@Vermillion-Rx *titties... bloody autocorrect! I also had to hyphenate pay-pig in another thread so it didn't get changed to PayPal with no option to fix it back.
@Vermillion-Rx lol yeah the unfortunate truth for women in high Cardio sports is, the title are the first to go!
I once dated a woman who had gotten really into diet and exercise after living as a Big Girl most of her life. The first time she took off her bra, it revealed the most absolutely sad pair of titles I ever saw in my life. She later proved to also act mean and spiteful, and also had not worked through her body image issues. Dating plump but not uptight-about-it women was always MUCH more enjoyable and satisfying. Feeling every rib like a xylophone as you caress her in clothes isn't my idea of Peak Woman.
I've been exclusive with a woman I had previously been involved with some years ago, this time for a few months. It wasn't long after ending things with the girl in my last post. It seemed like a really great idea at the time... you know how that goes...
She's an awesome woman for the most part: sex as much as I want, kinky, fun to spend time with, easy to get along with, great body, cute, smart, driven, good income. Her biggest issue is that she is very anxious, and will anxiety dump on me about relationship insecurities among other things; she had a rough childhood. But as with every woman I've dated (no matter how hot), the call of the strange eventually beckons. I commonly have exposure to a handful of 9's/10's (teachers, nurses, a social worker, etc.), all of whom I would bet money would go out for a drink if I asked. It wasn't like this years ago before I lifted, was less unattractive, and was decent at game.
I have the ambition to, in time, have children and start a family, and this is something she is very serious about as well. I'm late 20s, she is early/mid 20s, so it makes sense for her to be in a rush about it. But at the same time what guy doesn't fantasize about hot young nurses and teachers that you could possibly close? It almost seems like abundance, confidence, and consistent previous success have gotten me to the point where once the honeymoon phase wears off, the lack of scarcity has set in a sense of interchangeability to girls and removed risk of loss.
To answer my own question, the counterargument to that is that women are neither Madonna's nor whores, and so if you could see yourself in a shared life with one, kids in the picture, then go for it, warts and all. That is, if kids are the goal. They'll all have warts of some kind.
On the other hand, one could easily say, why not spin plates for longer? Sow your wild oats? My fear there is giving up on a girl with flaws I can deal with who has a lot going for her.
I fear this post comes off like a huge "should I?" and I do not mean it as such. I ask of the older, more experienced men here that may be able to offer wisdom further down the pipe, what have you learned in hindsight? The answer may be "figure out what you want," and if so, fair enough. Either way, thanks guys.
Whatever you ultimately decide, you don't need our permission or approval to do it. Study the book, take care of yourself, and pursue what you're after in your time with this chick.
If you decide that she's all you need in that area of your life, then educate yourselves on what's required to make it work, and try to lay down a solid foundation upon which the relationship can be built. If you're not certain you're ready to settle down, or still debating settling down at all, then be clear with her in that regard so your conscience is clear going forward.
Read MoreHow to handle bitch tried to manipulate me?
in the past, several times in the talking stage, I met some girls who tend to be manipulative, I'm aware of AWALT, all girls are manipulative, but I could say this was in a worse possible manipulation. I know people in this forums proly will assume it as a shit test and give me advice to do amused mastery or any that will pass her shit tests, but I guess there is a thin line between giving shit tests and manipulating me to do as she wanted (in this scenario, its more like obvious disrespect).
The pattern that I got was usually the girl act flirty / submissive in the first phase, once I try to escalate they tend to withdraw, then sometimes threw some random tantrums, personal insults to me (tried to belittle me), and from what I've seen, they assumed I already have a feeling for her after acted flirty, so they "expected" me to give her attention or ask whats wrong when they withdraw or doing any stupid tantrums, which I didn't do. Most of the times, I ignore it. At this point, I still assumed it as she was giving me a shit test. As I wasn't affected at all by her actions, I overheard her talking to her friend that she was frustrated that I did not give her "angry" reaction, and I assumed as a "win". Then unexpectedly, she was gaining allies with her friends, flipped the script like she was the victim. Yeah even her friends believed her, tried to sue me and spread the narrative. I know where this was possibly going, they could tell to my supervisor like she was the victim. At this point, my mind was telling me this is enough, and this is just obvious disrespect. I called her behavior, then she flipped the script again, and called me too sensitive which I ignored, and then reminded her again to not throw any stupid tantrums. After that, I rarely talked to her and kept it super formal and act like I was submissive beta (not doing what she wanted but more like not doing any teasing just keep it super formal), so she got bored and won't manipulate me again. Didn't do any teasing or what so ever after that scenario. It was a non formal work context 1 year ago, but I already left it.
I've seen a lot of women did this in work contexts so they just barely doing any work, and let the beta doing the work for her (which I fucking hate it). From what I've seen, TRP advised to game all women, but sometimes I have hard times differing shit tests and disrespect. Those 2 contexts are best responded as same as responding shit test, but at what costs? I dont think its worth it if I deal with women who tend to have any underlying issues that lead me to unwanted serious scenario like the above. Did I do the right thing by doing all of that?
