Just getting this off my chest, I scrolled through the sidebar a bit before writing this. If this isn't something the TRP addresses Mods feel free to delete it I won't be salty. I've been lurking this website for years.

I am a 26 year old male (USA). I've been feeling inescapable levels of anhedonia the past two years and reading through tons of TRP, Looksmaxing, and self improvement hasn't really helped me get passed it.

In terms of my story I grew up somewhat poor (both of my parents were bad with alcohol and my Dad and I did not have the best relationship). After high school I packed up and went to college in a medium sized city (Metro w/slightly under a million people). Unfortunately, I ran out of money quick and had to resort to fulltime work + community college. Due to financial issues and academic difficulties I didn't manage to get my nursing degree until I was 25 years old despite starting the degree fresh out of high school.

My life after high school graduation was pretty fucking miserable. I worked shit jobs at hotels and restaurants to get by, complete loner with 0 friends, and ran up credit cards. When I graduated nursing school I had $22k in student loans + $7k in credit card debt.

When I graduated I was dead broke. So much so that I moved back in with my mother in the small town that I came from so that I could get my finances right. I got two jobs (1 at a nursing home + 1 at the hospital) and grinded both of them for a whole year. Was able to pay off all of my debt, buy a new car cash, and still save quite a bit of money. I also discovered looksmaxing around this time (lost 60lbs to get to 12% bodyfat, clear skin, white teeth etc...) I ended up sleeping with several coworkers (I know TRP is vehemently against this but I was a 25 year old virgin ready to experience sex and some of them made it too easy).

I know this sounds great and I've made large amounts of progress but truth be told I haven't felt any sort of consistent happiness since before the pandemic. I don't wake up enthusiastic about life (I hate bedside nursing like a motherfucker and nothing else interests me). I don't have a large friend group despite me being a friendly person. I've never experienced having a girlfriend (When I was struggling financially in college I was too broke to justify it + I'm embarassed that I live with my mom right now).

TLDR: I can't understand or get to the bottom of why I feel so miserable and uninspired. While paying off debt got me some freedom, I don't feel like an accomplished person or proud of myself. I workout daily. I work hard at my job and my coworkers all praise me for how well I do with my patients. No matter what I have to drag myself to do anything. In terms of other men I just feel like I don't relate to them or have the same sense of humor. My mother believes that I should move to a real city but I have no clue where should I even go. How do I fall in love with life again?

First off. Very well done! Honestly, who cares that she was a terrible slut when you are no longer saddled with the self imposed stigma of being a late virgin. The mental block is gone.

Be kind to yourself. Its the trashy ones who find it easier to get through the barrier of your virgin uncertainty and inexperience. Funny that I was just writing in my last reply to you how it was only the trashy ones who had come to me when I was too awkward to actually go make a move. Trashy girls have sex with far more guys, so odds on for anything but a top 20% guy, 90+% of easy sex is with trashy girls.

Its actually very hard to get an STD. I am a raw dog only guy but I never got one. Were you ever vaccinated against HPV virus? This is the big slow burn risk with oral sex on women. HPV virus can lead to cancer later. Gives women cervical cancer, so younger ones tend to vaccinated but if neither of you were, its a risk with a slut.

Headspace wise, just chill. There is nothing you need to do now. Its a huge step and also nothing has really happened. You broke through an invisible mental barrier but because it was an invisible mental barrier it was only significant to you. So just relax a bit. It was all in your head. There is nothing you have to do. Now life goes on. If you don't catch oneitis, life probably gets better too. If you get all excited and catch onitis, I promise you it is going to get a lot worse before it gets better. Better to catch a STD than oneitis!

You have a perfect opportunity now to walk away without having to try to have a relationship with her. Many guys get saddled with trying to have a relationship with a low value girl (either low value from looks, personality, sanity or trashiness) that they lose their virginity to, when really all they needed to do was lose their virginity and then upgrade but they get trapped by oneitis. You can just say you don't feel comfortable with someone seeing other guys so no thanks, bye. Sorted.

Yeah when they are not invested, the emotional leakage of truth in "jokes" is phenomenal. Later on when they become invested the stream of joked truth gets a lot dryer. Just don't get oneitis and you won't need to find this out.

I like that the traits she lists that she thinks makes her desirable are considered the "bare minimum" that a guy has to meet to even qualify to meet some 300lb divorced single mom. Let's see:

-Lots of friends -> yeah, any guy who doesn't demonstrate the ability to maintain friendships is automatically considered a serial killer

-cool hobbies -> don't we all? Also, I highly doubt men think your hobbies are cool. List them if you want us to decide if they are or not.

-active lifestyle, above average health/fitness -> incels get told all the time to hit the gym. A six pack is the new bare minimum for men's fitness, while that 300lb woman is now considered living her best life.

-above average attractiveness -> pics or GTFO. No person, man or woman, these days, risks a woman's wrath by telling her whether her jeans actually make her ass look fat. Meanwhile, men get shamed daily for not meeting fashion and beauty standards; standards, incidentally, set by a fashion industry dominated by women and gay dudes.

-a good job, own a house, no kids -> Like I said, bare minimum for a man not be shamed as some Peter pan man-baby and laughed out of the room for even thinking he's worthy of being "worthy" of a "real woman".

-i'm funny, thoughtful, able to have a decent conversation -> Then why don't you play dancing monkey for once? It's always been the guy's obligation to maintain a conversation, while the woman sits there and judges you like they're at a fucking olympic figure skating contest, and they're the gold medal. Otherwise, a woman says she doesn't feel a spark and moves on to the next dude willing to buy her a dinner for the privilege of auditioning to buy her another one. This is true even with OLD. Bumble became notorious that even though they required women to send the first message, almost the only thing women would send was "hi" and expect the man to actually initiate the conversation with something witty. Meanwhile decrying men who similarly send template messages to their matches. And notably, Bumble recently dropped the requirement that women must message first. I guess being funny and thoughtful was too high a standard for most women to meet.

By her own standards, her match should be a guy who women dismiss as barely meeting the bare minimum. A nerdy accountant who maintains a tolerable BMI and can string two sentences together. And that's before bringing in her age. And yet, somehow, I doubt that's the type of guy she's willing to accept while complaining there are no good men left.

Mods have been talking for the past week on this. Posts seeking validation for things you already believe in disguised as a question seeking advice will be locked and removed on sight

This includes humblebrags disguised as seeking help

At best it's just validation farming and not a serious desire to get answers, at worst it's intentional trolling and will be treated as either.

The posts in question were already locked and removed so if yours wasn't don't assume.

Examples (not all-inclusive):

I'm seeing this smoking hot unicorn virgin who has never spoken to a man before, she seems dtf how to not mess this up (close enough to a real post that was locked and removed)

I'm rich and jacked and I fuck a ton of women but I'm getting bored of it, how to enjoy variety (yes I've actually seen that shit on here before)

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