@Bozza >She then puts on the fake shock face "Bozza!". Didn't really think much of it at the time, but her demeanor subtly changed after that. Nothing terrible, but I think the subtext of "you can be replaced" did upset her though she didn't want to show it.

If she ever comes back to it I'd gaslight "I said it? No way, why would I do it? remind me what did you say'. With pressure flip. Her qoting her threat shouldn't be appealing to her and she should drop the subject out of discomfort.

If she doesn't feel discomfort thinking about quoting her threat and then dropping the subject, then she gives some more information about her character.

She might also try to lie but then I'd say 'I dont remember but it is not that, try again', she probably knows by then you know and only toying with her.

The downside of 'then go' it might sound butthurt.

By saying please in these circumstances you have invited problems.

I'd go for funny amplify and use please on interactions next time. But postfactum.

Mid-Skullfucking while choking her with a dick and holding down - can I throat fuck you please? I will be real gentle, please. Etc

Might depend on a girl and a frame

@Bozza

I'm going to agree with @vermilion-Rx nothing you said sounds outlandish. As long as Don't then. came out with an undertone of playfulness.

What I've said in similar situations would be pretty much the same. Implying if you no longer want to come, so be it.

But I've spent years taking the condescending, annoyance out of my tone.

if they think you are absolutely dead serious

If I had a nickel for ever time a woman took a clearly sarcastic joke at face value...

Women are so solipstic that they will sometimes fully absorb a joke as reality

Yes, you almost have to find grounding facts to individually bring each girl back to reality.

Example my girl has some food allergies and if I really need her to understand something isn't serious, I'll throw in let's go get peanuts which lets her knows I'm fucking around because we both know it would kill her.

That's how aggressive you need to be if you deliver your response deadpan. My girlfriend bitches that my tone never changes from when I'm being serious versus sarcastic.

@Vermillion-Rx So example with plate 1 the other day.

I told her to wear a nice lingerie set for me. She decided to get a little bratty/playful and wanted me to say please. So I yielded "please". She then pushed further "say the full sentence". Which I wasn't gonna do, so I just kinda dismissed that.

As expected, she shows up in lingerie. But plays her own little punishment game - "I would have worn the suspenders if you'd have been polite". Again, some mild cheeky response back.

She pushes this little shit test about me "not being polite" a few times over the evening. Again, all pretty mild and I just reinforce that she does what she's told.

Then before she left I can't remember exactly what she said. But it was a shit testing my authority.

I came up with some witty clap back, to which she says "Well, maybe I just won't come back then". And looks at me playfully.

I fired back "Don't then".

She then puts on the fake shock face "Bozza!". Didn't really think much of it at the time, but her demeanor subtly changed after that. Nothing terrible, but I think the subtext of "you can be replaced" did upset her though she didn't want to show it.