Adding to that, from my observation, I assumed she has some NPD tendencies, which why she tried to manipulate me. I know, any behavior that called the NPD behavior just make things worse and they wont admit it. Thats why I ignore them (which also the proper response to those shitty behavior), just act like I was submissive to her even though I feel like beta shit sometimes, but after time, I feel like I wanted to do revenge toward that stupid bitch, feeling upset, feeling angry, but those kind of reactions if I were doing that, it's guaranteed to make things worse toward NPD. Relating to that, I have NPD mom, which made me a codependent beta man when I was high school, but called it out to my mom and lashed it all out after I realized my mom often did any NPD behavior since I was a child.
Due to that, whenever I met any NPD girls (which was a clear red flag, but it was unseen at first), my PTSD triggers me and I always want to lash them which is not proper response and they could immediately play the victim card, but if I didnt do anything that could attack the NPD, my mind always goes crazy telling me, "why didn't you lash at her so she could face the consequences??". I know a bit personal, but I just fucking hate it whenver it was work context, but there was a crazy bitch that plays this game and she knows she could flip the script anytime.
Is it just my ego trying to dominate her shitty behavior? I already knew if "ignore" was the proper answer to face NPD, but after I rarely meet the person again I always feel angry that I should have made her feel the consequences.
Consider reading How to Deal with Narcissists: Why They Became Evil, How They Think, and Strategies and Techniques to Take Control. Best of luck to ya.
Read MoreThe code behind the Matrix is plain to see now. They’re not even hiding it anymore. It used to be wrapped in a thin veil of plausibility, but the powers that be have gotten lazy and now say the quiet part out loud. A Thread
+ Isn't it strange how every independent government made the same move to de-anonymize the internet at the exact same time? You can barely even hear the words "for the children" drip out of their salivating mouths as they immediately crack down on dissent.
+ Companies like google jump at the opportunity to implement ID verify, not only to improve their product (you) to their true customers (advertisers), but also to raise higher barriers that make it harder for competitors to enter the market.
They run when they have cover.
+ Nothing is safe online. Every major service gets hacked. Attaching ID to ideas and speech will absolutely have a chilling effect. Design, not bug.
"Nothing to hide" is the common refrain from first-order-thinkers and undercover operatives. Almost as token of a phrase as "protect the children." Anybody uttering these words plans to take your rights by force.
+ They'll link your viewing habits and online comments to your ID, building a kompromat dossier. They'll hide their sources and use parallel construction to invent pretext for crimes they've already decided you've guilty of.
Free speech as you know it will be effectively dead.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=VdasbLKm4s0
Read MoreRead MorePuer Aeternus - criticism on the Red Pill
Today I came across an interesting video by HealthyGamerGG which discusses aspects of young people today never fully growing up and always striving to live a fantasy life - puer aeterni - or in English - eternal boys, a concept developed by Carl Jung.
Some of the remarks did resonate with me and my own behavior, especially when I was younger.
This person criticizes the Red Pill and even mentions terms like spinning plates, non-committance, as basically just being the inability to take responsibility for life and not accepting that life is not always fun and games. In other words, he argues that what guys do with “spreading the seed, being an alpha male” is basically just a rationalization for being psychologically stuck in childhood. He touches upon a term called Don Juanism, which was described in a psychology book 100 years ago, which basically, as I understand, means catching oneitis for new girls, which would be the opposite of red pill though.
I think that he accurately explains the majority of people initially coming to places like this forum here, however, it misses the mark of the end goal of red pill that people teach here - complete self-reliance and absence of seeking external validation/detachment.
In summary, he argues that the red pill is actually blue pill, since we live in fantasy land, while the real red pill is to work a boring life and accept that that is what life is.
Rant begins around 47:00:
https: //www. youtube. com/watch? v=e0ec2-E5Xq8
They'll link your viewing habits and online comments to your ID, building a kompromat dossier. They'll hide their sources and use parallel construction to invent pretext for crimes they've already decided you've guilty of.
Free speech as you know it will be effectively dead.
Nothing is safe online. Every major service gets hacked. Attaching ID to ideas and speech will absolutely have a chilling effect. Design, not bug.
"Nothing to hide" is the common refrain from first-order-thinkers and undercover operatives. Almost as token of a phrase as "protect the children." Anybody uttering these words plans to take your rights by force.
Companies like google jump at the opportunity to implement ID verify, not only to improve their product (you) to their true customers (advertisers), but also to raise higher barriers that make it harder for competitors to enter the market.
They run when they have cover.
Isn't it strange how every independent government made the same move to de-anonymize the internet at the exact same time? You can barely even hear the words "for the children" drip out of their salivating mouths as they immediately crack down on dissent.