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Soinds like you are afraid of rejection.
@SwarmShawarma wow, that's actually a gold suggestion but I can't be fucked lutting all that effort in for this bitch. Thank you nonetheless
Posting on dot reds be like
1h ago Ask TRP Forum
Approach Paralysis
Good to see you back mfers, just a quick update:
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I've been hitting the gym and eating clean, feel a bit more testosterone and act like a man 20 per cent more often.
- I'm sending CV's left and right but I'm hitting nothing. I'm learning a tech stack so i can be more qualified for a specific engineering job. All my life my family has paid for my shit and so now I work in the family business and take a bit off money of just to pay for the gym and food. I want to pay for hobbies but I don't feel like its my money to pay for it so I don't indulge in it, I just save it aside and its for the family not me even though they tell me you can have it because I have to pay for tickets to travel and other stuff. In the family, I spent a lot of time irresponsibly spending money so I feel like once I have my own job i can finally do MMA + Some other creative hobby (Need your opinion on this guys)
My Main Problem
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I get ioi's but my automatic reaction is to ignore them. I was just at the gym and this girl was working out next to me always and left when i left too.
- I just feel on the inside I am uninteresting and don't deserve a woman and I'm a POS. Even though I know that I am interesting and I'm nearly a month off porn now. One improvement, I see now i just say hello to women instead of not saying anything.
I want a roadmap just to get over this. I encounter too much resistance. this has happened so many times i can't forgive myself and continue like this. I want to improve on this side. I fckin know I'm worth it
Read MoreTats. kids, pink hair and a cold sore too. You are under selling this girl. She brings more than you bargained for.
Imagine being those 3 boys. This is what you think a normal woman is. You will think a man is either baby daddy who she shouts at down the phone to send more money and fuck off from her kids or some random guy who takes her out, rails her and leaves her angry and sad.
And they wonder why young men today are angry and directionless. Where is their hope for a destination when this is their starting point?
When they talk about a specific guy like that, it's over. It's not a test. Best to be silent and move on, but your reaction was understandable. Regardless,, you're better off now. Good riddance.
Treat me like the Queen I am.
Objection, Your Honor. The witness is purporting facts not in evidence.
@First-light A sticking plaster indeed, agreed.
Neoliberalist two-income family has been proven a scam. They turned women into workers, in the process introducing chaos in the workplaces. Even pro-capitalist media acknowledge the rise of the "toxic" workspace. And men are being chastised for not being able to tolerate female-invaded spaces and opting out.
In the end if you want to reproduce, you need to be able to afford it.
That's true, but the current situation, where about all workers and, increasingly, the middle class are unable to afford reproduction, has been socially engineered. "Neoliberalism" about sums it up.
I think it varies by circumstance a bit. Either one ignores it and logs it as information to build up a picture of the girl as part of on going vetting (because in life we never really get to the end of vetting, people and relationships evolve and one needs to keep up with the present) or one has to deal with it in a non confrontational setting out of boundary.
What you don't want to do is let her see if it shakes you up. Its the breaking frame thing that is to be avoided.
"So you are talking to a cute guy?" "Would you mind if I talked to girls I found cute?"
It then depends what talking means -a chat at the office water cooler or when wiping the bar down at the gym is not like going for coffee, texting daily or something more intense than just talking when life makes your paths cross. Its your boundaries in the end you have to set them where it is both reasonable for her and comfortable for you. She can't avoid guys talking to her in daily life and its good to know who she finds cute as information in case of later issues and to understand what attracts her anyway but you also need working boundaries.
Anyway, just don't freeze up or sperg out. You can always come back to it later but the sequence is Maintain control of yourself without sounding at all upset, Get information in a comfortable non upset way (the more relaxed she is the more information she will reveal), Having got information set fair and realistic boundaries as appropriate.
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