My woman is my subordinate, but more importantly, my woman is my object. Detractors may think that a truly strong Captain/First Officer arrangement is dangerous or harmful, rather than natural and mutually rewarding. They’re wrong on all levels. I maintain control of my woman and our lives to be sure that we’re both on a track that rewards us, and harms neither. If I were to go too far in any behavior that others could legitimately term as dangerous/harmful, I could undermine all the investments I have made in her. If I were to consistently do anything less than what she needs, and to benevolently decide to give her what she wants (not what she merely thinks she wants) when appropriate, I endanger the relationship.

I have a defined sense of ownership, as do many men. We all have our pet interests, hobbies, and property. The things good men care about, we treat well and with respect. Why wouldn’t we? It’s our property. We expend time, energy, and resources to responsibly foster both the investment in the property and bolster our personal enjoyment. Egalitarian women expect all the benefits of a man with a SENSE of ownership toward them without any of the structure and responsibility to the man who considers himself her owner. Like feminism, they expect all the benefits of being a woman (leaning on our strengths, access to our resources) and of being a man (being given power, being paid deference to) within this context.

Women are not objects, but my woman is my object. My woman is my property. She is the object of my affection, my time, my sexuality, my trust, and my resources. She earns this with her role, her behavior, her deference, and her respect. She is my treasured investment, and though I have all the power, I have every reason to never abuse my power.

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