@skylerclooney

Need perspective on my situation

Hey everyone, I’m new here and wanted to put my story out because I’ve been carrying this around and could use some outside perspective. I met a girl about a year ago, and from the start we clicked in a way that felt different. We spent a lot of time together, shared plans, and she really made me feel like I’d found something serious. But lately things have shifted. She’s become distant, cancels plans often, and when we’re together it feels like her attention is somewhere else. I’ve tried to bring it up without sounding needy, but she brushes it off with "I’m just busy." I can’t figure out if I should keep putting effort in, give her more space, or take the distance as a sign that it’s time to move on. I know emotions can cloud judgment, so I’d like to hear from people who’ve been in similar situations. How do you decide when it’s worth fighting for and when it’s smarter to walk away?

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@MrSupreme

Finally getting back in the game - FR

I wrote a field report a few weeks ago on the first date I've gone to in years,this one is about the last 2 dates with the same girl.

Here's what you should know about her:

• Single mom of 4, the 2 daddies are out of the country,only one keeps in touch with the kids and she's happy they're out her life.
• 32 years old,mid face, slim,feminine,sexy and tskes good care of herself (puss too tight for 4 kids,wow)
• Is definitely a loner, only goes to work,then back home with the kids and her mum, does not go out unless it is with me,her kids have been on vacation and are coming back this week.
• Submissive,loving and affectionate but I'm getting love bomber vibes.

So I wrote the first FR after the 1st date, which was my first one in like 5 years. She keeps in touch daily, isn't not too needy but likes to talk about her day and say stuff. I'm not running a country here and i keep busy at work so I do have a phone call at night for a while, just chatting and getting hot and horny.

Second date was even hotter than the first, came home first, made out and got touchy,great small tits. Couldn't smash because too much people here so we went out for a walk and a meal.Talked a bunch about nothing and i had my favorite ice cream. Then back to my place at 8pm

We dont go inside the apartament, i knew the logistics were shit to smash that night(small apartment,mom and bro were around )so we stood outside,showed her around the park and we made out and got super horny for a while,lots of touching, made her hold my dick and took some pictures of her for my amateur photography hobby

I call her cab at 11pm and before she says bye,she says "te amo" and i ask her "did i hear that correctly?" she just nods and goes home. I remember saying out loud: "manipulative lady", lol i don't doubt I'm loveable but after 2 dates it is kind of soon,flattering though

So anyways,we talk about it,she says she just says what she feels and i say ok and i kinda love her too as in an "i love everybody" kind of way.No problems there since she's just expressing her stuff and i love that i wasn't asked to reciprocate, she gets +15 points for that. But Love Bomber detected (tick tock,this is not a LTR

The following week we talk,sbe has her period over the weekend (i can but i wont)and i make plans with another girl (i ghosted because she went from thicc to whale in her pictures). She gets bitchy and hangs my phone calls mid sentence, so i tell her im gonna scold her soon. So i tell her i don't wanna see her becsuse she's being like that, snd we dont meet last week She gets super sad,posting sad oictures of her and tells me she NEEDS to see me snd thst she loves me.She still makes contact snd tells me she likes being disciplined,just like i said i would.

Another week, daily contact,i see her getting dressed after shower,cute body.We meet yesterday She comes to my room,we lay in my bed for 3 hours getting intimate,blows me without me asking, has s very wet and tight snatch for a mother of 4.We get some lunch and come back to some talking and playing around.

She says she intends to keep going out with me,loves me,will miss me,i make her feel good,etc. Her kids will be in the picture soon and we'll see how stuff changes after that, i do not want to meet them and dates will only be with her.

I have been getting in touch with this last chick i wrote 5 years ago, feedback is good,already making plans to go out this week, she's around 26 and good looking.But doesn't use social media and getting in touch is hard so blah,may not do shit.

Glad to be out of my rut with a job I like and getting some female attention/contact despite it being hard since i don't go out much and mostly its dating apps. Will definitely approach in person when possible, but work is priority right now so just one plate is enough for me atm,because of time.

Study the book and consider also putting these field reports to your own journal you keep nearby at home.