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I’ve been on over a hundred dates the past year and a half. 50 percent don’t make it past first date whether it be me ending it or them.
Of the other 50% I’d say probably more than half end it with me or ghost me
I figure nothing to lose so I texted 4 girls that ghosted me in past few months and asked for feedback..
the exact answer was related to “I didn’t think you were really interested in me”
Keep in mind I pay for the dates, let them stay over, etc
How can I even overcome this? How do you seem non chalant/not needy while also displaying interest?
I had a girl end it today because she felt more “like friends”. I picture a fat ugly dude when I hear that - I don’t try to sleep with these women or do anything physical until like date 3/4 and only if it feels right. I’m basically not affectionate at all..
Read MoreFirst time in long time I have some abundance of pussy and I got to the point I schedule next meet, source new pussy, but I don't even feel like I need a fuck. I'm actually tired. Feels like I'm trying to eat during 7 fat years so it will last me 7 lean years.
Need to deal with that.
@First-light yeah I was being dramatic with the "blow to red pill" phrasing. But I do think this is a very different paradigm than models we've used that focus on male agency vs female hypoagency.
I don't think he's concluded any practical advice but it's a jumping off point for improving over the classic cold approach with a 99.99% failure rate.
@deeplydisturbed not one dimensional
We have built as people because we could stand up for our team/tribe. If he did it because pussy then not good. If he has strong morale and did it because tribe then he eventually shown not enough calibration to deal with stuff in modern times.
I had a small team that I took care of and looked out for them equally (to my perception). After 2y of not talking to each other dude from the team did me a favour, girl's husband remebered me after 2y and made me a cool offer after accidentally meeting and recognising me.
Sometimes good deeds actually pay off.
feeling like a clown?
OP focuses on his colleague HB and age so probably white knight, but...
It'll probably be a few hours (or even tomorrow) before I respond to my notifications and catch up on what I've missed on here.
I just want to say that August 2025 has been one of the strangest, most eventful months I've had in a long time.
I can't go onto too much detail due to doxxing concerns, but I'm glad this month is over.
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