometimes.

After all I won, I got the highest level of intimacy, it's her turn now to redeem herself to try to pull me into a real "relationship", if she doesn't she's a standard hoe, but hey, she'll never acknowledge that, but that's her problem and generally female nature.

I have some other options which I could bang, but I try to focus more on myself (gym, money, etc.)

I won't ask for any type of help, my buddy which turns almost any woman he encounters into relationship said I should do the same with her, but I know that 1. I'll seem as a weak man trying to push a relationship, 2. I have some standards to that - we're not compatible enough and she's not affectionate enough and I don't want to entertain someone who doesn't deserve it and isn't really hooked to me and 3. what's the point of it since she can at this point call anyone to fuck.

She's for the streets 100%. Do y'all think I should try to keep her around and enter relationship, but honestly I don't think that's a good idea.

You don't need our permission with whatever you do next, but it doesn't read like you enjoyed the time you spent with her, so why bother? Study the book and keep engaging in whatever approaches that enable you the most consistent returns to find someone you'd rather spend time with.