@TulioHumanos

Is a complete withdrawal the right response in this situation?

Been with a girl for three dates off online dating. Didn't get to fuck or kiss her, but all the steps in the escalation ladder were done. Asked her on two dates, couldn't kiss her off those dates because she was repelling me. So I thought time to just withdraw cause not getting what I wanted. Told her to ask me out if she wanted to see me again, in a way giving her a last chance. Third date she brought up the "What are we?" chat in a negative light, she said when we spend time together she only sees me as a friend. Then gave some random cop out excuse.

I proceeded to tell her that I'm not interested in dating her anymore, and that when I cut things off I do it clean (never getting back together). I might have acted a bit beta after that and some of the things I said afterwards. But at the moment I genuinely never wanted to see her again. And I thought I'm not spending time on a girl who's basically admitting to me that she doesn't like me.

I'm kind of new to this kind of stuff. Was this the correct response or could I have handled it better?

UPDATE: fixed some grammar and clarified some things

When a chick isn't interested in you during a date to give you a kiss, there's not much reason for her to care that you're denying her your time and attention. Next time you go on a first date and a gal doesn't give you a kiss at the end, don't second guess your gut instincts and ask for another date. Just accept that she's not interested and move on. Sometimes that's not shyness, she's just not into you like that.

In the meantime, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@joyboy

Missed opportunity?

Cute customer came in to my store today. While I was ringing her up she was kinda giggling and staring into my soul, talking about random shit. Didn’t think much of it but after she left I told my female coworker I thought she was cute and she said she probably thought you were cute too. (I guess girls have a better eye for this stuff which seems obvious).

The customer came back in a while later to buy another item she said she didn’t want. Then she started talking about how there was a guy following her and how she wanted somebody to walk her to her car, like mall security but she said she couldn’t find any (which seemed sus since they’re always walking around and highly visible).

I told her I would’ve offered to walk her myself but I’m on the clock right now (my poor attempt at flirting) and she was like ohhh ok, maybe I’ll just wander around until the mall closes until I see a security guard, thank you tho.

What do you guys think?

Pretty much. Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

Missed opportunity?

Cute customer came in to my store today. While I was ringing her up she was kinda giggling and staring into my soul, talking about random shit. Didn’t think much of it but after she left I told my female coworker I thought she was cute and she said she probably thought you were cute too. (I guess girls have a better eye for this stuff which seems obvious).

The customer came back in a while later to buy another item she said she didn’t want. Then she started talking about how there was a guy following her and how she wanted somebody to walk her to her car, like mall security but she said she couldn’t find any (which seemed sus since they’re always walking around and highly visible).

I told her I would’ve offered to walk her myself but I’m on the clock right now (my poor attempt at flirting) and she was like ohhh ok, maybe I’ll just wander around until the mall closes until I see a security guard, thank you tho.

What do you guys think?